TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

O hell no!! Hitting is a big NO NO! we breaking up and you going to jail. Cheating is deal breaker for me to cause it is hard to trust him agian after he been cheating. So they are both dealbreakers for me.

I’d rather him cheat than hit me. Sometimes a relationship can be saved after a Spouse cheats trust can eventually be gained back, but a beat down from my man can never be excused. You’ll never feel safe after an argument.

Hell Yeah. Hitting is most definitely worse because it may esculate to someone going to the the hospital or jail. If a dude cheats you could easily break-up with him. If he lives with you can simply burn all his stuff.

Hitting 1000% NUFF SAID

Both of the choices are bad lol! The problem with women these days if a guy hits them they end up stayin or scared that they might kill them. They b trapped and wrapped around their lil finger they dont kno wtf to do. My bff bf use to abuse her alot and the fact that she always had bad men n her life she thought this dude was the one for her.. Only b.c his phucked up country bumpkin cowboy saddle rat sniffin azz had her brainwashed. (lol) Now when he left her lawd she couldnt get over that for ages we had to talk to her seriously. Also her ma and daddy is divorced she dosent really have a nice figure to tell her about what to look about n life. Her mom always had problems findin men b.c she wants to control them and her daddy well he gone doin his own thang.. Ok I dont wanna end up turnin this into a essay.. Now as for me boiii both I swear if a guy hits me i swear imma b swangin.. (Thats cuz im crazy.. As for cheatin… Imma say it in my own words, if im in a relationship i would want u to b for real and truthful. (Like thats happenin now days lol) Anways, theres no need to cheat if u dont want me no more go ahead and say it theres more men n the sea for me to hit on.. If not ill put yo butt on cheaters otherwise Boi bye skank!

-neXtjj

LMFAO @nikesha Gurl you hit it right on the head!!! LOL I don’t take too kindly to folks putting their hands on me, let alone being manhandled by a bitch ass man who has to resort to violence to make a point. I saw too much abuse of all kinds (in my fam) while growing up and I’ll be damned if I go through that shit as an adult. Men and women need to work on their insecurities from previous relationships of any kind before starting a new one, and that includes the not so healthy relationships they have with their parents. You have to atleast fix some the past that is fixable to have a different life outcome as an adult…if not, you’re kids will suffer and carry on the same shit for generations to come.

Thats a no brainer… Both! Women shouldn’t subject themselves to stay in an abusive relationship(when a man is cheating or beating on a woman) because it’s going to get worse but jd you right about women staying when a man beats them because I was one to get beat on. I stayed because I thought I could change this person but I couldn’t stay any longer cause he kept on threating my life. That was 10 yrs ago. I got my life together mentally. I’m stronger and I’m more optimistic about what I want out of life. I graduated college. I’ve done so much to better myself that everyday I feel empowered to be even better.I just hope that a good man finds me someday ( hint hint usher)

Both of those are a big NO NO for me. To cheat is hurtful and disrespectful, but go to the extreme & hit me. That says you don’t give a shit about me, Im jus like a stranger on the street. There would be no question about how u ever felt about me, u should never want to harm me in any way. I believe a man is suppose to take care of me, be supportive of me, I should be able to depend on him not jus saying financially, but to make sure things will happen when they need to. If you love someone, then you take care of them. Hitting and cheating is not takin care me. Men who hit are men who want to control and NO grown person should be controlled. A real man is responsible, respectful in every way and his woman is treated like a queen. JD I read your book and I think u said that you could not understand why someone would not want to take care of Jane as beautiful as she is. She was used to being the one to take care of things. While that has nothin to do with men cheating or hitting, but Im getting to the point that a responsible man takes care of his woman & that includes not cheating, hitting or harming her in any kinda way. No woman deserves to be hit & same goes for a man. Women you can keep your hands to yourself to. All though I would never have the nerve to do this, but my grandma used to always say, “if he hit me he bet not go to sleep” My grannie was a firm believer about boiling some hot water! I used to sat her, grannie you goin to jail! She’s like back in my day didn’t nobody call the police. I feel either acion justifies you to keep it movin & get you another man

Hitting. I will never allow a man to put his hands on me for any reason. I won’t be controlled by anyone, it’s not in me to accept it. And that’s what domestic violence is about. I’m against cheating also but depending on the circumstances, Its not a definite deal breaker. Hitting will not be tolerated.

