TALK TO ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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LAST NIGHT I WAS WATCHING GREASE FOR THE 200 TIME AND I WAS LAUGHING AT THE GIRLS GOING CRAZY OVER THE BIKERS AND HOW THEY WANT TO BE WITH THE BAD BOYS SO BAD. SO THAT CREATED MY TOPIC FOR TODAY. WHY DO GIRLS LOVE BAD BOYS? I MEAN ITS KNOWN WHAT COMES WITH THE TERRITORY 9 TIMES OUTTA 10 THEY GOT MORE THAN 1 GIRL  AND CAN’T SEEM TO STAY OUTTA TROUBLE. ALL THE THINGS THAT I HEAR GIRLS COMPLAINING ABOUT BUT THEY STILL FALL. LADY’S WHAT IS IT ABOUT BAD BOYS THAT YOU LOVE ?

TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  1. It’s all about the thrill of diggin into the excitement a bad boy has going on. They aren’t the ones u settle down with, just the ones you ride the thrill with and have some fun. It brings out the bad girl is all of us too! There is something mysterious about a bad boy too and we want in on that!

  2. STONEY OCEAN (FINALLY A TOPIC I CAN SPEAK BTW GREASE IS MY FAV MOVIE!) SIMPLE ANSWER IS GIRLS LIKE BAD GUYS BECAUSE WE LIKE TO THINK WE CAN TURN THEM INTO GOOD GUYS!

  3. HAY JD WATS THE BEST PHONE U FUCKING WIT IM HEADED BACK TO THE STATES AND I NEED SOMETHING THAT I CAN BE UP ON LIKE TWITTER FACEBOOK MYSPACE GLOBAL 14 LOL ETC HIT ME BAK I KNOW U GOT A LOTA PHONES BUT WHAT ONE U LIKE THE MOST THATS WHAT IM GON GET

  4. I think for the ladies that do it it’s because no one wants to be seen with the square dude or the guy no one thinks is popular even though he would be the one that would beable to take care of you in the end.

  5. I agree w/Kenatta, but I also thing girls/women like bad boys because they feel secure w/them. Like if anything pops off they are protected. All women want to feel secure!

  6. Its because good guys are predictable and what you see is what you get. Women like puzzles (we say we don’t but we do) We want to put all the pieces together in hopes that we’ll get a picture that we like.

  7. THE EDGE! Its the EDGE! Girls like a lil adventure, and thats why sometimes we get wrapped up in the bad boy. The other thing is, we’ve consistently been taught while growing up that we are to be nurturers, so some women think they can make a man their project and change him. Thats just my two cents! =)

  8. The fact is MOST bad boys have sugar on their tongee. But lots of girls like them because of the thrill of being with guys who would do things they would not usually do. Its different.

  9. Its an exciting challenge and ur right you know the territory but its a lesson as well…it helps you identify DOGS quickly later and makes you appreciate having a good man when he comes!

  10. “BABY BATTER” REPORTING IN! WELL FIRST OFF I DONT LIKE BAD BOYS THEY WOULD GIVE ME A HEADACHE AND I AINT GOT TIME FOR DUMB SHIT! ANYWAYS GIRLS LIKE BAD BOYS BECAUSE A LOT OF WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO THE THRILL THAT THEY NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE. BAD BOYS BRINGS OUT THE BAD GIRL. PLUS A LOT OF IT HAS TO DO WITH SELF-ESTEEM. THEY SETTLE FOR BULLSHIT!

  11. feeling the site definetly want more. Ya’ll get me through my midshifts at work when there is nothing to do. Whats up with da brat how is she doing? Send her my best, still a die hard fan. Big ups to trey songz, got that ready and loving it. Doing ya’ll thing getting the Mixtape next

  12. Bad boys are interesting and exciting to be with. Good guys are comfortable and don’t usually spice things up. It’s always the same boring things with them.

  13. I love Grease!!!! One of my favorites as well. I think that some girls like the bad boys because they’re so rebellious. Don’t care what other people think about them. Rule breakers…and that turns us on a bit. We all want to be that “bad bitch” standing right next to them.

  14. We like bad boys becuz we know that at the end of the day we won’t be with them but for the time being they will keep u busy with their bullshit!!.. Also to see if the p*ssy power can change them to what u would want in a real man.. But at the end of the day we KNOW what we are getting into but choose to blind ourselves from the truth..but its all good cuz we ALWAYS bounce back!

  15. Only the immature feel like that. Once you’ve gone through all the bull it makes you stronger and wiser. You learn to appreciate the finer thinks in life.

  16. All. Women want 2 be protected! But on the other hand the bad boyz have swag and swaqg can take. You a long way. This is just an opinion.

  17. Bad boys just know all the right things to say to get you.It’s not that go out looking for someone that’s no good for us.I mean most of the time you can tell he’s a player.If your a good girl you start to see how sweet he is around you,THEN you get to thinking maybe just maybe you can change his ways.-Or- sometimes he changes you.Got you doing things you never imagined yourself doing.

    Until you find out he’s got a couple of you around.

  18. I think ,coming from a male point of view, that girls dig bad boys because of the risk involved. Like me myself Im a pretty boy/thug so Im like a happy ass medium between hood niggas and carlton banks niggas. I had a girl tell me once that I wasnt man enough for her, so i said aside from me having a dick and a deep voice tell me where to buy the essentials in a “man enough” kit. shit! Girls need to realize erybody is not trapping and there are some good dudes out here working corporate and legal jobs. But then those wall street niggas want hood chicks so hell i dont know [throws hands up]

  19. I’ve seen the men in my life put their women through enough heartache to last 10 lifetimes, so I’m cool on the bad boy stuff. From what the women tell me they like the challenge of breaking them. I haven’t seen it happen yet. When they first come crying to me I tell them all the same thing “Leave him alone. He’s not changing for you or anyone else. If you stay you deserve everything you get.” Of course they never listen, get crushed and then become men haters.

  20. Bad boys make u feel safe. No matter where u go with him u feel like u will be ok. When a bad boy loves u he loves hard.

  21. I Personally like “Bad Boys” because it turns me on. It’s something about a man ruff handling me (not in the actual abusive way) becomes a turn on. Having a bad Boy is like being in the Dark. Reserved Ladies usually don’t let the Sexier/wilder side of them out until you turn off the lights in the bedroom. Like Heathsa said Bad Guys Brings the Bad Girl out of females on a more regular basics. Thats how i personally view it. I could write more but my Fingers hurt. =)

  22. It’s the excitement, the taboo, the prospect of domesticating the bad boy, of saving the “the bad boy who has a good heart deep down.”

  23. LOVE GREASE!!!
    **i think for the majority of women it’s exciting to be with someone who is exciting and also some women want 2 be the one who can change him…

  24. Minnie Got the Exact point.. The Challenge of breaking a Bad Guy down also has a lot to do with the reasoning for liking Bad Boys.

  25. I agree with Nikki, I do not like or desire to be with a bad boy….They are headaches and a waste of time!!

  26. ……their big egos ….pow!

  27. I love how edgy they are..a bad guy always turn me on its just something special about them that can’t really be explained

  28. I think with bad boys we just luv there swag an any woman who thinks they won’t be sharing him with seven other females are an ass for assuming that bad boys just do that thing that these other dudes won’t do to you for me am speakn sexually they know when where an what to say an at the end of the day it’s up to the woman to say she’s commiting herself cause bad boys don’t commit to any one but we luv each an every one a yall

  29. Oh yea grease is my MOVIE!!!! I always sing along!hahahhah

  30. The same reason guys like strippers over plain janes

  31. girls like bad guys becuz we need a man thats not soft and by him being completely opposite of us is more attractive.

  32. First thing is it’s about protection, they make you feel like if anything happens they are going to handle it. Second the sex is going to be rough,hard and sweaty, those are some of things don’t think they can get from a regular guy. A lot of girls like the drama the bad boys bring because if she can out suck, out screw the other girls and be available anytime he wants he will finally choose her and drop the other girls.

  33. The funny thing about this topic, is that I’m dating somebody who I guess you can say is into bad boys, no homo. Maybe yall could help me out with this one, cause I’m really feelin this chick tough. She says she kind of confuse in the way she feel about me. She tells me that im hella sweet, and that I treat really good. But she just doesn’t know what she really feels about me. She told a couple of her patnas that I was too nice. Usually Im something like a player, but the thing is she aint on me like the rest of em. So she intrigues me a little bit. We’ve know each other for a couple months now. We’ve been on few dates, I have not hit yet. We messed around a little bit, when the both of us were very highly intoxicated. We met through mutual friends. So OCEANS, help a lifer out what should I do. Oh yeah another important note, she has never called me or initiated a date or to kick it. The role I play with her, I guess you could say sweet, but very cocky. Once again OCEANS, I NEED YOUR HELP!!!!!!!

