blacklorente' @jlw32 ?
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blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 3 months ago · View
there isn’t a ”real” relationship in an open relationship. the person u choose to be with should be enough, and if not then u should not be in that relationship. for ppl who decide to venture into that world aren’t wrapped too tight in my opinion. if u truly love someone… and urself, why allow them to creep outside to do what they want and come back home too u? self esteem and ego issues come to my mind on this topic.
In reply to - PJ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : So a post sparked my curiosity. Open Relationships…do they really satisfy both partners? Is it just a way to escape the hard work of being monogamous? Is it really beneficial to the relationship? Or is it the woman just realizing her man is going to sleep around [...] · View -
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Dating & Relationships : 3 months, 1 week ago · updated 3 months ago · Viewwhy does it seem that the ppl with the most baggage are the most demanding, have unreal standards and really judgmental…. as if their situation is how it’s supposed to be.
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blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 3 months, 1 week ago · View
naw, not just u… thought it was just me. been noticing it for a while and decided to put it out there for some feedback. guess it’s the season for it and more folks are accepting it.
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Dating & Relationships : 4 months, 3 weeks ago · updated 4 months, 3 weeks ago · Viewwent home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the way our friend/relationship ended, but deep down i wanted to see her and i never got any closure from what happened, plus i wanted to see if i had any feelings left for her after all these years. she gave me what i felt was a sincere apology and we chatted as if we never lost contact. so much had changed in her life ( separated with two kids) but all together she said she was doing good. for me, i had a bunch of emotions going through me at this point and i found out i think i still love her and have feelings for here after all this time. i played it cool and didn’t mention to her how i was feeling, but i think she knew. now i’m conflicted on what i should do about my feelings and if i should even ask about how she feels. i’ve come so far emotionally and don’t want to go backwards. Any advice???
Run
Haha I agree tho
why?
Run… Run far and FAST!
why?
Whts LOVE without tragedy!!!
a fairy tale, but agree 100%!
As long as you can forgive her its worth a try its better to know what you feel is real than to never know and have regrets….Live your life take a risk… Life is to short to wonder about what if…IJS However in the end its your decision and you already know what you wanna do dont look for us to justify your decision.
saying i wanted advice was a bad choice of words, i meant more like feed back. i brought it here to get unbiased opinions from people on the outside looking in. being in these kind of situations can cloud ones judgement and i just wanted some fresh minds to chime in on it. but i have finally completely forgiven her, just not sure what to do. good looks on the input though!
You’ll never know what will be if you don’t let it be!!!!! if it means anything to you, it’s worth the effort.
so right, but i don’t want to be so wrong. caught in a damned if i do, damned if i don’t situation it seems.
not afraid of the rejection, just having what happened in past possibly reoccur. as for the kids, that could possibly complicate things and it’s something i’d really have to consider.
just be friends
probably what it’ll be, but i always think we could have been great together…. that’s the part that gets me cause she didn’t complete me, but complimented me and that’s what’s been hard to find since we last had dealings with each other.
If she Tells you that, then hey give it a try, if not just be friends
even if she felt that way, not sure she’d say it for fears in me rejecting her. i mean she was wrong and knows it, and knows how spiteful i can be just to make a point. not saying i’d do it, but i have had time to play that situation over in my head if given the chance.
i agree with people changing with time… for better and for worse. i just don’t wanna put myself out there again to be hurt again by the same person. like they say, fool me once… shame on u, fool me twice… shame on me.
I tried something similar some time ago, and my advice is: say it. If you don’t tell her, your emotions will fight you every day so and literally break you down. And no body deserves that. And I dont even think you should get together with her. She got away from you, got children and IF she wants you.. you’re a terrible bounce back.
Hope this helps you! Best of luck and God bless!it’s been a struggle for me, but i appreciate the input.
Keep talking and see what happens. Just remember, if you two do get back together, if there were any cross feelings at any time in the relationship before you split, they will come back. I can 100% promise you this. It never fails, I don’t care what anybody says. If you feel that you can overcome those feelings if you do get back together, give it a shot. Every healthy relationship has it’s downs. It wouldn’t be right if it didn’t. The bliss in the beginnings of a new relationship will never stay at it’s highest point. Communication and trust are two of the biggest factors in a relationship, without those, you have nothing.
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blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
it’s been a struggle for me, but i appreciate the input.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
even if she felt that way, not sure she’d say it for fears in me rejecting her. i mean she was wrong and knows it, and knows how spiteful i can be just to make a point. not saying i’d do it, but i have had time to play that situation over in my head if given the chance.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
threw my line to see what happened. seems to be the new place to be phony and play games. met people but it’s the same old bullshit except people are hiding behind screen names. for me it’s a much cheaper way to try and meet people who really aren’t that interesting that i don’t have to worry about stalking me when reality for both parties set in.
In reply to - Rashon posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : What do y’all think of online dating? Would you do it? · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
probably what it’ll be, but i always think we could have been great together…. that’s the part that gets me cause she didn’t complete me, but complimented me and that’s what’s been hard to find since we last had dealings with each other.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
so right, but i don’t want to be so wrong. caught in a damned if i do, damned if i don’t situation it seems.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
saying i wanted advice was a bad choice of words, i meant more like feed back. i brought it here to get unbiased opinions from people on the outside looking in. being in these kind of situations can cloud ones judgement and i just wanted some fresh minds to chime in on it. but i have finally completely forgiven her, just not sure what to do. good looks on the input though!
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
a fairy tale, but agree 100%!
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
i agree with people changing with time… for better and for worse. i just don’t wanna put myself out there again to be hurt again by the same person. like they say, fool me once… shame on u, fool me twice… shame on me.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
why?
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
not afraid of the rejection, just having what happened in past possibly reoccur. as for the kids, that could possibly complicate things and it’s something i’d really have to consider.
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
why?
In reply to - blacklorente’ posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : went home for the holidays and had drinks with last woman that broke my heart some years ago. hadn’t seen her in about 8 years, she found me on face book, reached out and wanted to meet. originally i wasn’t going to do it because of the [...] · View -
blacklorente’ posted a new activity comment: 4 months, 3 weeks ago · View
definitely more than just a four letter word
In reply to - joyce posted an update in the group Dating & Relationships : Love can just be a passing phrase if you don’t understand what it means and or how to recieve it. · View -
blacklorente’ posted an update in the group
Dating & Relationships : 5 months, 3 weeks ago · updated 5 months ago · Viewhad a random conversation about not having kids at this point in my life (34). someone suggested if they met a person in this day and age with no kids that something is wrong with them. i figured i’d bring it here and ask the group if a person, my age or not, is weird or has a problem cause they don’t have or want any kids yet?
Bibically it’s beter to stay single if possible. Therefore if you’re not ready it’s your choice and reguardless of what anyone says you’ve gotta do you.
Damn I thought nobody else peeped that.
naw, not just u… thought it was just me. been noticing it for a while and decided to put it out there for some feedback. guess it’s the season for it and more folks are accepting it.
lol, aint that the truth!!!