Anonymous why get upset with JD over the question? He explained why he asked it and it’s a legitimate question. Maybe some women who are getting hit will re-evaluate why they stay. Doubtful, but every little thought that could encourage leaving an abusive situation is helpful in my opinion.

My husband and I been together for about 10 Year and when we first got togehter we had some up and down. He try to play that hitting game but like I told him my MOM didn’t raise no fool. It was only when he drink he would gwt messy like a bitch . So he comes from being out with his and try to start so shit abot his friend saw me talking to this guy. so he bitching up a storm and I’ m like fuck off so he slaps me . I mean hard .Knock me down to the floor that nigga made ne cry. so i got up and like what u want to do. I walk to the bedroom get my baseball bat. come back to living room he sitting on the couch like nothing just happen.right. So without saying a word to him I take my bat and break his right. Now I didnot mean to break his leg I just want to teach him a lesson about hitting a woman. Trust me after that night I never had trouble out his ass again. He even stop drinking. Ladies don’t be the viticm. Learn to whip ass.

I THINK THEY’RE BOTH BAD.

WHEN U CHEAT IT LIKE NO MORE TRUST AND IM GONE.

NOW IF SOMEONE BEAT ON ME I WOULD EITHER LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP OR GET SOMEONE TO BEAT HIS ASS DOWN THEN LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.

SOMETIMES I WONDER WHERE U GET THESE QUESTIONS FROM….. HOPEFULLY UR NOT IN THIS SITUATION.

MUCH LUV TO YA.

ANONYMOUS OVER THER GETTING HER ASS WHOOPED AND CHEATED ON… BTW!!!!

YEESSSS PATIENCE!!!! All these other heffa’s on here fronting, and aint walked a day in any WOMENS shoes!!!!

If you hit me we threw. But if you cheat on me we can work things out. Sometimes women do things to get they man to hit them or get them to that point and their behavior warrants getting hit but it takes a man to fight the urge within himself to hit her and walk away.

Neither is better and both will cause me to end the relationship.

It’s worse for a man to touch u and physically hurt you because u can always always find another man dere is plenty out dere but if a man was to touch me i will chop his D**K off beliee dat

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Whether he cheats, or hits me….neither pain is less. Whilst the cheating may hurt me emotionally with no physical bruising, and the beating may leave physical marks on my body…either way I will be left a bruised woman! So…neither is better than the other.

Hitting is worst! They both hurt, but Cheating is an emotional hurt. When ur partner causes physical pain and suffering, and he’s the one who say he loves and will protect you??? Cheating could just be a mistake and can be worked through, but physical harm has no mistakes!

@ Charles Nelson, I’m sorry but thts not a shoe I’d like to walk in……I commend the women on here tht are being honest about there situations, sorry you guys had to go thru tht! Smh!some men are just idiots!!! Back 2 ? At hand…I think both are HORRIBLE THINGS TO ENDURE, BUT BEATING ON A WOMEN THTS A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW, FOR ME ANYWAY! I’m sorry u can’t whup my ass then we hug kiss and etc…ya ass is going to jail!!!! JUST LIKE JOHNTA SAID, IM CALLING THE COPS!LMAOOOOOOOOO

It is far worse for a man to hit a woman rather than cheat on her. No man should ever hit a woman I don’t care what the situation is. Cheating is wrong yes but it’s much more forgivable than domestic abuse. And you’re right you do see more women staying with abusive men than the ones who cheated on them and I think that’s just a fear issue. Most women stay with abusive men because they are so afraid that if they do leave, the guy will try to kill them or maybe even hurt someone in their family. It’s easier to leave a cheater than an abuser….just speaking from what I’ve observed not personal experience 🙂 If a man raises up and hit me, you’ll see me on Cops LOL But yeah it’s purely psychological. Cheating messes you up emotionally but abuse messes you up mentally and physically.

Hello JD,

I had two guys position themselves to hit me because they were caught cheating but was blessed not to get hit and you know the first one I just didn’t see him again I do not believe it was for the thought of hitting me but more of when I thought of everything about him he was just an asshole. The second one I was in love with something dearly but ulitimately left him because he was not loyal. I would like to think that I would not stay in a relationship where a man is hitting me because I watch my mom fight a few times with me and it was very unhealthy. I think in any relationship it is ok to agree to disagree.