  34. ….i agree with SWEETDEE …hahaha ..POW! POW! POW!

  35. I think it’s just the swag like forreal. Bad Boys have that serious swag that just screams “I’m the shit” so ladies fall in line with it even though they know better. Also, some females look for the good in a dude and pretend like a bad boy can be more than what he is, when usually he can’t.

  36. neva been into the whole bad boy thing or the thug look. i dont want a cornball but dont WANT or NEED the baggage or drama of a bad boy!!

  37. MOST of the bad guys are SEXY, right? well if you have him treat em good maybe he will change…i know i dont pick and choose. i go for whoever has a good personality.

  38. Just like a man a woman loves a challenge most. To say you got the baddest nigga out the city wifein’ you to some chicks that means some major. Its a status, thrill and roller coasta ride a woman who can handle it(or cant n think she can), deals with when dealin’ with a bad boy. That Lie to Me Neyo joint expains it as well, the bad boy can be the best man she ever knew (swag,sex,spoiling her) and liein’ to her like bad boys do, is what tells one shes still special at least he “lied”…. it does somthin 4 the womans ego to tell her girls or keep it 2 herself if (shes a solid chick) shes fuckin the baddest nigga: )

  39. being with a bad boy brings excitement, granted it may not always be good excitement, but it is still some kind of excitement

  40. Man I have 2 chime in…I’m gettin a little pissed at all these chix admitting tht they r stupid, but when u tell them tht u get all kinds of reasons and excuses for them dating the “bad guy”…I think it falls more on the “I ca change him” factor than nething….I have walked both lines, when I was the bad boy it was a lot easier 2 float between women cuz they didn’t expect much…but being a good guy now chix seem 2 want 2 instantly lock me down…but I jus found it amusing tht all these women jus openly admit 2 being dummies

  41. I think it’s the mystery of not knowing what’s really gonna happen. Also it’s a challenge to see if you can change the ‘bad boy’ into a good one, which obviously isn’t possible unless he wants to change himself.

  42. Its the excitement that they bring. U are always told to stay away from the badboy but for some reason we think we can change them and it give you that thrill of being alive. You feel so protected with the badboy cause you know aint nobody gonna fuck with him and when he does fall for you it like he will shut anybody down that will disrespect you including family. Badboys do something to me you cant resist them. I think Johnta is a Badboy thats why I want him!!

  43. Deejaengo,

    On one hand, I would say just be yourself. If she wants to be with you it’ll come. You shouldn’t have to change your personality for anyone. Because the real you is going to resurface with time anyway. On the other hand, it’s a game in the beginning anyway so I think you should play it cool. Act like you aren’t as interested anymore but don’t be rude. Don’t call her, when you see her you see her. If you can’t resist, text her. She’ll wonder if something is wrong and maybe she’ll respond. Then you’ll kind of know where you stand. But when all is said and done, maybe she’s just not that into you.
    Just my 2 cents

  44. We all want someone we are compatible with and who we can relate to. I grew up around so called bad boys. It’s sad but I guess I sorta stuck to what I knew. I looked past the outside persona and took a look at his heart. There are so called good guys shocking the hell outta unexpected females on a daily basis. I say don’t count people out because of a facade or image, get to know them. What’s a good guy anyway?

  45. Let me 1st say I LOVE the movie Grease! Sandy did not meet Danny as a bad boy. I am 33 and I can say I only dated ONE bad boy in high school and he was killed in a drug deal gone bad and that was IT for me. I come from small town USA so it was a big deal. I thought his older brother was more of the true drug dealer so maybe I was in denial. I think grown women want a REAL man who can handle his business. I want a man who is confident in who he is it be a nerd, jock, church boy, reg joe etc. that is whats sexy!

  46. JD i think having a bad guy kinda makes life more fun! You know they are down for whatever and you always feel like they can protect you. Don’t get me wrong good guys are nice but bad guys make life more interesting!

  47. oh yeah and GREASE, that’s my SHIT!!!!! LOL

  48. Everyone is right as far a why some women like bad boys. I put it like this: a woman wants to feel protected and loved. I would say Jay-z would be a perfect example. He’s not the best looking brother but he can flip it from corporate to ghetto if he needs to. I want to feel like I can take you ANYWHERE and you can fit. If we go to a 5 star restaurant or a black tie event you got it on lock, but if we hanging out with the homies from the block or if there is an issue, you got that too. Hold my hand in public and pull my hair in the bedroom. I don’t want to have to be worried about if I’m gonna get a phone call from someone with drama. Don’t have time for that.

  49. It’s true that good girls like bad guys, however when you’re tried of dealing with a man who doesn’t respect you that feeling quickly changes. I went through that phase also, but now I’m just looking for a GOOD man who is trustworthy, respectable, and loves me unconditionally. I think as we get older our mentality about wanting a “bad” guy shifts, experience allows this transformation to take place. Nonetheless, All guys who potray a “bad boy” image on the outside arent’ horrible. Just because someone may appear to be a bad boy because of his style, or the neighborhood he’s from doesn’t mean that he is not a wonderful person. But those women who continue to stay with men who are defintely BAD as a person on the inside, could possibly be dealing with other issues such as self-esteem.

  50. I have 2 agree wit Mz.LTL…but I dnt think she described a badboy…jus a good ass man…and I think women get 2 hookd on the title “bad boy”…now I consider myself a “good guy” but tht doesn’t mean I’m boring or mundane and predictable…but I’m not wild and n2 dumb shit wit dumb drama…so I pose a question tht I saw what is a “bad boy”

  51. Ok let’s keep it real, we love bad boys cause 1. We know in the back of our head he gon’ fuck the shit out cha! Even if it aint good, he gon’ make sure u don’t have shit to back and tell nobody that’s negative. 2. That challenge that YOU are gonna be the main chick in his life. Cause 9 x’s outta 10 he done lead u to believe u was the shit! 3. We love a nigga that you fel like goes aganist the grain. Most single women have a nigga that they know will never be theirs and don’t really give a fuck, just as long as he come beat it up every now and then sshe straight! HE IS NOT HUSBAND MATERIAL!!!!

  52. I for one don’t like the bad boy’s. My friends label me as liking “squares” lol but I just happen to like gentlemen. I’m not saying that all bad boys aren’t gentlemen, but the bad boys that I have come in contact with are totally opposite of a gentlemen. I prefer the Michael Jackson (Top A gentlemen) type of man not the 50 cent type of man.

  53. JD wot up man iv tryn 2 gt thru 2 u so i wna join tha so so i kno im gud enuf n dude a 13 yr old rapa tht iz diz gud hi gon bring a lota stuf i jst need a chance man ima break evrithn 2 u down thru tha fone ma numba is 407-288-6288 n im in tha atl pls call mi n im redy 4 diz diz iz an oportunity dat i cnt watch pass mi bye……………………hola at yo boi, peace

  54. I don’t love no damn BAD BOYS because they are too much drama, but as a passing thing they can be more interesting and fun to deal with than a “good guy”….. until all the drama gets too tiring.
    The thing is that bad boys have better game, and they’ve had so much practice that they can get themselves out of any doghouse with very little effort.
    It kinda frustrates me cuz my sister is dating a “bad boy” and every other damn week she dumps him but then takes him back. He can act like a good guy when it suits him and I think that is what makes her stay, but for me personally that wouldn’t be enough & I told both of them that. There’s only so many “sorry’s” and excuses before a sorry SOB can get gone and stay gone and my basic rule of thumb for bad boys is………….you got 1 time to act up and then u can F up outta my face, like I said they are just too much drama to wanna deal with.

  55. i think its because their swaqq their whole demenor how they carry them selves itself is a turn on..i mean tha whole i dnt care bout this or that is appealinq to some females…now me personaly i used to be one that fell for tha bad boys..and i can honestly say even tho some brouqht me aome pain its tha thrill of everything..there swaqq is jus whoo…lol

  56. I dont really date bad boys because I have nothing in common with them. I like to date guys that I can be seen with and not have to worry about jumpoffs getting mad or a nigga tryna shoot up the car we are in. But I think the whole appeal of the bad boy is what most women are attrected to.

  57. All these girls dat want a bad boi sooner a later yall will be running back to me, Da GOOD GUY

  58. “GOOD GUYS” can be on the same level of BS as a bad boy especially when it comes to having more than 1 girl, it’s just that it takes us a little longer to figure out with them because it’s generally not expected.
    To me the only difference comes from the level of trouble and drama associated with either. Normally a good guy’s trouble doesn’t involve fights every other day, checking him at the hospital, dodging bullets, ghetto ass bitches tryin to fight you, or having to go see the bail bondsman to get his sorry ass outta jail. That’s IT!!!!!

