TALK TO ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHATS UP LIFERS? HOW MANY OF YALL HAVE EVER BEEN IN A SITUATION WHERE YOUR SITTING BESIDE SOMEBODY IN A PUBLIC PLACE AND THEY TRY TO TALK TO YOU AND YOUR NOT REALLY TRYING TO BE BOTHERED? YOU END UP TALKING TO THEM ANYWAY AND IT LEADS YOU TO A NEW ROAD OR A HEALTHY NEW RELATIONSHIP. U SAY TO YOUR SELF DAMN JUST THINK IF I WOULD’VE IGNORED THEM. I HATE TO SAY THAT I AM VERY GUILTY OF THIS, BUT ITS TAUGHT ME SOME VERY GOOD LESSONS.
- NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER
- IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS ALWAYS BE AS POLITE AS YOU CAN
- ALWAYS TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT THEM TO TREAT YOU.
WHAT I MEAN BY THIS IS, I ALWAYS USE TO GO PLACES WHEN I FIRST STARTED GETTIN MONEY AND PEOPLE IN DIFFERENT PLACES USE TO ACT AS IF I HAD STUBBLED UPON PLACES I SHOULDN’T BE BASED ON MY APPEARANCE. SO LIFERS TODAYS QUESTION IS HAS THIS EVERY HAPPENED TO YOU AND ARE YOU GUILTY OF TREATING PEOPLE LIKE THIS?
TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I encounter something similar to this everyday. I am a librarian, and unfortunately, there are only 6 African American Librarians who work in my library. There are a total of 80 librarians in the bldg. When patrons approach me, the first question they ask me is, “Do you work here?” We must where our badges at all times. When I’m at the reference desk, I am asked, “Are you a reference librarian?” There is a sign over the desk that says, General Collections/Humanities Reference. Some go on to ask, “So what are the requirements to be a librarian?” This last question leads me to believe that when they see me, they assume that it must not take much education to be a librarian. I get tired of explaining my qualifications for my job. After going through the interogation, I don’t even feel like answering their reference question.
As a female, I can honestly say this happens all the time. It’s the reason I hate public transportation. I moved to NYC and drove every single day, because I can’t take the gross numbers of people that talk to me, follow me, chase, or even get indignant when you don’t speak…GOOD GRIEF! I’d rather sit in traffic at on the West Side Hwy. than be bothered.
Just recently, this past Saturday night to be exact, I was leaving the Pharoahe Monch, Internal Affairs 10 year anniversary party. Now, Pharoahe is a close friend, and he told me not to come, because he said I wouldn’t be able to handle it. Well, he was right. The night was dope, his performance was magnificent, the show was exactly how he wanted it to be, grimey, crowded HOT, and so underground that you could feel the energy in the air. I felt like I was in the middle of one of his earlier videos. All of which was melting my ass, messing up my hair, and let’s just say a DIVA had to depart early.
I walked outside and saw a bunch of backpackers, like with BACKPACKS, HEADPHONES, and writing pads, like they were out there writing rhymes or something. I’m not all that familiar with Brooklyn, I didn’t see a cab, and I had no idea how to get where I was going. I really didn’t want to talk to the backpack ass fools standing out there, because they were looking at me from head to toe. This one brother spoke to me, and I immediately asked him where to get a cab. He was SOOOO nice, he actually walked with me for FIVE BLOCKS to one of those cab service places. He was so sweet and nice. He let me listen to some of his music while we walked. The perfect gentleman.
I wish I could end this story by saying, and then…I fell in love, or we’re going out next week, bla, bla,bla. SORRY…this is the real world, and I’ll probably never see or speak to him again, but I did realize that you can’t judge a book by it’s BACKPACK hehehe!
@nextgrl- I find that stupid BS like that happens when u don’t work for the place……..In a fancy, high priced store the black girl must not be anything but an employee SMDH……..1 time someone came up to me & was like “Can you help me find….” & I’m like……NO BITCH…..I’m shoppin’ find the shit urself SMDH!
I thought I responded to this post earlier but I don’t see my post??? Maybe I didn’t hit submit comment? I’ll just repost and add a little more…
Anyhwho, people are making some good points here. This has happened to me many times. Being from NYC, its a challenge because you never know which angle people are coming from. I don’t even like people to get too close to me in public. One time I was in Times Square with my niece and this kid walked up on me and was talking all close to my neck saying “Can I talk to you for a minute miss?” I was like “No! No! No!” Little did I know he was trying to sell me his CD. My niece was rolling. But it’s all about the approach. With maturity, I’ve learned to not judge a book by its cover but…sometimes stick up kids are out to tax!