Thank you for asking.
Patrice

These days cheating is so serious with people not being safe and then taking whatever disease they have contracted back home so I honestly had to sit here and think about this topic…but then I thought the consequences of cheating are not ALWAYS that drastic.
& being hit is NEVER okay soooooo I think the entire physical abuse realm is a lot worse than being cheated on (for the most part).

Although both are heartbreaking situations I would much rather be cheated on than hit because abuse is on a whole other level than cheating. physical abuse will leave me with bruises or could go too far and cause death but cheating will only leave me with emotional scars that i can heal much faster from.

Eather one is a sad situation especially if kids are involved.I think the abuse is the worst definitely. I have never been in eather shoes but if one is hopefully they can get out.

Abuse is abuse whether physical or emotional. I don’t think one is worse than the other because they are both forms of abuse. I find both acts completely unacceptable. I give no passes for beating or cheating. Abuse shouldn’t be tolerated in any form.

I currently won’t put up with either but have dealt with both, and verbal abuse. I believe much of it has to do with what I saw as a child. I will maintain a relationship with a cheater and a beater, however, they don’t hold the same position in my heart, regardless of what they think, they don’t get the opportunity to do it again.

I’m a fighter and speak my mind, I have been hit in the mouth for doing so. Not a nagger I just don’t take no shit. I was raised with three older brothers, I have taken a ass whuppin’. I have been the one usually starting fights, so in relationships I didn’t mind gettin’ my fight on. I grew up protecting my weaker friends and family. So I fought guys and girls. Today, I am so @ peace I don’t let my feathers get ruffled, however if they do, I’m equipped to get busy.

I’ve let a nigga think I’m cool with his shit, come to my house play with my tits (because I like that), get his shit boned and told him, “Oh, no you have to use that somewhere else. I told you I won’t be second to anyone…” He stalked me for a number of years and caused problems with another relationship, this is not the only one and I have had worst.

I see neither as good however, A CHEATER IS A LIAR, unless he/she makes their intent in the beginning of the relationship. A cheater is not honest enough to be up front, however if they say something like, “I’m not lookin’ for a relationship…we can be good friends,” he/she could be saying, “I just want to fuck you and all my other friends like you.” This also leaves him/her open if you’re liked to get more involved and if he/she doesn’t like you will keep you around as a fuck buddy. Just my thoughts and experiences.

Just because people support Chris brown doesnt mean they support a man hitting a woman. Everybody needs to keep their hands to themselves male and females. I knew somebody would bring Chris name up like he is the only man in the entire world to ever strike a female and NO it was NOT right but damn stop acting like 1) he beat your azz 2) he hasnt said he was sorry ashamed and thats not who he is and he is getting help even before he was ordered to he wanted to get counseling.

@ijusthkdifrent That is what I’m saying the day you lay a hand on me you will meet god I will Be on CNN and NANCY GRACE no joke I will be in Jail

Only 1 nigga TRIED, may he rest in peace.

i think a lot of woman a forgive a man for hitting them, but they can’t for give a man for thinking that they aren’t enough to satisfy them its damaging thought so that’s why i think more relationship end if i a man cheats. I think if a man its you it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you they just don’t know how to deal with the situation in front of them so they hit their women to show that they are in control………