  59. OKAY..Women like men that are gonna give them a challenge..not neccessarily someone whose bad to the bone …I cant have a man thats toooooo nice cuz that is a bit corny..I dont want a man to do everything i tell him to do, the way i tell him to and just go along with nething..I need a man to have his own mind and to be a man! I agree that sometimes on the downside we women pick men in a certain pattern…I used to fall for guys that were emotionally unavailable and i had to learn that something i was seeking in these men i missed in my relationship with my dad..Once i figured that out i fixed it…pretty much now..for me a guy has to be emotionally available..able to committ, loyal, fun, sexy and b motivated cuz i am not taking care of a man.. lol

  60. We want to be the one to try and CHANGE them! It’s the whole challenge and excitement that having a “bad boy” brings. We’re always saying that we want the “nice guy”, but then there’s always something missing and that is the drama that a “bad boy” brings. Sounds crazy and it makes little sense, but that’s just how it usually goes in my opinion.

  61. If you date a bad boy, you definately have self esteem issues. And also it depends on what kind of bad boy. I mean, what is it that makes him bad? If he has robbed a bank, killed someone or sells drugs then thats way to bad. If its just the type of guy that has that bad boy image only, then that’s not so bad. But If you are with a bad boy, does that give you the image of a bad girl? That’s something I would not want. To me bad girls can’t be sophisticated and classy. They can pretend to be that way and also be tacky. Jermaine, what do you and the Ocean 7 consider yourselves.? Are you a Bad Boy.

  62. You need to read “Thugs and the women who love Them” by Wahida Clark she breaks it all down for you!

  63. It’s the desire of a bad boy that intrigues me until I realize he only desires my physicality…..lol

  64. us women like bad boys for the excitement. no female wants to date an average dude.

  65. i had two bad relationships in high school and they were undercover bad boys and to be honest i did like that but the games and etc came along with it and i had to let that bullshit go the guy im with now we’ve been together since our senior year and he’s my boo lol long story short i got rid of my bad boys

  66. For me its not a bad boy..but more of someone that holds his own….tell me where we goin….dont ask me tell me ya know lol…but just someone who is confident,swaggalicious, and knows what he wants

  67. I saw one of the comments that a quiet guy is predictable. I’m sorry, have u heard the news lately. It’s seems that most of these crazy things are happening are from people who you would never expect it from, especially from these quiet guys… Let me refresh these girls memory. But do not condem me for what I’m about to throw at you. “The Colombine” – quiet person who was predictable right? These girls these days want the quick way of life. Fuck and wake up the next morning expecting others to feel sorry for them. In the end the quiet ones always win…

  68. Dick, thats all I can think of.

  69. Forget what everyones telln u JD there is only 2 real reasons. One them bad boys have mad swag they swag game is so crazy they can cheat n get away wit it. Two they can f@!k real good lol that’s all u need to know.. Everything else ppl is sayn is BS…

  70. Yo where is Kand and Anita at?

    Yo how crazy is this JD! I was watching that too and I thought the EXACT same thing.
    My conclusion is the Bad Guys get it because they stay on it. Women like a man who continues on with the thrill of the chase. Good guys don’t stay on too much longer after being shut down, hell good guys don’t know how to stay on so they don’t seem appealing. Good guys do’t have the same confidence that Bad guys have. The edge is what the women look for. The confidence. DiiGG!!

  71. REASON: People thrive on popularity!!! Bad Boys are KNOWN… EVERY1 knows them because they have a rep… chicks want there rep 2b… “damn she TAMED him she must b the SHIT”

  72. I THINK WE ARE TURNED ON BY THE BAD BOY BUT AT THE SAME TIME WE HATE IT BECAUSE WE ALREADY KNOW WAT WE ARE GETTING BUT WE ARE SO TURNED ON THAT WE FORGET THAT ITS NOT A RELATIONSHIP WE NEED IN OUR LIFE.

  73. Misery loves company with a bad boy… That’s what I think. But anyhoo Jd tell Usher I would like to go on a date with him…what do I have to do… I think he needs a good girl in his life hint hint me. I’m good looking 24 single lady, no kids, college grad, love to cook, and family oriented. This is probably not a good way to get him to notice me but don’t know how to let him know another way. Thank you Jd if you can send the message.

    -Nicole

  74. THESE HOES DONT LOVE BAD BOYS ANYMORE……ITS 2009 ….THEY LOVE RICH GUYS

  75. B/C some of them have this charismatic swag that women love. Their like a cute pair of shoes a size to small, you know their going to hurt but you buy them and wear them any way.

  76. Here is the “spiritual” side of the topic, women are born with the innate ability to “fix” it! Whatever the “it” is, man, situation, child whatever. She fools herself into believing that as long as she shows her loyalty to him that he will change. And she want to be there to share in what she sees as “potential” in a brother! We all see women with these type of guys complaining but refusing to leave.Why? It’s the POTENTIAL we are gifted to see in him! But my advice ladies is if he does not embrace it, walk away, cause u can’t fix what he does not believe is broken.

  77. Sorry, but i had to chime in. These chicks must’ve never been with anyone but bad boys. Good men are nowhere as soft and docile as y’all think. I think women get so used to getting shitted on, they don’t know a good man when he’s staring her right in the face.

  78. what the fuck constitutes a good guy as opposed to a bad boy anyway? a police record?

  79. TWO WORDS: GOOD D*CK!!

  80. i dont like bad guys i don’t like nerdy guys but not bad guys either
    i like good guys the reason other wome dont is that women are IDIOTS lol now that’s the truth there dumb and there idiots and complain about gettin hurt buy guys when you already know he cheated on every girl he’s been with
    trust a person for who they are not what you want them to be.

  81. What it is Jd! I guess u could put me in that good guy category but a nigga got swagg tho ya heard me…And to ya’ll girls out there callin the good guy boring and soft,u got a nigga twisted cause i’ll choke slam most of these so called bad boys out this bitch quick! Most of these niggas is fakin out this bitch anyway,but anyways it seems like its been like this since the beginning of time and it a never change…Im still gettin honeys tho but if that bad boy breaks ur heart (rubbing hands together) i’ll be right their waiting to make u #1!!!

  82. @ darkaqua33…stupidity

    Let me get something started I think most of the comments on here are crazy!! Before I go off I think JD needs to clarify what he means by Bad Boy. Does he really mean a player? Because there is a difference. A Bad Boy breaks the rules=jail time, no job, high school drop out, etc… A player has many women, which one are we talking about here?

  83. WOMEN LIKE TO BE DOMINATED, AND LIKE THE STRUGGLE OF GETTING YA MAN TO DO WHAT U WANT.. PLUS THEY KNOW THEY TALK SO MUCH SHIT, THAT THEY NEED A STRONG MAN TO WHOOP A MF’S ASS IF THEY GET TO OUT OF POCKET WITH HER.. BAD BOYS ARE JUST SEXIER, SO UN PREDICTIABLE.. WHO WANTS A LAME ASS NIGGA THAT’S GONNA DO WHAT YOU SAY, AND NEVER TALK BACK.. ME BEING GAY, EVEN I WANNA BE CALLED A BITCH SOMETIME… SCARE ME A LIL BIT, CAUSE IF YOU A BAD BOY, AND I TRY YOU.. THEN IM A BAD BITCH..

    WHO’S PROBABLY PAYING ALL THE BILLS, CAUSE THAT BAD BOY IS PROBABLY BROKE AS HELL, OR ABOUT TO GO JAIL.. LMAO!!!!!

  84. YESSSSS DARKAQUA, THAT BAD BOY WILL F*CK U GOOD, AND MAKING LOVE TO HIM IS EATING YA PUSSY FOR LONGER THEN USUAL!!! YESSSSSS

  85. OR KISSING U WITH TONGUE.. LMAO!!!

  86. In my opinion some of us just like being the “GOOD THING” in a bad boys life. Seems that’s all I’ve had, when you are with those that sell dope/or hustle you have to deal with a bunch of women. It seems they become celebs, when you are on their arms other women know you are that top and bottom woman. To me it’s not much about the thrill it’s about understanding the man and knowing sometimes his reason for acting out is because he really hasn’t had anyone he can trust, in most cases a woman can keep her heart safe if she can treat him like a friend first and her man second. Once a woman gets under his skin with trust and loyalty two values he has no clue of he sees that woman differently may not make a difference in the outcome of the relationship but at least he knows he can be loved and trusted, and that trust is not about honesty but trusted to be himself and if after all that he doesn’t see a woman’s value if she has treated him as a friend she then can turn the tables. Just my experiences. Turn the chase into a hunt.

