11 Things A Grown-Ass Woman Refuses To Settle For
One of my favorite things about being a “grown up” is that I can eat dessert for breakfast and breakfast for dinner. But obviously that’s the child in me very excited to secretly be in control of the brain, when everyone around me thinks that a mature, 30-year-old woman is in charge. Joke’s on them, I guess. Irresponsible eating habits aside, as a grown-ass woman, there are certain realizations you have, and the more curmudgeonly you become, the more you refuse to settle for the kind of bullshit you might have let fly as a younger woman or as a girl.
Being a grown-ass woman just means being a woman in control of your own life, completely and unapologetically. A woman who knows what she wants and makes demands for the things she needs. Those things sound negative, or maybe just scary, but they’re really not. Life’s too short to be a pushover or to just simply accept an inferior product/treatment/service. It doesn’t mean you have to be boring or serious and that you can’t be like me and scoff donuts or cold pizza at 8am and make eggs on toast at 8pm. It just means that you’ve got a solid idea of your priorities and desires. When it doubt, ask yourself: What would Beyoncé do? Because you know Beyoncé ain’t suffering no fools. Here is a non-exhaustive list of things a grown-ass woman should refuse to settle for.
1. Uncomfortable shoes
I spent most of my late teens and early twenties in some elaborate balancing act that always resulted in me nursing blisters. A grown-ass woman doesn’t wear heels that aren’t comfortable, and won’t settle for shitty, uncomfortable footwear. Grown-ass women don’t suffer for fashion.
2. Turkey bacon
Bacon is bacon. Turkey bacon is bullshit. That is all.
3. A fuckboy
When I think about all the fuckboys I put up with when I was younger, I want to dedicate the rest of my life to building a time machine just so I can go back in time and slap younger me in the head. Grown-ass women do not waste time on fuckboys. We’ve already wasted too much.
4. Bitchy friends
A grown-ass woman will screen your phone calls and unfriend you if you want to play the “he said she said” game, or any other social games for that matter. Grown women don’t manipulate or backstab, and it’s a huge relief that we no longer have to put up with high school style antics from people just to have friends.
5. Body shame
Everyone has their insecurities, even grown-ass women. But a grown woman knows she doesn’t need to settle for feeling poorly about her image, nor does she need to settle for anyone else telling her what she should and shouldn’t look like.
6. Receiving anything “less than” because of her gender
Whether it’s wages or catcalls from strangers on the street, a grown-ass woman becomes less and less inclined to settle for the status quo, and more motivated to stand her ground and make demands for gender equality.
7. Noisy neighbors
A grown-ass woman lives in peace, and isn’t afraid of calling 311 or the police to have it that way.
8. Practical helplessness
It’s one thing to be inherently bad at something, like hand/eye coordination. It’s another thing entirely to not know how to unclog your own sink or hang our own shelves. A grown-ass woman will not settle for anything less than practical self-sufficiency. Being helpless might seem cute when you’re young, but it’s much more empowering (not to mention convenient) to figure out how to use a drill.
9. Bad sex
Maybe you’ve been faking it in your youth, but as you grow up, you’ll realize that sex isn’t just about flattering a man’s ego, it’s about you getting your cookies in equal measure. A grown-ass woman asks for what she wants in the bedroom, and isn’t afraid to be fussy about being sexually satisfied. She doesn’t settle for laying there and dealing with mediocrity, and takes steps to make things orgasmic instead.
10. Being “such a Carrie”
No grown-ass woman settles for being called a “Carrie”. Or any other character from Sex and the City, for that matter. You are none of those one-dimensional, reductive girls. You are a complex, well-rounded, evolving human woman, and that is infinitely better.
11. Anything she doesn’t want to settle for
Grown ass women don’t settle, period. If we’re not happy with something, we change it. We prefer uncertainty to unhappiness, and we learn to be less afraid to express our dissatisfaction, and to ask for help when we need it.
via BUSTLE Kat George
Hello! This is so funny but so very true when you’re truly grown you have learned you and you know exactly what you want in life and what you do not. I was telling this guy this on yesterday in Atlantic Station. I told him, trust me sweetheart this is not the trouble you want. He was like, I love a challenge. I was like, love, I can tell from your approach, your lips and mannerisms. This is not what you want or need.
this is REAL CUTE ADVICE! lol well put!!
I thought it was cute too! I can relate with a few…maybe all..lol
THIS IS THE TRUTH!! LOL..I REALLY ENJOYED THIS! TY FOR POSTING!! WOMEN RULE!!