I’m polite and courteous to everyone I meet. I’m open to meeting new people. I still “mean mug” it from time to time when I don’t want to be bothered though…but that never phases the tourists. Bless their hearts. They still ask me questions. LOL I guess I need to work on my mean mug
@Shells Being from NY, I understand exactly what you mean. Backpackers are some of the coolest people though. LOL
sometimes i come on here after yall post and i just wanna kill….MYSELF.
aren’t we all guilty of this….yesss i use 2 do this alot wen i was younger but since i have grown up i still do it but not as much. i realized that its nothn wrong with having small talk with sum1 and on top of that they can b a blessing n ur life just as much as u can b n there’s
I feel ya.
I use to work at this one place and there was this guy there that they wanted to promote and they were putting him on my shift. Just from the couple of times that I seen him at work made me really not like him. I complained but it did not work so I had to deal with him. I knew that he was going to be a nerd and a damn pest. Anything bad that I could think of about him I did. Well me and this guy are now like best friend and I would do anything for him. I am so glad that he came into my life. Since then I am the type that I will speak to anyone because a simple hello really does not hurt. Being this way has put many people in my life that I can learn from positive or negative and those who are true blessings.
I always soy now don’t be quick to judge.
I have to say I don’t recall every being guilty of this because I am such a people person I love meeting new people. I can say however that people have tried to ignore me, mostly guys and once I get them to talking I will call them out on trying to ignore me. 100% of the time they say either I look stuck up or high maintenance, lol, I am neither. I still have guys that I knew in high school come up to me and say I had such a crush on you in high school but they would never talk to me because they said I was too popular or I looked stuck up. I am very friendly and I hate that people judge me by the way that I look without even trying to get to know me.
Yeah..my mom raised me to treat people the way I want to be treated. However, if they appear to be a little crazy, which there are a lot in Chicago, then I wont make to much eye contact and proceed to walking. You can usually tell if they a little off after talking for a couple of minutes then it’s like…”I’m sorry…but I just realized I’m late for a meeting.”LOL
Yes JD; I can honestly say that this has happened before, but since I’m working on being a little more charismatic, lady – like, more polite, & just a softer person in general, I quit that shit like asap cause I thought about how quick I would be ready to get myself an aggravated assault with the deadly weapon I keep if someone were to do that to me. Lol. Don’t mistake the charisma that’s behind the smile & think that I can’t drop the charm & take it back to the hood if I feel we need to get shit poppin = )
Sike nah; but I am aware that different things come in different packages, like how homeless people are some of the most genuine people you may ever cross paths with & like just cause someone looks ONE way doesn’t mean that they are not the exact opposite of your own personal perception.
Also I try to do unto others as I feel like others better do unto me, & I make sure that I don’t do anything to them that they better not do to me if you don’t mind my own personal spin on such a common quote. Lol
But sometimes I honestly did it to people just cause I wanted them to feel how I felt for a long time, & in a way I guess it’s safe to say that that was how I tried to share the misery with the company that was around me. But from a loooooong time back, to the present & to the future, I will NEVER deny someone a conversation just cause of appearance. On True Life one time, there was a quote that hit me hard, & it was ‘for every person you see, there is a story you haven’t heard’ meaning that you just never know someone’s situation.
I’m sure we’ve all heard a story where suicidal person said something like ‘oh; I planned to kill myself today after I got off of work, but since we crossed paths & had this talk, I think I’ll take a second thought on it’ In other words, if you would’ve pissed me off or had an attitude with me while I’m in my suicide mode, that would’ve been all the final reason I needed to actually go through with it.
Do NOT put yourself in the position that will have you be the final straw to that broken person. Looks are VERY deceiving, & I can tell you that from first hand. When I’m out with the crew, I’m the one finding all things funny, making everybody laugh, being a goof ball, when on some real, I hurt so much inside from having zero self esteem to the next thing you can think of, AND in between; but you wouldn’t know that just by looking at me.
That’s why it is EXTREMELY important to be kind, & also humble, cause God could easily flip YOUR situation in such a way that YOU’RE the one being talked down to cause of the way you may look, dress or smell. EASILY.
I am just a little more Charismatic; & I approve this message