  87. @ CECE I don’t think idiots. It takes a strong woman to get in a relationship and allow a man to be himself. Many times we get in relationships and try to change ppl before we even know who they are. I don’t think anyone is bad just misguided. I have had alpha males is what I call them, they make their own decisions if it is a bad one they are not afraid to deal with the outcome. I say I have had bad boys because most of the ones I’ve dated have been older and Old School Playas not that this is what I want but it is what has happened now I don’t try to change them I watch them, they may make some degree of change however if they don’t I know how to still be a friend and move around. See my thing is I have been a bad girl and was forgiven for everything I’ve done & given opportunity to change and what was shared with me (patience, faith, longsuffering, gentleness, kindness, self control, humble, joy, peace, love) I share with others hoping they make a change if they don’t it’s not my loss it’s their’s.

    Just because they have a job and know all the right ppl don’t make them good. Our motives and intents determine our character, you can’t say someone is a bad boy because he sells drugs when we don’t know his motive/intent. Or even if he is a playa maybe he was raised in the house where daddy was a preacher and had all the women on the front pew and mama still hung by daddy’s side knowing daddy was a Preaching Ho! Now because daddy preaches and prays for ppl is he a good boy or a bad boy. Motive and intent if we don’t this we don’t know if a person is good or not so good. I don’t believe in calling ppl bad.

  88. I guess I’m a different type of chick…I am not a fan of the bad boy….I just don’t see the appeal. They are rude, disrespectful, and they don’t care about anyone but themselves most of the time. Now I do have a thing for “arrogant” cats or the “asshole” of the group. I’m sarcastic and I can say some fly shit often so being around someone who can hold their own is important. Being handled roughly or talking to me like I’m some yamp off the street doesn’t move me. Come December I will have 2 degrees, I like Nikki Giovanni and Miles Davis…..wtf am I gonna do with somebody’s bad boy???? LOL nah give me the cat who will call before the sun goes down, doesn’t mind spending time, and is ok with being in a committed relationship.

    The thing that gets me is I know plenty of women who like bad boys, get them, and then lose their minds when the dude starts treating them like shit….what the hell makes you think you’re any different???

    @ darkaqua33….don’t sleep on the good guys. some know how to take care of business very well in the bedroom and it’s even more of a plus that I don’t have to worry about how many other women are getting it or if he even washed his ass between me and the one before me lol.

    Spock is right though, there is a difference between a bad boy and a player. In my opinion they are both whack but women seem to love them……

  89. @SPOCK

    I’M JUST TELLING THE TRUTH…. MOST RELATIONSHIP WITH BAD BOYS ARE UNHEALTHLY AND SPORADIC

    USUALLY WOMEN STAY CAUSE OF THE “I CAN CHANGE HIM” SYNDROME AND SHE’S DIC-NOTIZED!!

    HE KNOW WOMEN ARE EMOTIONALLY CREATURES, GOOD D*CK MAKES US DO STUPID SH*T…SO HIS D*CK GAME MUST SAY ON POINT!!

  90. @EclecticIndigo

    I’M NOT PROMOTING BAD BOYS LOL

  91. @Margo, I don’t think it’s fooling myself and I take this personal because to me it’s spiritual and the reason many ppl don’t change. When my spiritual Essence told me that my physical relationships were a result of my direct relationship with him I knew I had to get to know him/myself more so that I would stay close. Now for over a year and a half I have been involved with one of the leader of Oceans 7’s uncle, and he is 12 1/2yrs my senior, he had/has many women, in the beginning we were getting married and he loved me there was no one else, I traveled back and forth to Chattanooga, only to discover he was using the same way we met (myspace) to solicit and seduce other women with the same words, knowing his history I understood why he acted out so, I changed up my game plan but I was still available, now he may still do his thing but my mind is far removed from his actions and now he’s calling me, longing to see me, wanting to hear from me, have I changed who I am, No! But he has definitely changed how he sees me.

    My response to these cats is, “I don’t determine my love for someone based on whether they love me or not” everyone does not have the same meaning or feelings concerning LOVE. A probably doesn’t think he is a bad boy. As women we are our male counterparts HELP MEAT/MEET, which means to me they are gonna have issues we need to help them out. I have strays (ones I have left alone) that continue to return only to find, I have gotten rid of the dog house. I give them a good six months after that I decide how I’m gonna continue, (friend, f**k buddy, homie, sister friend, etc.) thing is I will always stay friends no matter what.

  92. I am sitting here thinking, well what constitutes a bad boy. I mean we all come from different backgrounds and walks of life. What may be bad to one is good to another. Of course, someone who is disrespecful and rude is “bad” but in actuality the are ignorant and probably a low life. I do think some women get involved with “bad” boys because we think we can change them or be the “good” they need but we cant change a man. He has to change himself. I want a good man. I know for me I usually attract guys who are in the middle of the road. Respectful but also know who to hold their own. They spend time with me but don’t need to be up under me 24/7. Not a square (nothing against squares) but more of an oval.

  93. I never dated a “bad boy”…just not my type. I think some gurls date the bad boys to be different than their peers and make their parents mad. LOL I think some are stupid to think that they can change them into what they really want in a guy, just not gonna happen ladies. LOL There are those that truly only want a bad boy because of what they do or can do for them. Like some have said for the thrill and excitement of it all. Personally I don’t want that kind of thrill or excitement. My brothers shit is enough…LOL

  94. All this shit down playing a woman SHIT A WOMAN IN HER RIGHT MIND CAN DO WHAT THE FUCK SHE WANTS TO DO! Meaning she ain’t worried about what the fuck nobody thinks!!! This is what keeps her from going crazy and chasing a fucking man good or bad all over the fucking town. Hopefully ppl learn from experiences and don’t continue the same. If in any relationship I expect to change someone is me. I know I am looking for growth. Yes I have been hurt but can a muthafucka hurt me in the same way again, HELL NAW! The benefits from making a mistake is that you learn from it. And then you realize no mistake is too big that it can’t be erased (that’s my quote copywritten so don’t touch my shit). We stereotype ppl instead of allowing for individuality and the telling of their own story. This is serenity and courage to accept things you cannot change have courage to change the things that you can and utilizing wisdom to help you determine the difference. It’s good to share our opinion let’s not think for one moment everyone feels the same way. I have done a bunch of shit and don’t mind saying but have made changes and trying to use these different meduims to sell my shit so I want to make clear the grounds on which I stand because you ppl IF I WASN’T IN MY RIGHT MIND MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS would drive me crazy. Hahaha! PEACE AND LOVE!!!

  95. @Anita. Haha. So you go for the good guys! You don’t like a man with some edge to him?

    @Spock. What The FUck!!

  96. @ darkaqua33 That’s good to know. I just couldn’t let you give good brothers a bad rep in the sex department lol

  97. There are so many foolish women on here!! I’m starting to question how old some of them are?!? Being a woman myself I can say this with confidence….women are full of shit (lol), “yeah I like a bad boy cause he keeps me excited and doesn’t make my life boring and he good in bed”..so on and so forth BUT in all actuality…..we don’t want that man that’s out running the streets all hours doing this and doing that because as soon as he catch a case..we start yapping off..talking about his ass is no good..he aint worth shit..I should have never messed with him..I’m going to get me a brother that does this for me and that for me and I’m going to leave you alone cause you too much trouble…..(& i hate this word……but) bitch you knew he was all into that when you first got involved with him…now all of sudden cause he locked up or in a bad situation he not any good anymore……women like that kill the shit out of me because they chose to ACT ignorant like they don’t know better………..bad boys are just what they are….bad…& bad news!!

  98. hah yall nigga is lame @ spock and anita

  99. Internet shit talkers! Ha! One of the “Bad Boys” I guess.

  100. @ darkaqua33…That ain’t just the rules for a bad boy that is the rules for any man that wants to keep his women in check. You been watch too much TV. A Bad Boy, an educated brother whatever has nothing to do with it. You sound like you have just been dealing with some lames. I’m sorry for your experiences. That is like me saying a Ghetto girl’s sex is better then an educated girls….NOT AT ALL!! The smart educated chicks often have the bigger imagination and therefore make things much more interesting. Besides Long ass finger nails, gold teeth, different color hair (red, blue, etc) and TRACKS showing in your hair would Limp me QUICK!! LOL

    @ Olu?????

    @ijusthkdifrent ????? What’s up????

  101. Its not that there attracted to bad guys its that there attracted to the qualities that bad boys have. Like confidence, swag, leadership, that I’m my own man you cant tell me shit attitude! If a good guy had those qualities they would be attracted to the good guy. The thing that immature people dont realize is that just because you are attracted to someone doesnt mean they are a good partner! I am attracted to half the women I meet but at the same time that doesnt mean they would make a good wife! Its like they say in dominoes ” All money aint good money”

  102. @Spock. I wasn’t sure what you were talking about.
    It threw me. Looked like you went off topic and with your response to shorty, I think we are off topic. Haha. But I do agree with some things you said. Shits funny too.

  103. The perfect way too sum it up is MCLyte’s I need a ruffneck video…great examples of bad boys..it’s a mystique about them.. 🙂 they get respect where ever they go and if you are with them you just feel protected – secure.

