We want sex and y’all want money, it’s a trade off, just how it is. But the first week is rather soon.

@ Mi’chelle thats not always tru. I have had experiences lately where the roles have been reveersed. However most guys try their hand at sex with in the first week because most women don’t make men work for it anymore…..I mean I had women ask was I gay because I didnt try nd sleep with them right off tht back nd tht let me kno what type of niggaz they been dealing with and the fact tht their standards arent tht high. So it really jus depends on the dude u come across.

WOW!!

@blacklorent well damn if that’s all guys want they need to jus go straight to the corner and find a hooker and @devin dudes seem to be so caught up in a player phase they don’t realize that not females are dumb and nieve… I cut dudes off once u step over that line before ur time… I’m jus at a different stage in life and my businesses is where I guess I need to put my focus at

U will only be treated as how the guy looks at u. Physical attraction is 9 times out of 10 the first attraction so sexual interest is there from the beginning inevitably.. Now if he feels like he tryna wife he will do the other things first, if he feel like he just tryna kick it a lil fuck a few times then that’s it then expect him to bring up sex. Understand you have no control whatsoever of his initial intentions

Life Tip: Look both ways b4 crossing the street.

I couldn’t agree more. We all are somebody’s ex, I just don’t care to know him. He got to know better plus she in that circle of women who juice box come with a w2!

Acts like..talks like..looks like…..OBAMA!..hehe;0)

Looks like Idris Elba…Personaliity like Denzel Washington and treats me like David Mann treats Tamela Mann…the couple from Meet The Browns…

Ladies: Looks like Stacey Dash, Personality (enjoying life) like Rihanna, and treats me like Ellen DeGeneres treats Portia de Rossi

Fellas: Looks like the Rock, Personality like JD ”Global14 Comeon now – enjoys life, real, and hilarious”, and treats me like Joseph Simmons treats Justine Simmons

Vanessa WIlliams built Up in a Michelle Obama Frame with a Selma Hyak Sex Appeal Voice…… Or we Could Settle out Of Court for Nicki Nicki Nicki

Looks like T.I./personality like Kevin Hart/Treats Me Like Warren Campbell treats Erica from Mary Mary

Looks like Tupac, personality like Chris Brown (Talented & Creative) and treats me like Will Smith treats Jada Pinkett-Smith

Sugar, Me and us….

Taraji P. Henson looks nd Personality, Michelle Obama’s Intellect and Gabrielle Union’s Confidence nd love of sports.

Note all beautiful Black Women

Looks like Terrance Howard,Personality like Tyrese,Treats me like Shamar Moore did home girl in Diary Of A Mad Black Woman. Whoiia what a 3some lol.

walk fast and get a paternity test

THATS COLD!!! WALK AWAY THANKING GOD FOR ALLOWING U TO HAVE UR SANITY AND WALK AWAY THANKING HIM FOR REVEALING THAT SHE WAS A LOSER TO BEGIN WITH AND U ARE STIL ABLE TO PICK UP THE PIECES AND START OVER WITH SOMEONE THATS WORTH IT!!! BUT FIRST U MUST HEAL BEFORE EVEN GETTIN CLOSE TO ANOTHER!!! ITS A PROCESS BROTHER!!!

Thank you,sweetie…yes it is a crazy process

SORRY 2 HEAR THAT! IN JESUS NAME U WILL BE OK!! ASK THE LORD TO HEAL UR HURT..(HUGGS)

Just pack up and go.

I have no idea bc I have never been in a situation like this. Wow….praying bc this has to be a hard situation. Keep the faith. Ask God bc he is the only one that can give U the right answer. We as ppl are just like U. He has the answer. Keep your head up tho.

Lord yall posin some questions tonight that i dont know how to answer ….that’s a toughie cause i would be so hurt. first off keep the child out of it as much as possible and try not to let it affect his or her upbringing cause to me that’s what’s MOST important. people come and go but children are a blessing….next off —> please walk away. if someone’s not loving you i mean whats the point really? life is too short and there are better things ahead.

Thank you all for the prayers and kind words. It’s become crystal clear that she has no desire whatsoever, to make our marrige work. It just really hurts knowing that you gave your all to a person, who never felt the same way for you,but usedyou

If I had to choose…presence over presents

IF HES GOING 2 BE IN THE KIDS LIFE INSTILLING GOOD MORALS, AND HELPING WITH HES UP BRINGING AND WELL BEING..I’D TAKE HIS PRESENCE..BUT IF HES JUST GOING TO BE LIKE A FLY ON THE WALL..I’D RATHER HAVE THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT..

His mom.

His CD collection….and his stingy shirt that he loved so much…lol

what about them damn Nike house shoes or them damn jogging house pants

Yes. With God…ALL things are possible.

I think its a preference but if they strictly, strictly go for that type then ”Yes” that’s a problem.

I don’t think its being considered shallow… I feel like ppl like what they like… some ppl like a certain thing and its jus what they are used to… like I look at all the ppl I talked to and I have no specific type…

How can someone be wrong for developing there pallet? Your wrong for not understanding. Dating is part time part opportunity and it shouldn’t be wasted on someone not up to par. -my opinion

no gotta go with what makes you happy. it never bothers me when women say i am to short or they liked me better with dreads.

not shallow, but it could block u from receiving a blessing in another type. i don’t have a type anymore because my usual preference wasn’t good for me. with that being said, it doesn’t completely mean i will settle for some bullshit either!

