TALK TO ME!!!!!!!
WHATS UP YALL? LAST WEEK I WAS WATCHING THE OPRAH SHOW AND THEY WERE HAVING A CONVERSATION ABOUT THE CHASE BEING MORE EXCITING THAN THE ORGASM. MEANING WOMEN LOVE THE BEFORE ACTION MORE THEN THE ACTION. I KNOW MY LADY LIFERS ARE YOUNGER THAN OPRAH AND HER GUEST SO I WANTED TO GET YALLS TAKE ON THIS. FELLAS YOU CAN CHIME IN AS WELL IF YOU HAVE EXPERIENCE THIS. QUESTION #1: ARE THE THINGS A MAN DOES TO GET IT, MORE EXCITING THAN THE SEX?
QUESTION #2: DO WOMEN REALLY ONLY CARE ABOUT HOW A MAN LOOKS AT THEM AND THE COMPLIMENTS THEY GET ONCE THERE ALL DOLLED UP?
NOW THEY SAID QUESTION 2 WAS VERY TRUE. THAT’S WHY YALL TAKE 30 MINS TO A HOUR GETTING DRESSED BECAUSE THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE TO A WOMEN, THE PRESENTATION NOT THE TASTE. TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trey Songz n Nicki Minaj need a song together. Please make that happen.
@Kandi
From the pot to the frying pan…. That is funny. You on the southside of Chi? You better watch how you wear your hat!!! That is so funny because a lot of my friends I met at Morehouse that were smart and just a good brother in general were always being over looked. Between the Gays, the brothers locked down, uneducated brothers, or the ones looking for Women to take care of them (This is a whole new issue, yes there are brothers just looking for women to take care of them–I can’t understand that one) Women have less guys to pick from. The guys that are doing what they are suppose to be doing are going to be cocky because they know how many women are looking for them.. That’s the problem…so what’s the solution?
A questions to all the Ladies!!! @MisTif @Kandi @Anita @Moni…..ALL the females LIfers!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkSuCKl0Rx0
This is my favorite song right now!! Check it out!!
1. Yes the chase can be more exciting than the sex. And that’s mainly because a lot of men don’t follow through with amazing sex. They want to do nice things for you and be all over you , talk a big game but then the sex is boring and after they act like assholes. So women enjoy the chase cuz there is nothing like feeling wanted all damn day, all damn week. After sex guys slack off and just do enough to get by because now they got it. How lame is that ?
2. I don’t think I live for the the compliments but it is a big part of why I get dressed up. And it’s funny because even when I go out and I say I don’t want any guys in my face I just want to have a good time with my girls, I’ll still be disappointed if not enough guys at least try to get my number or buy me a drink.
Awwwwwww Stank!!!!!!! Spock back in the hiz-zous!!!!!! I haven’t heard from you in a minute bra!!!
I do check your blog out from time to time…. any who……….
Check you on the next topic!!!!!
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No I am NOT on the southside I rarely go to the city. Them niggas don’t give a fuck. They shoot at anyone. I am NOT tryin to be on the news. Now I have had men who have told me they would have no problems staying home and me taking care of them. They got put on the bench. Only to be called up when one of my starters fouls out of the game. And just like Tif I have had 3 dudes TRY and get me pregnant. I don’t play that shit. You can try all you want I keep my shit locked down like Fort Knox in this bitch. And when you show that side of yourself you automatically get thrown out of the game. Lol
Oh BTW… Cool song. My fav right now is Makin Love by Fabo and Neyo…LOL
LMAO!! I cant even work properly for chkn this site and topic:):) I LOVE IT.,Keep this grown shit commin’ JD!!!
LMAO @ Spock.,.,you know I had to keep it 100%!!! LMAO “Jeannie Daniels” you are CRAZY!!!
This is truly entertaining!!!!
@Moni Good answer you kept real best answer on here whats your sign. I had the same situation.
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WOW! lmao, Anyway this is not a yes or no question. I agree with a lot of what Nikki said, especially about ur man telling you ur sexy while you are curled up with a book, glasses on, in shorts and a tee (not her exact words, but you get it). On the most part sometimes women and or men do dress for themselves, we all have to admit our attitude ( alot of times) change with the type of attire we are wearing. There is some innate “force” that would make a female want look appealing for a male because males are prodominately visual creatures vs women more emotional(not in a bad way).
As for the chase. If the brotha has no skills, of course it will be better. There are somethings you should not have to tell a man or a women. Preference is one thing but come on, a lil help is one thing but please. Some folks just need to step it up!
The Chase is definately exciting, but not the best…. The Chase is what gets us wet, and keeps us in suspense. Now it is on both parties to make the orgasm worth while. If a female is lazy then the male will be lazy. Ladies if you want to get there make sure he knows how to get you there don’t just lay flat on your back!