  104. @Olu I guess so. LOL 90% of the guys I dated were/are military guys, they aren’t goodie goodie but weren’t bad boys either. My version of edge could be different than your version of edge.

    @ijusthkdifrent LOL Why am I lame?

  105. It’s about the edge and excitement that comes with it !

  106. @SPOCK WHAT? LOL YOU READ WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY TOO MUCH INTO MY COMMENT LOL

  107. @Anita. Well you are right. You like Millitants. That’s good. So you like a man with structure. A lot of women I know like Millitants. They tell me that its sexy to have a man with authority over his surrondings and self. Exact words.

    @Darkaqua33. Haha. He did didn’t he! The whole topic has changed. Haha.

  108. as woman…i dont want a push over….and sometimes “good guys” where their heart on their sleeves…so its not that i want a bad boy thats necessarily going beat my ass or as some kind of possession issues…but i dont want a guy thats just going to to do whatever i say and bow down to me all the time….u want ur bad boy to have a sweet side too but i want someone with a back bone that kind of pisses me off a lil bit (lol)

  109. ALL OF YOU GIRLS THAT GOES FOR BAD BOYS ARE SHALLOW AND DUMB. I USE TO LOVE BAD BOYS ONLY BECAUSE OF THEIR SWAGGER AND THEIR SENCE OF HUMOR, ALSO I LIKE HOW THEY DRESS. HERE IN MIAMI, THERES BAD BOYS SURROUNDED EVERYWHERE I GO. LIKE GROUPS OF GUYS BE AROUND 7/11 24/7 WAITING TO BREAK INTO A CAR. THERES MANY GUYS THAT LOOK LIKE LIL WAYNE OUT HERE THAT GIRLS GO NUTS FOR, IT’S CRAZY MAN. BUT YEAH MAN, NOW DAYS, GIRLS APPROACH MAN THAN MAN APPROACH WOMEN. BACK THAN GIRLS WERE LIKE “NIGGA YOU AINT NOTHING.” BUT NOW DAYS GIRLS FLIRT CONSTANTLY, AND MAN TOO, BUT THEY DOING IT FOR THE NOOKIE

    BACK WHEN I WAS A TEEN, I USE TO HANG AROUND WITH MY HOMEBOYS DOING THE EVERYDAY THING, AND THAT IS GOSSIP. YOU KNOW WHAT GIRLS? YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT GOES ON IN A MAN’S MIND. MAN WOULD ACT LIKE THEY WANT YOU SAYING THAT THEY LOVE YOU, SAYING THAT THEY WANT TO BE WITH YOU ONLY BECAUSE THEY WANNA GET IN YOUR PANTIES. THEY SAY THINGS TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD, TO MAKE YOU FEEL WANTED, TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NOT ALONE ONLY BECAUSE THEY WANT TO GET IN THAT PUSSY BABY! BUT BACK TO THE SUBJECT; YES MAN DO GOSSIP BEHIND THEIR GIRLS BACK. IF YOU WANNA KNOW WHAT THEY SAY, THAN I’M ABOUT TO TELL YOU. THIS IS WHAT THEY SAY IN A DAILY BASICS.

    “MAN MY GIRL IS TRIPPING”, “DAMN THIS GIRL WON’T GET OFF MY DICK,” “THAT HOE HAS THE HOTS FOR ME, BUT I DON’T WANT THAT UGLYASS HOE NEAR ME, I JUST WANT HER TO SUCK MY DICK,” “CHEATING FEELS GOOD.” I HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH THIS BITCH NAME “BEEP.” “I MET THIS GIRL AT THE CLUB AND SHE’S FINE, I WANNA FUCK HER REAL BAD.” “MAN I’M HORNEY, BUT I’M SO TURN OFF BY THE WAY MY GIRL BEEN ACTING, I NEED SOME GOOD PUSSIES TONIGHT.” “THAT GIRL GOT A DONKEY DONK.” DAMN LOOK AT THEM DOUBLE D’S, I WANT MY COCK ON THAT.” “I LOVE WOMEN, BUT DAMN, WHY THEY ALWAYS HAVE TO COME UP TO STRONG?” MAN I WISH I HAD A GIRL LIKE THAT, MY GIRL IS GETTING OLD, I NEED A NEW RIDE A DIE CHICK.” MANY MORE DEGRADING SHIT LIKE THAT. I WAS PART OF THE GUYS YA, SO I KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT FROM A NIGGA.

    THESE ARE THE THINGS THAT GUYS GOSSIP BEHIND YA BACKS WOMEN. THAT’S PRETTY MUCH WHY I NOT HANGING AROUND THESE PEOPLE NOMORE. THOSE ARE MANY REASONS WHY I’M STILL A VIRGIN. YOU CAN’T LET A MAN GET IT THAT EASILY, YA WOMEN HAVE TO SHOW CLASS, AND RESPECT FOR YA BODY CAUSE YA BODY IS A TEMPO. DON’T GIVE UP YOUR SOUL TO A MAN THAT WOULD WANNA DO YOU AND SCREW YOU AFTERWARDS.

    MY OLD BESTFRIEND WHO’S A STRIPPER LOVES MAN TO DEATH, SHE BREATHES, EATS, AND SLEEP ABOUT MAN 24/7. I TELL HER ALL THE TIME, “WHY DO YOU ALWAYS GO FOR THE BAD BOYS???” SHE TOLD ME BECAUSE THEY FINE AS FUCK, THEY MAKE YOU FEEL REALLY GOOD, THEY VERY AGGRESSIVE IN BED, AND THEY LIKE TO BUY YOU THINGS. I TOLD HER WHAT’S THE ONE THING YOU HATE ABOUT THEM BAD BOYS? SHE SAID, “THEIR ATTITUDE, THEY LIKE TO TALK BACK, AND THEY LIKE TO BE IN CONTROL. SOMETIMES IT’S HARD TO TRUST THEM, CAUSE THEY CAN SOMETIMES BE SHADY AROUND YOU” I TOLD HER WHY YOU DON’T WANT A GOOD MAN? SHE SAID, “CAUSE THEY CAN’T STATIFY ME SEXUALLY, AND THEY TOO SOFT AND I NEED A MAN THAT CAN GO HARD, PLUS THEY ISN’T THAT ATTRACTIVE AND I ALWAYS WANNA BE SEEN WITH MY MAN.” FOR SOME REASON I ALWAYS SEE INNOCENT GIRLS WITH BAD BOYS NOW DAYS, AND THEY ALWAYS COMPLAINING THAT THEY CHEATING, THAT THEY STEALING, AND THAT THEY LYING. OK?? SO WHY THE FUCK YOU NOT WALKING AWAY FROM THE RELATIONSHIP, WHY YOU STILL WITH HIM>??? IS IT THAT YOU SHALLOW WOMEN? IS IT THAT YOU EXPECT YOUR MAN TO CHANGE? IS IT THAT YOU WANT TO WORK IT OUT AND YOU NOT READY TO MOVE ON? IS IT THAT YOU THINK A MAN WOULD WANNA SETTLE DOWN WITH YOU ONLY BECAUSE YOU THINK HE LOVES YOU? WELL FOR YOUR INFORMATION, BAD BOYS WOULD NEVER WANNA SETTLE DOWN, OR COMMIT TO WHAT YOU WANT, OR WOULDN’T TRY TO LISTEN TO YOU FOR ONCE. YOU CAN’T CHANGE A PERSON, A PERSON HAS CHANGE FOR THEMSELVES, THEY HAVE TO LEARN FROM THEIR MISTAKES WHICH THEY WON’T, BUT YOU CAN’T EXPECT YOUR MAN TO BE A GOOD MAN IF HE’S A BAD BOY. YA WOMEN MAKE ME SICK!!! LOL!

    I’M BI, I NEVER COULD GET A WOMEN ONLY BECAUSE NOW I NOT THAT PERSON THAT I USE TO BE, I CHANGE MY WAYS FOR THE BETTER. GIRLS WANT SEX WHEN IT COME TO RELATIONSHIPS, I DON’T UNTIL I PUT A RING ON THAT FINGER. BUT YEAH, GIRLS NEED TO CHANGE THEIR LIFE STYLE MAN, DON’T BE EASY, PLAY HARD TO GET AND THAT MAN WOULD RESPECT YOU.

    THERE ARE GOOD MAN OUT THERE THAT ARE AGRESSIVE TOO, THEY LOOKING FOR THAT STRONG BLACK WOMEN, THAT KNOWS WHAT THEY WANT. THEY WANT A MOTHER FIGURE, NOT A HOE. YA WOMEN NEED JEUSUS. READING ALL YA COMMENTS ON HERE MAKES ME PISS OFF, BUT I KNOW YA MINDSETS ANYWAYS. I GLAD YOU PUT THIS SUBJECT UP JERMAINE, THIS REALLY MAKES ME SEE HOW SHALLOW WOMEN ARE. LOL! THIS MAKES ME WANNA WRITE A SONG ABOUT THIS.