Well i have a preference, but im not shallow…i like tall, dark, bald and sexy but that dosent mean i wont make an exception if the right man comes along to change that…

only shallow if your type is solely based off salary status and materialism

No the person is not shallow however you may end up passing on a great person because of your type.

I look for only asian, latin , mixed black and white women but you can hate me now!!!

When you focus on only one type i feel you are limiting yourself, i mean you have to be attracted to the person, but i do not let looks be the first determining factor, looks fade, but true love is forever, # weallget wiserwithage

I might conversate with different type of men, but I know what I want… And given that reality, ther’s no need in shopping and or playing game?giving men false hope…. Ima be straight with them and hopefully they can deal with it, but if not there’s no loss, cause they already know what it is!!!!!

Great question!!!! Answer… HELL YEAH that’s shallow!!!! There’s soooooo many wonderful people out there… And they all have different things to offer.
A few of my homies have a certain ”type” of chick they always go for… And guess what??? Those relationships continue to FAIL! Don’t get me wrong. It’s ok to have preferences (as I do), BUT keep your eyes open to other types of people. YOU will also grow, as you open up to & learn from other people. Feel me???

no…settling is never ok

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There’s some women out there that think the same way, cause they got endless options they’re not tryin to be locked down… And at the same time some of us are like been there, done that… LMAO!!!!

not being interested isn’t the problem. getting through the long laundry list of requirements is the bigger issue!

This really is a great question… I’m curious on that question and I’m concern with guys not being able to be honest with a female they are jus talkin t… like jus let them kno hey I do talk to other girls instead of making them think they the only one… lol why lie about or keep it a secret…

men avoid commitment cuz we cant take the heartbreak of it being over. we take it harder than women when we split with the one we loved, so to avoid the hurt we will avoid the commitment.

@ Moca nd Mi’chelle this really depends on the man your dating or in a relationship wit. A real man who has learned himself in and out and knows what kind of woman he is seeking will be very open to a commitment once he feels that he has found that type of woman. Now we know that we will never get every thing we’re lookin for but as long as your good out weighs your bad it’s not a problem. Women who meet men that have commitment issues have to realize its the fact tht they haven’t fully discovered themselves yet or for that matter know what type of woman they want.

I think what many women fail to realize (I had to learn this the hard way) is there are no magic tricks u can do in the bedroom or any magical meal u can cook to make a man commit. All u can do is just be who are and love him with without the intent of getting him to commit. If u love freely youre not setting urself up for heartache if he is not ready whole heartedly or feels like what u both share is not worth loosing. Its not always something that we could have done better or not at all when it doesn’t work out.

Yeah in many ways that is true, but a real man that really wants to settle down will. but for men that just want to be players and have fun they are having a field day, they def have lots of options

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90days is not that long..

@KMonroe HELL NO 12YEARS NO SEX I’M STILL WAITING

If the situation was right then I would.

If shes worth waiting for then Ill wait

maybe, because i’m looking at it a few ways

It depite on how the the sex oppsite condition.

It depite on how the the sex oppsite condition.

90 days aint shit if imma wife her, if she just a fling, she got 45 days

I would wait cause a gd woman is hard to come by however i feel as tho we are grown why do we need a time line. As long as its not the 1st night it shouldn’t matter. I mean honestly think of it like his way of its bad your going to be mad u waited all tht time. Then you have the question does your relationship end cause thesex is bad? I don’t kno anybody especially a woman who would stay wit a dude who sex is bullshit. Hell thts why some women cheat

Yes….. I would

yes i have waited that long, and it was with a female (cause ive never heard of a man with a 90 day rule)…clock she left me before i ever got it

Three months is really not that long if you really feeling that person… I mean whatever happen to courtship? That is the start of possibly something major, so why rush….

HEARD OF IT..ON A TALK SHOW A WHILE BACK..CANT REMEMBER THE SHOW..I WASNT 2 ATTENTIVE THO..

GTFOHWTBS…lol

never heard of that b4

Yes I have read of this condition. It is a very rare and real REM sleep disorder. Also the discovery health channel did a show on sexsominia. People with sleep disoder have been known to do all sorts of thing in thier sleep much life sleep walking of even sleep eating , some people have no idea they do this. Some who are aware take all kind of precautions to make sure that they do not get overly tired or go to sleep any where but thier own home. There have even been cases of people who tried to stop the the behavior by strapping themsleves to the bed one man broke two finges doing this. One man fell asleep at a party and attempted to have sex with a women who had also fallen a sleep next to him on a sofa. She woke up and was able to stop him , then ran out and reported the incident. The man had no memory of what happened and she could not identify him ,but he turn himself when he heard the police were looking for a man who sexually assaulted a sleeping woman a party. Due to his sexsomnia he knew it had to be him. Yes Sexsomnia is a true life sleep disoder.

I believe you because whom I call Handsome, now Heartbreaker, did this everytime I spent the night. The first time I confronted him about it and he didn’t remember doing it.

The last time I spent the night he got me took off my panties and got on top and got his dick inside and after a few strokes he came inside me. Mind you he was asleep the whole time, and woke up to a wet bed and freaking out after what he did.

I can can be wide awake and just in thought i’m already done… LOL, maybe it’s just me… but to answer the question at hand i’ve be there numerous times… I’m sure more ppl thann those that can admit it have been there…