Very true. There’s always room to play, yet the things highlighted in this post are non negotiable. Major differences between a woman and a girl. Same gender different perspective.
Lol at the bad sex gif lol where does that happen at cuz its no way in real life man have yall ladies ever had that experience? Must be only movies lol
DONT U EVEN!!
I need to start doing this I can’t stand DJs tho niggaz be acting like hoes I mite shoot one of dem muthafuccaz
Is it crazy that I been thinking of following djs home from the station n telling em they better play my records or imma be back
Start with finding out which clubs the DJ of choice is working where there trying to build a crowd, that’s when they will really listen, and if the like they will start spinning it at the bigger clubs they work at as well.
Nope I think I’d rather threaten dem it would b a better experience
“Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.” -Jo Blackwell-Preston
I can’t get away from facebook I got mad none supporters over there, but now that shit picking up I’m getting some love from family that wouldn’t help even repost. Shit nowadays you won’t know if the love real or fake, really I just grind all the shit works it self out. If you really want people to see your greatness and I’m learning this the hard way………win………. Everybody want to support a winner. Sad but true……. EXcept here on G14 I have gotten the same love from day one by the same ones and I guess I naturally gravitate to that love. I’m grateful for them because they the reason I keep going at times.
NEVER STOP BABY!! ❤❤
its funny the things that make you successful, & how a lot of folks look away or make up strange things to say while your evolving because of how ODD it is for them to accept …. that in itself is am essential part of your success too. People creating PR whether love or hate lol
a realization I discussed the other day….
halle. i like my women a lil koo koo
Get it Jenny from the block!!!
Oh OK, but SHE aint an OLD ASS WOMAN I’m guessing? (per the radio interview, I was thinking 21 and under like well damn ) ROTFLMAO, Anyway, GIVE IT TO EM JENNY, witcho OLD ASS!
yes she is too old for me,it would be fun but, she looks incredible !!
lol!! terrible! ”Ya look amazing, I just don’t want ya old ass… ”
He talk all that shit and gonna end up marrying Cicely Tyson.
Age ain’t nothing but a number. You never know what them cookies.like, lol. But everybodyaain’t got vice grip, stupid wet that make a man holla oooo weeeee, goodie goodies
I think he might be scared of maturity and structor and commitment so he seek anything unstable so he can put the blame on them when it doesn’t work…… this is a mental complex and he needs meds… he a old man and a old man needs a old woman so they can share a rocking chair together.
Me and my Bae gonna share a rocking chair one day. I’ll be damned if I get old and the nigga I’m dating changing my diaper and dipping with my car keys to the club to jump on a young chick and suck the life out my bank account. Nope that is why I stay in my age bracket.
That won’t happen cause I already know you gonna have the old and or young men stumbling over the words while they’re chanting the Campbell’s soup slogan. KMSL
the rocking chair ROCKS!!! Prime location for some freakish follies
Hell Nawl! I’m am crying! She said Cicely Tyson! However, that’s why they call it a preference. He has a right to desire what he desires!
That’s true I know I like men with fat stomachs hard round stomachs, I like to lay on that shitttttt…. Good Lawd that turn me on when they shaped like toad frogs naked….. I just find it sexy I like making fun of it. I never liked men with flat stomachs I need to see a hump.
Girl, you damn sure have given me life tonight! You are absolutely hilarious! Gone Girl, do your thing!
Whatever turns you on Love!
Like seeing a man looking pregnant. From 3 months to 9 months is sexy to me. I like it when they look like they going in labor soon.
Yet he has no type.
THAT’S CRAZY..EVERY1 HAS A TYPE!!
No according to his previous comments. And I quote”iI have no type.”
It is what it is! I wish him the best with whatever he gets, likes, desires
i like milfs or cougars or whatever she just right for me
Crazy…. Jennifer Lopez AGE 45… Janet Jackson AGE 49
The lies niggas be saying on Global….
@ SPOTLYTE I got a stomach for your ass!!!! Come to that Eastside Shawty.
LOL..NO WORDS!! LOL
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i really really like older women but now it seems like they just let themselves go after they turn 30. i dont understand. i been at the airport in orlando now for 8 years. i saw so many dimes when i first started and now i look at them and dont understand how they rotted away so bad. its like the entire game now is based on the young girls. i gotta bring the old hoes back cause this young lady is the truth
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