  110. I AGREE WITH YOU SPOCKS. THAT’S THE TRUTH, YA GIRLS THINK BACKWARDS. YA WOMEN EXPECT TOO MUCH FOR A MAN. GOD DAMNIT. WHEN WILL YOU GIRL GET IT!!!!

  111. I BEEN IN TOO MANY SHIT WITH BAD BOYS. I DON’T WANNA TELL YOU MY STORY CAUSE IT’S TOO HORRIBLE TO READ IT, BUT I HAD ENOUGH OF IT, AND NOW I WANT A GOOD MAN JUST TO SEE HOW IT IS. I HAVE A FRIEND WHO’S A GUY AND HE’S SO SWEET BUT SHY, ONE DAY IT MIGHT BE SOMETHING BETWEEN US, BUT I RATHER WAIT FOR LOVE AND NOT TO RUSH INTO IT. I ALSO WANT THAT GOOD WOMEN THAT HAVE EVERYTHING GOING FOR HER. A GOOD GIRL GOES A LONG WAY, IF YOU A WANNA BE BAD GIRL THAT WANTS A BAD BOY, NOTHING GOOD ISN’T GONNA COME INTO THE RELATIONSHIP UNLESS YOU CAN SEE THROUGH A MANS BULL SHIT, BUT YOU WOMEN GOTTA SEE THROUGH YA SELVES AND STOP TICKING OFF THE BAD FLAWS IN YA MAN.

  112. I wouldn’t say that I neccessarily say I go for the bad boy. But, I do like a guy with a little bit of street in him. That’s most likely because of the neighborhood I grew up in. The actual bad boy always breaks your heart. Because he has plenty women and plenty drama. He could never be the guy you marry. Cause he will never change.

  113. @Olu LMFAO @ militant!!! I can see the sexiness of a guy in uniform with some structure. I was military myself and liked that military swag. I don’t see it where I live in the civilians though. They’re bad boy wannabes…talk a great game (sometimes) but when push comes to shove, they’re just a bunch of pussies. LOL

  114. It’s not the bad guy that girls like its the idea of him. He seems like the type that would protect you and huslte up if you need something. Most bad guys of eye contact look like they fit this description, what women can’t see is all the other things that they come with until they are in too deep…and then u get ur heart broke. Most of the time this should just be a phase….but some chics just don’t learn!

    P.s. when is the next vegas trip…I reallu want to go for my birthday?!!!

  115. @Anita. My dad is a militant, and he raised me to be like a soilder. My sister was a Marine, and my Uncle is in the Army. I was ROTC Marine so I know all about the Military way. Sounds like you live in KC. LMAO! I’m from Lagos Nigeria and lived in NY. BX to be exact. KC is full of “pussies”. Bad Guys wana be but somehow they get the women. Well the bitches I should say.
    Here I go going off the topic. Haha.

  116. @Deirdre B Pride, I AGREE WITH YOU SISTA, SPEAK THE TRUTH. ALL OF THE GIRLS THAT COMMENT SAYING THAT BAD BOYS ARE INTERESTING AND THEY CAN SPICE UP YOUR LIFE IS IMMATURE. (SHAKING MY HEAD) DAMN! I’M A SHAME OF YOU ALL. LOL!

  117. @Olu…I guess the problem here is that we might all have different definitions of Bad Boys!!

    @darkaqua33…. You might be right!!! LOL

    Somebody said is was his swagg…or the way he dresses!!! The biggest Bad Boy I know is Madoff and them dudes that made off with all the money from them houses that were financed wrongly and sent the whole US into this recession. Those are Bad Boys!!!!

  118. @Spock. I believe we do. I’m thinking of Bad Boys like the dudes JD is talking about in Greese. Like rule brakers. Borderline thugs.

  119. It’s the challenge of the chase of getting the bad boy. Everyone loves the chase!!!!!! Once you get him is the problem, how are you going to hold on to him. If you’re number 1 don’t worry about the others. At least that was what I use to think. Now I’m too dang pretty, smart, intelligent, and have too much loot and class to even think that way anymore.

  120. You know the type — the swaggering, cocky, macho jerk who treats women like they’re replaceable, while they’re waiting in line to climb into his bed. Men hate these guys, yet women love them.

    if you ask any single woman on the street what she’s looking for in a man she’ll tell you that she wants a nice guy with a sense of humor who will treat her well. But then she’ll turn around and fall all over herself trying to get to a Bad Boy who will use and abuse her.

    What’s going on here?

    Granted, what women say and what they actually do are generally miles apart, but even the usual female self-deceit doesn’t seem to cover this one. So let’s look first at some of the traits of the typical Bad Boy and see what we can learn from him.

    The typical Bad Boy:
    is cocky, arrogant
    always puts himself first
    is inattentive to a woman’s needs
    does what he wants when he wants to do it, regardless of what anyone else thinks
    acts like a loose cannon
    struts his masculine sexuality
    isn’t even remotely a “nice” guy
    treats women badly
    often uses women for sex

    All negative character traits, to say the least. Yet women flock to these creeps in droves. Why? No sane woman would openly choose to be abused, so there must be some other factors operational here. To find the answer, we must examine the positive side of the Bad Boy traits to see what women are really attracted to.
    A Bad Boy exudes untamed masculinity, independence and confidence. To women, these traits — especially confidence — are an aphrodisiac. The problem is, in the hands of the Bad Boy, confidence becomes selfish arrogance. But women are responding to guys like this on a purely elemental, emotional level.

    Just as men are turned on by a woman’s femininity, so too do women respond to overt male masculinity – and the Bad Boy has it in buckets. What’s going on here is that she’s having a gut reaction to his confidence and male strength, and is blind to anything else.

    So the trick is to learn to take the Bad Boy’s negative traits and spin them in a positive direction to make them work for you — in other words, to become a Bad Boy without really being “bad.” This way, you can still maintain your gentleman status without turning into an abusive jerk. and this is what most bad boys do before they get these women .

    Here are a few things they do:

    Dial up the independence
    they act as if they couldn’t possibly care less about getting women. Never change who they are to please a woman or in the hope that they’ll get her into bed. they get involved in their own lives and their own interests. they Make plenty of time for male stuff. their attitude is always : “This is who I am — if you like it, fine; if you don’t, leave.”

    Don’t show emotions
    they are indifferent and don’t show they care. they should have a poker face at all times. Remain mysterious and don’t let women know what they are thinking. which Keeps them guessing.
    Furthermore, ration their words and make sure everything they say has a purpose. they Don’t volunteer information. Simply answer a question if asked.

    Put the kibosh on crap
    they refuse to tolerate any female BS. When women try to test them, they don’t give in — they tell them to grow up. they are not afraid to say “no.” Stand their ground, r simply walk away f rom a situation.
    they Get her off the pedestal. Run the relationship by their rules, not hers. If they don’t agree with her, say so — they don,t became doormats in the hope of getting laid. And if she doesn’t like it, they show her the door.

    Light your fire
    Bad Boys are all about sexual confidence, and women appreciate confident lovers. So don’t be afraid to let your natural masculine sexuality shine. This doesn’t mean you should go around leering at female chests all day, but you should be comfortable and confident about letting a woman know you’re attracted to her without becoming a pawing jerk. And when you do step up to the plate, make sure you know what you’re doing in the bedroom.

    Make yourself scarce
    For women, guys who are too available are boring. Bad Boys are selfishly independent — they aren’t desperately hanging around women, hoping to get tossed a few scraps of attention.
    Women always want what they can’t have, so make yourself busy and scarce. Be a mystery man. Be unpredictable. Be a challenge — let her do some work to get you.

    Turn on the confidence
    Bad Boys always assume that women want them — insecurity has no place in their personal vocabularies. This is the exact opposite of the usual male desperation. So your attitude should be that you’re the catch, not that women are doing you a favor by talking to you.
    You can’t afford to be too nice — catering to women, agreeing with every word they utter, paying for female attention (all things Bad Boys don’t do) — because women see this as “weak” and wimpy.
    Be decisive and don’t hesitate when talking. Don’t second-guess yourself after you’ve made a decision. Voice your opinion and don’t worry about offending others.

    Bad Boys may be jerks, but they have a lot to teach the average guy about attracting women. By observing a few of these typical Bad Boy traits in action, you can learn to use them to your advantage without giving up your nice status.
    in the BAD BOYS WORLD ” you don,t have 2 be a BRAD PITT ,2 attract women ,SIMPLY by OOZING male confidence
    BUT THATS NOT WHAT I BELIVE N ” i don,t do BAD BOYS ,i need RESPECT AND GENTALMEN ,not LOSERS

  121. What’s up with these essays by people? Shit! Comment, not freaking paragraphs.

  122. One JD, let’s not generalize. lol Two, bad boys are appealing….. but so it’s fire and that shit burns!

    Nisha
    XOxo

  123. LMAO…GOT DAMN PEOPLE TYPING SCHOOL ESSAY ON THE SUBJECT SHAM-F’IN-WOW!!!

  124. @Darkaqua33. Exactly! What the hell is going on? They must have a term paper due on this subject or something.

