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  • KMonroe posted an update:   2 days, 23 hours ago ·   updated 4 minutes ago · View

    11 Things A Grown-Ass Woman Refuses To Settle For

    One of my favorite things about being a “grown up” is that I can eat dessert for breakfast and breakfast for dinner. But obviously that’s the child in me very excited to secretly be in control of the brain, when everyone around me thinks that a mature, 30-year-old woman is in charge. Joke’s on them, I guess. Irresponsible eating habits aside, as a grown-ass woman, there are certain realizations you have, and the more curmudgeonly you become, the more you refuse to settle for the kind of bullshit you might have let fly as a younger woman or as a girl.

    Being a grown-ass woman just means being a woman in control of your own life, completely and unapologetically. A woman who knows what she wants and makes demands for the things she needs. Those things sound negative, or maybe just scary, but they’re really not. Life’s too short to be a pushover or to just simply accept an inferior product/treatment/service. It doesn’t mean you have to be boring or serious and that you can’t be like me and scoff donuts or cold pizza at 8am and make eggs on toast at 8pm. It just means that you’ve got a solid idea of your priorities and desires. When it doubt, ask yourself: What would Beyoncé do? Because you know Beyoncé ain’t suffering no fools. Here is a non-exhaustive list of things a grown-ass woman should refuse to settle for.

    1. Uncomfortable shoes

    I spent most of my late teens and early twenties in some elaborate balancing act that always resulted in me nursing blisters. A grown-ass woman doesn’t wear heels that aren’t comfortable, and won’t settle for shitty, uncomfortable footwear. Grown-ass women don’t suffer for fashion.

    2. Turkey bacon

    Bacon is bacon. Turkey bacon is bullshit. That is all.

    3. A fuckboy

    When I think about all the fuckboys I put up with when I was younger, I want to dedicate the rest of my life to building a time machine just so I can go back in time and slap younger me in the head. Grown-ass women do not waste time on fuckboys. We’ve already wasted too much.

    4. Bitchy friends

    A grown-ass woman will screen your phone calls and unfriend you if you want to play the “he said she said” game, or any other social games for that matter. Grown women don’t manipulate or backstab, and it’s a huge relief that we no longer have to put up with high school style antics from people just to have friends.

    5. Body shame

    Everyone has their insecurities, even grown-ass women. But a grown woman knows she doesn’t need to settle for feeling poorly about her image, nor does she need to settle for anyone else telling her what she should and shouldn’t look like.

    6. Receiving anything “less than” because of her gender

    Whether it’s wages or catcalls from strangers on the street, a grown-ass woman becomes less and less inclined to settle for the status quo, and more motivated to stand her ground and make demands for gender equality.

    7. Noisy neighbors

    A grown-ass woman lives in peace, and isn’t afraid of calling 311 or the police to have it that way.

    8. Practical helplessness

    It’s one thing to be inherently bad at something, like hand/eye coordination. It’s another thing entirely to not know how to unclog your own sink or hang our own shelves. A grown-ass woman will not settle for anything less than practical self-sufficiency. Being helpless might seem cute when you’re young, but it’s much more empowering (not to mention convenient) to figure out how to use a drill.

    9. Bad sex

    Maybe you’ve been faking it in your youth, but as you grow up, you’ll realize that sex isn’t just about flattering a man’s ego, it’s about you getting your cookies in equal measure. A grown-ass woman asks for what she wants in the bedroom, and isn’t afraid to be fussy about being sexually satisfied. She doesn’t settle for laying there and dealing with mediocrity, and takes steps to make things orgasmic instead.

    10. Being “such a Carrie”

    No grown-ass woman settles for being called a “Carrie”. Or any other character from Sex and the City, for that matter. You are none of those one-dimensional, reductive girls. You are a complex, well-rounded, evolving human woman, and that is infinitely better.

    11. Anything she doesn’t want to settle for

    Grown ass women don’t settle, period. If we’re not happy with something, we change it. We prefer uncertainty to unhappiness, and we learn to be less afraid to express our dissatisfaction, and to ask for help when we need it.

    via BUSTLE Kat George

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      Kim Atwater · 2 days, 22 hours ago

      Hello! This is so funny but so very true when you’re truly grown you have learned you and you know exactly what you want in life and what you do not. I was telling this guy this on yesterday in Atlantic Station. I told him, trust me sweetheart this is not the trouble you want. He was like, I love a challenge. I was like, love, I can tell from your approach, your lips and mannerisms. This is not what you want or need.

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        KMonroe · 2 days, 22 hours ago

        uhoh!!!! Exactly!! ;)

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      1of1 · 1 day, 21 hours ago

      this is REAL CUTE ADVICE! lol well put!!

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        KMonroe · 1 day, 7 hours ago

        I thought it was cute too! I can relate with a few…maybe ;)

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      cynaamonjLTL · 1 hour, 1 minute ago


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      joyce · 4 minutes ago

      Very true. There’s always room to play, yet the things highlighted in this post are non negotiable. Major differences between a woman and a girl. Same gender different perspective.

  • JD posted an update:   1 day, 16 hours ago ·   updated 8 minutes ago · View

    My brother @pharrell just hit me and said, I’m bout to fuck the summa up with ”Where You At” @sosodef #dontbelatetotheparty

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      joyce · 1 day, 12 hours ago

      It does ride. CRUISING :-)

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      Kim Atwater · 19 hours, 49 minutes ago

      A pretty notable cosign! ;-) !