#2 Every lady loves attention, there are some that get dolled up just for reaction of men. Then there are others that maintain a standard for themselves and add a lil’ extra for the wandering eye. But for the most part I believe that females don’t really care about a males attention. We want other females to be jealous that is why we have to have the hottest bag, shoes, dress, jewelry etc. Every female wants to set the STANDARD.
SPOCK IS A FOOL! NIGGA YOU GOTTA BE MY BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER HIT ME!
Q1:ITS NOT BETTER BUT IT PLAYS A BIG PART CAUSE IT GETS US READY N EXCITED. THE PASSION N PREPERATION IS AN EXTRA BONUS THAT ADDS ON TO THE CLIMAX. IM NOT SURE HOW TO EXPLAIN IT BUT YEA.
G2: YES CAUSE WE WANT THE “WOW I CANT WAIT TIL LATER I WANNA FUCK U RIGHT NOW”REACTION FROM IT. SO THATZ Y WE PUT OUR ALL INTO GETTING DRESSED
@spock That song is phat as hell!!! LOL Love it!!! Stanks for sharing.
I think the chase is important. The better the foreplay, the better the sex, in general. Foreplay allows you to figure out what your partner likes. That goes for men and women. I think many times women fake orgasms when the sex is bad, because they just want to get it over with. I think this is usually for people who are not in committed relationships though, because at some point you do need to figure out what works and what doesn’t.
Also, I know that I definitely like to receive compliments from men. But, i also like to look good for myself. When you look good, you feel good, period!
These comments are hilarious!! Spock thinks his ass knows everything! Lol.#1 While a Orgasm is an incredible feeling it only lasts but a few seconds! Knowing Your man(not some random nigga u sleeping with) desires u completely. Mind body & soul Yes that is far more fullfilling than an Orgasm. Some of yall r confusing Love w/ Lust!! #2 I agree w/ whoever said we women get dressed for other women not for compliments. Key word WOMEN not girls. I myself get dressed so I can be the flyest woman in the room wherever I am. So I can make sure I’m not blending in w/no other bitch there, wether I’m dressed up or down! not to get compliments. But I do love it when my man compliments me & he does and I compliment him as well. Sex & love is 2 diff things! Hence “Making Love” & “Fucking”!!!
Outta cheaaa
well i cant really answer the first question because i havent expeirenced that, but for the second question, i would rather a man see me for me because getting all dolled up is what gets them but its ur inner beauty and ur personality and in some cases sexualy abilties that will keep them.
@Spock
True, it does take two. I just need to start checking for a condom during every position switch LOL.
But I honestly don’t know how we’re going to solve the problem of finding the “Right” person. Maybe stop looking all together and wait for him (or her) to find us (that may take a while). Or maybe we need to just try our chances with the ones that usually don’t fit our standards. You know, The ones that approach us that we usually don’t give the time of the day. Beggars can’t be Choosers; and you never know who you’re missing out on. Image isn’t everything! I’ve met a few guys who are genuinely great guys, but If I wasn’t in a good mood the day that I met them, I would’ve turned them away. One in particular had no game or “swag” and he was sort of expecting me to turn him away. I assumed he’s not used to meeting girls and actually accomplishing the mission of getting her number and a conversation.
My point is, he had great conversation and we had a lot in common.
Thanks for the Congrats btw. 6 more weeks left!!! I’m def feeling the song ha I’m adding it to my Favs.
Question 1: I think it matters your age and how comfortable you are with your sexuality. I am 29 and truly entering my peak and I love everything about sex. In my early 20s I was more into pleasing him and was uncomfotable with my body. At 25 up till now, I am about both of us enjoying our time.
The thing is that different things turn women on. When you show that you appreciate me in and outside the bedroom, then you will enjoy your sex life with me even more. Cleaning the house or cooking dinner “just because” is what makes me walk in the house after 10+ hours in the office, strip out my suit and say hello in the deepest way possible.
Question 2: This is all about ego. When I get dolled up I know I look good, but when my man has that swag like my girl is the hottest in the room then it is a major turn-on to me. Yeah, his initial look says it all. Men are prideful and love to show what they have. If he has the look of horror when you walk down the stairs then you know “you are not as cute as you thought you were.” If my guy had that look, I would ask whats on his mind…I love you men cause you don’t sensor it and sometimes have a good eye that turns a woman into looking like she is playing dress up to effortless glam. Ladies, its typicaly your hair does not look like he can play with it later, you look like an uncomfortable yet smooth stuffed sausage, or your face looks like he can not kiss you without removing war paint.
I personaly take 30 minutes to get ready no matter what the occasion, but this is shower, hair, and makeup. I pride myself on my presentation due to I am comfortable in my own skin, but I do not weigh my satisfaction with him or life in general on just my appearance. The taste has just about the same weight, if not more, then the presentation. The taste is who you really are and its how I know if your just cosmetic, or the real deal.