  125. @darkqua33@olu It’s write essays and paragraphs say what you got to say and get off or stay on here all day like you two have. Peeaaccee you be you let others be okay with being them.

  126. @ darkaqua33 & Olu

    Do y’all the JD really reads all the long comments? Just wondering because I know I have my days where I just go off and a rant.

  127. @ghettoaerobix123. Huh? What are you trying to say? Were you trying to correct us on sometime? haha. I don’t know you lost me with your comment. Have a good one.

    @nishanish87. You mean does JD really read the long comments? I don’t know. Ask him. I’m preety sure he might skeem through it but reading the entirety of it, I don’t know.

    I think people are getting mad over this. Ok people, no more off the subject shit. Lets stick to the topic.

  128. @sham nassim……<<<<<<<<<<JD DELETE THIS NIGGA!!!! I got to hit my scroll wheel 4 times before I pass over your comment!!

  129. @nishanish87 what does it matter if he just says talk to me. I always express myself however I want, because my expression is always a reflection of who I am. I am a writer so I know I write a lot of shit. I used to go off because I thought JD should respond since he put himself out here then I realized his response to my response was not what I was here for. I almost got caught up when this was new to me, now I get off on how ppl think they have everyone figured out. I look to stand out because I am unique. I don’t expect everyone to think or be like me I do what I want speaking the truth as I know it. Knowing if we were all butt naked we would face the same judgement so it matters a damn to me what others walking this earth even a Preacher/Pastor think of me, some ppl live an honest life before man and are a living lie before God. I like to know what others think because sometimes that shit is funny, sad, uplifting, understanding, and knowledge full of wisdom. So anyway do yo’ thang!

  130. JD, I dont get it. Nothing is appealing about a bad boy to me. The only thing a bad boy can do for me is to stay the hell away from my nephews!, cause I dont want them getting the wrong idea about what a man really is. I dont need the drama they bring whether it is financial, emotional of physical, we wont start on the spiritual side. Besides most bad boys have issues that they mask with this image. Keep it to yourself and keep it movin!!!!!!

  131. Good lawad!!! I mow the lawn and come back to this mess!!! LOL I’m working my BSIT and the last thing I need to read on here is a dayum essay on how to be a bad boy or good gurl or whatever sham was writing a novel on. LOL

    @ghettoaerobix123 Being that you’re a writer, I expect some punctuation marks from you. LOL All those run-on sentences and only seven commas!!! LMFAO

  132. @Spock. LAUGH MY FUCKING ASS THE FUCK OFF!! I had to type it all out.
    That shit was nice.

  133. @Anita. Damn this shit is funny. Run-ons and seven commas in about four or five paragraphs. Haha. LMAO!! How did we just fall off the topic?! You said you mowed the lawn and came back to this! HA! shit!

  134. LOL @ Olu I’m just saying. LMFAO These folks are killing me today!!! BIEM @ JD for todays topic!!! Brought a whole new group out today!!! LOL I’m wait’n for my gurl Kandi to put her 27 cents in!!! LOL Where you is Kandi?!!!

  135. A bad boy is the boy you are supposed to stay away from. This is why they are so appealing. You are curious to why you shouldn’t fall for them. Trust me once you’ve done the bad boy thing and you’re a level headed chick you’ll see why you are supposed to stay away from them.

  136. LMAO thanks Anita for typing my thoughts!

  137. @Anita. That’s what I’m saying. Where is Kandi? Shit!!
    She might do something foolish on purpose like write an essay talking about the two people who got term papers up on Global 14. haha. I bet you JD is laughing like crazy right now. Look at the chick Nakita Benjamin shit! Damn!

  138. @EclecticIndigo LOL Anytime cuz!!! 😀

    @Olu I wouldn’t put it past her. And if I were JD, I would be CDFU right about now!!! LOL I’m having more fun in here than twit’n with my folks!!! 😀 (not that they’re boring…if they were they wouldn’t be my folks LOL shhhh)

  139. @Anita. LMAO. Ok. You gotta tell me what these abbreviations mean. I’m not a person who uses abbre a lot.

  140. A bad boy is adventerous and a risk taker so that heightens the thrill of being involved with one. A good guy is just DULL!

  141. CDFU Crack’n da fuc up and BIEM is JDs…he started that one!!! His version of POW, BAM, etc Instead of Awwww SHIT!!! You say Awwww BIEM!!! He put a youtube link on here somewhere using it.

  142. @African Mami. First of, where are you from in Africa? Second. Not all good guys are dull. I’m a good guy but trust me, there is never a dull moment with me. The difference in good and bad guys is that the good guy has much to look forward to than the nuckle head bad guy. 😉

  143. @Anita. Thanks. Good looking. I’m no longer doing the @ shit. I’m going to just address whoever I’m talking with a YOOO- and get to it.

  144. @Olu LOL iight

  145. hmm…i think there is the element of the female wanting to ‘change’ this bad boy! women think they can change ppl!!!! NO WE CANT!!!

    then there is the fact that a ‘good guy’ jus seems as tho his only good for wen u actually wanna settle down, before that ur thinkin nah its kl, in 5 yrs time then yh i will be wit him (the good guy)

    then thers the appeal, ‘pre-selection’ the fact that a bad boy is in demand means ppl are feelin ur guy! thats an ego boost!!

  146. I don’t put out for anyone here I come to speak my mind! In a forum to speak your mind I’ve learned it’s better to get out what you need to say and worry about punctuation and spelling later, so I come here to talk not to write. I enjoy myself. Whether you know it or not there is a difference. And if run-on sentences is all you see then that’s all you’ll ever see, so don’t read what I write when you see my name, JUST PASS ME OVER! Peace my sista’.

    I expected YA’LL to jump on each others band wagons cause it seems YA’LL can’t stand ALONE!!! I’ve dealt with worst unsecure beings. I guess you don’t get the opportunity to exercise your mind because it seems your reading someone else’s. I appreciate you being aware of my mishaps but it won’t change what I say nor the way that I say it. Peace!!!

  147. @ANITA@OLU You have also misconstrued the site if you think it is where you come to put others down for their comment. What gets everything off subject is when ppl think they have the take on the world’s imagination. Don’t you guys have email addresses or facebook where you gang up and communicate as poking buddies, giving hugs and kisses, flinging food at each other and shit. Some people are really amazing! Why don’t YA’LL stop waiting for other ppl to get on here, get off line call each other and talk about that shit so YA’LL can quit waiting to put everybody else down. Just get the shit over with. So YA’LL be on one accord!

  148. JD I CAN’T REALLY SAY THAT I LIKE A BAD BOY BECAUSE THE LIFESTYLE THAT THEY LIVE IS NOT RIGHT FOR ME, BUT I WILL SAY THAT MOST GIRLS JUST WANT THE FAST LIFE THAT IT GETS. THEY WANT EVERYBODY TO KNOW THAT THEY WITH SOMEBODY THAT RAN THE STREETS AND THAT PEOPLE FEAR. I CAN’T REALLY CAN’T TELL U , BUT IT’S ALL ABOUT THE THRILL FOR THEM. WE NEED MORE MAN FROM BACK IN THE DAY WHO KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN LIKE U. I DON’T KNOW THIS FOR SURE, BUT I HEARD ABOUT IT FROM A WOMAN THAT U WAS SEEING. BIG UPS TO U.

  149. @Spock it’s funny when you write a ton of shit you don’t have nobody on yo’ tip tellin’ JD to delete shit!!! YA’LL talkin’ about all kinds of shit on here military, bumpin’ couches, and whatever else. If you take that shit somewhere else those that want to really communicate and express themselves can have room and won’t have to use run-on sentences. Hahahaha!!! You wanna talk about Laughing My Ass Off! YA’LL ARE HILARIOUS!!!And if you want to go back and forth with some other bullshit my email my channel on youtube is ghettoaerobix123. “I AIN’T SCARED OF YOU…I’M SURE YA’LL CAN READ INTO THIS WHAT I’M SAYING…YOU KNOW FINISH MY THOUGHTS.” LMBRBAO!!!! LAUGHING MY BIG ROUND BLACK ASS OFF!!!

  150. @anita@olu@spock and others like YA’LL, we can solve this and I won’t say another word if YA’LL are being paid to POLICE JD’s sites, it is usually the police that do shit and don’t want to see anyone else get away with. HaHaHa!!!!