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      The Caterer Hitmaker · 18 hours, 54 minutes ago

      that’s what’s up

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      cynaamonjLTL · 16 hours, 41 minutes ago

      SMART MAN! :)

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      D-Mac · 14 hours, 52 minutes ago

      But let these gooks tell it .. Man whateva lol

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        ©o©o !$läñD · 14 hours, 26 minutes ago

        Song is horrible pharrel a fake nigga he gonna tell his buddy what he wanna hear jus like u

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      Spockis2bold · 12 hours, 39 minutes ago

      I like Pharrel BUT I think that’s the same nigga that looked Marvin Gayes family in the eye and said he didn’t sample that song but when they compared the sheet music the shit lined up….. Besides that how many artist that he has said was going to do so much with on THE VOICE and we haven’t heard from any of them… NIGGA @JD you are better off listening to enemies then your so called friends…. 48 laws of power read that shit my nigga…….Besides that, you were in the game BEFORE Pharrell him co signing means what? Damn times have changed….. LOL I listen to it in some headphones so I can hear the bass drop, it sounds better that why but you still got to deal with the hook and concept But anyway… I’m just another nigga talking… don’t really mean much we will see. Jump had a 1 Word Hook and Concept….just a thought…

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      D-Mac · 54 minutes ago

      Chi u dun become the nigga they love to hate like ice cube said hahahahaha

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        ©o©o !$läñD · 8 minutes ago

        Bitch I ain’t hating I bump chi chi music mo den u bitch I use to bump 1472 almost every day when I was in middle school n even had bitches calling me chichi the beat is good bow wow the one dat fucked the song up send me the instrumental n I’ll show u how it pose to be ripped on

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  • JD posted an update:   4 days, 2 hours ago ·   updated 1 hour, 6 minutes ago · View


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      The Caterer Hitmaker · 3 days, 7 hours ago


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        signal20pk · 3 days, 1 hour ago

        halle. i like my women a lil koo koo

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      KMonroe · 3 days, 1 hour ago

      Get it Jenny from the block!!!

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      joyce · 1 day, 18 hours ago

      Cute suit

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      1of1 · 1 day, 5 hours ago

      Oh OK, but SHE aint an OLD ASS WOMAN I’m guessing? (per the radio interview, I was thinking 21 and under like well damn ) ROTFLMAO, Anyway, GIVE IT TO EM JENNY, witcho OLD ASS!

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        KMonroe · 1 day, 2 hours ago


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        JD · 1 day, 1 hour ago

        yes she is too old for me,it would be fun but, she looks incredible !!

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          1of1 · 1 day ago

          lol!! terrible! ”Ya look amazing, I just don’t want ya old ass… ”

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          SPOTLYTE · 23 hours, 58 minutes ago

          He talk all that shit and gonna end up marrying Cicely Tyson.

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            joyce · 23 hours, 51 minutes ago

            Age ain’t nothing but a number. You never know what them, lol. But everybodyaain’t got vice grip, stupid wet that make a man holla oooo weeeee, goodie goodies :-)

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              SPOTLYTE · 23 hours, 48 minutes ago

              I think he might be scared of maturity and structor and commitment so he seek anything unstable so he can put the blame on them when it doesn’t work…… this is a mental complex and he needs meds… he a old man and a old man needs a old woman so they can share a rocking chair together.

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                SPOTLYTE · 23 hours, 41 minutes ago

                Me and my Bae gonna share a rocking chair one day. I’ll be damned if I get old and the nigga I’m dating changing my diaper and dipping with my car keys to the club to jump on a young chick and suck the life out my bank account. Nope that is why I stay in my age bracket.

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                  joyce · 22 hours, 53 minutes ago

                  That won’t happen cause I already know you gonna have the old and or young men stumbling over the words while they’re chanting the Campbell’s soup slogan. KMSL

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                joyce · 22 hours, 51 minutes ago

                the rocking chair ROCKS!!! Prime location for some freakish follies

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            Kim Atwater · 22 hours, 36 minutes ago

            Hell Nawl! I’m am crying! She said Cicely Tyson! However, that’s why they call it a preference. He has a right to desire what he desires!

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              SPOTLYTE · 21 hours, 52 minutes ago

              That’s true I know I like men with fat stomachs hard round stomachs, I like to lay on that shitttttt…. Good Lawd that turn me on when they shaped like toad frogs naked….. I just find it sexy I like making fun of it. I never liked men with flat stomachs I need to see a hump.

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                SPOTLYTE · 21 hours, 48 minutes ago

                Something like this
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                  Kim Atwater · 21 hours, 17 minutes ago

                  Girl, you damn sure have given me life tonight! You are absolutely hilarious! Gone Girl, do your thing!

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                    Kim Atwater · 19 hours, 26 minutes ago

                    Whatever turns you on Love!

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                      SPOTLYTE · 8 hours, 35 minutes ago

                      Like seeing a man looking pregnant. From 3 months to 9 months is sexy to me. I like it when they look like they going in labor soon.

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              joyce · 20 hours, 20 minutes ago

              Yet he has no type.

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            JD · 21 hours ago

            lol NEVER!!

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              cynaamonjLTL · 19 hours, 52 minutes ago

              THAT’S CRAZY..EVERY1 HAS A TYPE!!

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                joyce · 19 hours, 44 minutes ago

                No according to his previous comments. And I quote”iI have no type.”

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                  Kim Atwater · 19 hours, 35 minutes ago

                  It is what it is! I wish him the best with whatever he gets, likes, desires ;-)

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                    joyce · 19 hours, 31 minutes ago


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          The Caterer Hitmaker · 22 hours, 17 minutes ago

          i like milfs or cougars or whatever she just right for me

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      Spockis2bold · 12 hours, 29 minutes ago

      Crazy…. Jennifer Lopez AGE 45… Janet Jackson AGE 49

      The lies niggas be saying on Global….

      @ SPOTLYTE I got a stomach for your ass!!!! Come to that Eastside Shawty.

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        SPOTLYTE · 17 hours, 41 minutes ago

        These young Kats won’t support it like they do everything else.

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