  151. @ I aint have no time today so im late on this one but as a reformed “bad boy” but the swag still exists! Women like intrigue mystery a nigga that might not come home every night but when he do she ends up being happier that you came home than mad at the fact you stayed out! You see square niggas cant do shit like that mainly because of their lack of presence and/or strength. A nigga thats predictable is usually the nigga whose bitch is fucking sombody else!

  152. Ok.,what in the hell just happend? LMFAO!!

    I come on here to comment and ppl spattin’!!! My people, my people!!.,LMFAO

    I’ll pass on this one.,.,LMFAO

  153. YOO-Ghetto whatever whoever you are. You are emotional over some internet shit? Ha! fuck out of here. Man be good.
    Shout out to Spock and Anita.

  154. @Olu…..not all good guys are dull….BUT generally I find them to be so!

  155. bad boys dont give shit and thats what most girls like. yeah its;dumb but its hella fun too to be treated like dog pass us to ur dog like the song says
    SAD and LONELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! REmber me

  156. I agree its prolly cuz of the fantasy…but the swagg prolly grabs the attention the most!! but I’m a sucker 4 a gud or bad guy!

  157. Sorry Lifer fam I have been out of the loop being homeless and all. LOL Umm I will say only young chicks who dont know themselves like bad boys. I am older now and I want a nerd with good credit. Bad boys will fuck you and fuck you up…trust me i know! lol

  158. @sham nassim I FUCKING LOVE YOU FOR THAT LONGASS COMMENT. MAN I WISH I SAID ALLTHAT DAMN, YOU SO RIGHT WITH EVERYTHING THAT YOU SAID!!! ALL OF YOU GIRLS NEED TO STOP BEING BLIND AND START FINDING MR. RIGHT. WHAT THE FUCK IS SO EXCITING ABOUT A BAD BOY ANYWAYS? LIKE BE SPECIFIC!!! CAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN WHEN YOU SAY BAD BOYS ARE EXCITING. IS IT THE SEX THAT’S EXCITING? LIKE WHAT MAKES YOU DRAWN TO A NIGGA THAT HAVE NO MATTERS, NO MORALS, NO RESPECT, AND NO CLASS? THEY DON’T EVEN GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOU HALF OF THE TIME, ONLY WHEN THEY WANT THAT PUSSY, THEY WOULD COME TO YOU WHEN THEY DONE SEXING THE REST, THAT’S NOT HEALTY!! DAMN!!! IT’S SO IMMATURE AND DISGUSTING FOR YA TO COMMENT SAYING WHAT YA JUST SAID WHICH EVERYONE HAS THE SAME RESPONDS, I BET YA ALL SINGLE RIGHT NOW AND STILL CAN’T GET THAT GOOD MAN THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN GET OUT OF A BAD BOY. STUPIDASS CHICKS ON HERE MAN!! LOL! I BEEN WITH MANY BAD BOYS CAUSE IT’S HARD TO FIND THAT GOOD GUY FROM WHERE I’M AT CAUSE MOST OF THE GOOD GUYS ARE TAKEN OR SINGLE PARENTS. ONE DAY WHEN YOUR BAD BOYFRIEND LEAVES YOU ALL ALONE, PREGNANT, AND NO WHERE TO LIVE, YOU WILL REALIZE HOW SELF CONCEITED HE IS AND HOW SELF CENTERED HE IS THAT YOU MIGHT LEARN NEXT TIME NOT TO HAVE A GUY LIKE THAT NOMORE. BUT YA WOMEN WON’T LEARN, YA STILL GONNA RUN TO THE BAD BOYS THAT AIN’T GONNA DO SHIT FOR YOU. BAD BOYS CAN BE ABUSIVE TOO MAN, IT’S REALLY NOT FUN TO BE WITH A BAD BOY. SO STOP BULL SHITTING, YA TRYING TO BE BAD GIRLS, YA WANNA SHOW OFF THAT HE’S YOUR MAN CAUSE HE’S A BADASS, I KNOW EVERYTHING MAN, IT’S LIKE THAT WITH MY OWN COUSINS. THEY ALWAYS FIGHTING OVER STUPIDASS NIGGAS WITH NO EDUCATION OR NO SENCE. ALL THEY DO IS FUCK ALL DAY, DO DRUGS WITH THERE HOMIES ALL DAY, PARTY ALL NIGHT, AND THAN FUCK AGAIN. YOU FUCKING LIKE THAT SHIT???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
    FUCK NA! IT GETS TIRING, I CAN’T EVEN DEAL WITH A MAN LIKE THAT. I GET REALLY ABUSIVE WHEN A MAN DOES THAT TO ME.

  159. JD – “Houston we have a problem…(tap tap tap)Earth to Spock, OLU, Anitaltl, and darkaqua33 can you read us…you guys have landed on a space for LIFERS not TREKKIES…do you copy?” You guys police and patrol everyone and everything and yet don’t pay attention, you are on a different subject Olu inviting women to the question and JD specifically asked for MEN ONLY. You change the subjects and rant back and forth all day leaving your shit irrelevant to the subject. If you guys want to get personal visit each others personal page. It can really be hard on a persons self esteem when you gang up on them and beat them up especially if you don’t know them. BUT I’M ALWAYS BLEST IN KNOWING WHAT YOU DO TO OTHERS WILL CERTAINLY AND SOON BE DONE TO YOU. You guys don’t move me other than I take up for many that can’t take up for themselves. I invite you to bring shit my way I have SOMETHING APPARENTLY YOU HAVEN’T EXPERIENCED – A PEACE OF MIND. Comes from MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS. You TREKKIES ought to try it.

  160. As a teen, I lost my mind once (right before I went to college) and dated a guy who was a bad boy (he cheated a lot, hung around people who did dealt drugs, probably did drugs himself) and he was bad for my health and mental stability. lol Anyway, I let that go after 6 months and never looked back but he regretted it, still does.

    I also have dated a “reformed” bad guy (he was a bad boy as a teenager), but he still had some edge to him — he is a doctor now. I had no trouble from him (other than his crazy ex).

    I dated a guy who was a bad boy wanna be (all talk and never any bad-boy action) and let him go because he needed to grow up and learn to be the middle class, college-educated young man he was in the process of being. Nice guy, but way too unsure of himself.

    I just think that the bad boys have more confidence (for lack of a better word) to approach a woman
    They can get you with the flirtations and sense of humor and their machismo; Other than that they don’t do any more than a “good” guy. They may do less.

    I personally think that if I ended up with a bad boy at that time in my life it was because I had just a little bit of bad girl in me too 😉

    When I dated the bad boy as a teenager, I was searching for something that I did not, and knew I would not, find in him. That is why I say I lost my mind, but Jesus kept me. Ha! Ha! Seriously, I never dated anyone like him again. He had some good qualities–affectionate and friendly, but that was it. He had me to the point that I was hanging up on him all of the time and about to egg his car. I never crossed the line. I just let him go and let him be the playa that he was. He is still friendly, but he is alone and looking like an alcoholic the last time I saw him. I believe he is still a bad boy, but I can’t confirm it. His grandfather told him that I was a woman you take home to meet your momma and he said he was a fool, but I am okay with the way things turned out because he was out there running the streets and hitting the sheets with all kinds of teens and women. He knows he lost a good thing, but then again we were just teens. I did not expect marriage at that time. I don’t ever wish things were different.

    I don’t want a bad boy. I know that I want a man with a vision and a desire to succeed within the confines of the law. lol Hell, I like ’em good and even nerdy now-jk. I don’t want the trouble that comes with bad boys. I just like a regular dude with good values and morals and who can receive and give love in return. I am pretty simple.

  161. @sham nassim I have to admit I didn’t even read what you wrote because of it’s length, however I know I get lengthy too, and I thought, ‘It’s probably some good shit in there.’ I took the opportunity to read your thoughts this morning at a time I’m usually in my own thoughts. I don’t necessarily go for the “Bad Boy” so to speak, it’s just that’s how they turn out. I believe it’s the animal attration, I don’t know. I’ve been a “Not So Good Girl”. I’ve done some of the same things “Not So Good Boys” do. That’s not what I was gonna say, I enjoyed your piece. You may have been talking to other “Good Boys” however, something tells me you have been on each end of the scale and have now found your equilibrium. Anyway, the reading flowed, I saw some behaviors I had to acquire and some I desired that would make me top notch. I already hold my ground. I’ve learned to value who I am so no matter the vibe I give off, I control that Bitch, and that’s real. That’s in everything that I do. I’m grateful I took the opportunity to read you. I appreciate the knowledge. I encourage you to be you. I did…for my peace of mind…counted @Olu and he had 17 comments and you had 17 paragraphs I only did it because ppl need to recognize they are being judged when they judge. He commented immediately after your post, and I paraphrase, “Come on ppl what’s with the essays/paragraphs.” Not to point fingers, but it is so funny how some ppl appear to be right and they are just self-right.

    Also I’m gonna look you up!

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