THIS SUBJECT REALLY HITS MY HEART BECAUSE IT’S BEEN HAUNTING ME STILL. SOONER OR LATER I HAVE TO SHARE MY STORY TO THE WORLD ABOUT WHAT I’VE STRUGGLE THROUGH, WHAT I’VE BEEN THROUGH, AND WHAT I’VE OVER COME THROUGH. WELL, MY FIRST BOYFRIEND THAT I HAD WAS WHEN I WAS 13 YEARS OLD; MY EX AT THE TIME WAS 22 YEAR OLD. SHOCKING ISN’T IT? YEAH, WHAT’S EVEN MORE SHOCKING IS THAT MY MOM APPROVED OF ME BEING WITH HIM. AT THE TIME, I AND MY MOM DIDN’T KNOW AGE IS A BIG ISSUE WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE OR EVEN RELATIONSHIPS IN THE USA. BUT ANYWAYS, BACK TO THE SUBJECT. HOW I MET HIM? WELL, HE THOUGHT I WAS 21. I LOOK OLDER BEYOND MY YEARS AT THAT TIME. I NEVER AGED MAN, I STILL LOOK THE SAME WHEN I WAS 13. LOL! BUT ANYWAYS, HE WAS A GENTALMAN, HE GOT TO MEET MY PARENTS IN ONLY ONE DAY OF KNOWING ME WHICH MOST GUYS ARE AFFRAID TO MEET PARENTS. YEAH, HE STARTED GETTING MORE ATTACHED TO ME TO SOON. HE WOULD ALWAYS COME IN MY BUSSINESS, EVEN AFTER SCHOOL HE WOULD WAIT FOR ME TO COME OUT OF CLASS SO HE CAN GIVE ME A RIDE HOME WHICH IS OK, BUT I RATHER WALK. LOL! THE NEXT DAY, I WANTED TO WALK HOME, HE SAW ME TALKING TO MY HOMBOYS AND ACCUSE ME OF SEXING ONE OF THEM. I SAID FUCK NO, ARE YOU SERIOUS? HE GETS JEOLOUS EVERYTIME I TALK TO MY NIGGAS. THE NEXT DAY, HE TOLD ME HOW MUCH HE LOVED ME, I SAID, “AMM, YOU ALREADY LOVE ME?” HE SAID, “YEAH.” WHEN HE SAID THAT, I ONLY KNOWN HIM FOR A WEEK. WTF! AT THE TIME, HE WANTED TO TAKE IT EVEN FUTHER WITH ME, AND THAT IS HAVE SEX WITH ME. THE MOMMENT HE TRIED TO STICK HIS DICK ON ME, I WAS LIKE, YOOOOO MAN, YOU FORGETTING TO WARE A CONDOM!! HE WAS LIKE MY BAD. SO WE DIDN’T HAVE SEX BECAUSE HE AINT GOT A FUCKING CONDOM ON HIM. THAN AFTER THAT HE TRIED TO DISSCUSS ABOUT WANTING TO HAVE CHILDREN ONE DAY, AND HE WANTS ME TO GIVE HIM A KID. I SAID, “HELL TO THE NO!!! I’M A FUCKING KID MYSELF, ARE YOU SERIOUS? HE SAID, “WHEN YOUR 16, WE WILL HAVE A KID TOGETHER.” I SAID,”NO, I DON’T WANT A KID UNTIL I’M FUCKING 35, I HAVE DREAMS TO BECOME A SINGER, I DON’T WANT A KID TO EFFECT MY GOALS IN LIFE.” HE STARTED GETTING MAD AND SHIT. THAN HE SAID, “YOU DON’T LOVE!” I SAID, “WELL, AHHH.” THAN HE WALKED OUT. THAT’S WHEN HE STARTED DRINKING, HE STARTED GETTING VOLIENT, HE STARTED LYING TO ME REFUSELY, AND HE STARTED CHEATING. I WAS SO OVER HIM AFTER THAT. HE ONCE TRIED TO RAPE ME BECAUSE I WOULDN’T WANNA HAVE SEX WITH HIM. THAN I KICK HIM IN THE NUTS. THAN I RAN ALL THE WAY HOME. EVERYTIME I GET SARCASTIC, HE WOULD SLAP ME ON MY MOUTH, AND THAT’S WHAT HAPPENS MOST OF THE TIME WHEN WE FIT OVER STUPID SHIT. BUT THE WORSTEST THING HE CAN EVER DO TO ME WAS PUNCH ME IN THE EYES. I WAS SO HEATED THAT I STARTED PUNCHING HIM BACK, AND I GOT HIM REAL GOOD. THAN I RAN HOME, AND WAITED UNTIL MY MOM CAME HOME. MY MOM SAW MY EYE WHICH GOT EVEN MORE SHOLLEN AND WAS LIKE WHAT HAPPEN, I TOLD HER I FIT A GIRL AT SCHOOL. SHE WAS LIKE DID YOU WIN? I LAUGH AND SAID YEAH. I COULDN’T TELL HER BECAUSE I DIDN’T WANT HER TO STOP ME FROM SEEING THE GUY THAT MY MOM LOVED SO MUCH. THE NEXT DAY HE BOUGHT ME FLOWERS AND CHOCOLATE WAITING BY THE DOOR WITH A LETTER SAYING SORRY, THAN HE PAGER ME SAYING, “DO NOT TELL ANYONE THAT I WAS THE ONE THAT I WAS THE ONE THAT PUNCH YOU IN THE EYE, YOU PROMISE YOU WON’T TELL?” THAN HE SAID, “DID YOU TOLD YOUR MOM WHAT HAPPEN?” I SAID NO. THAN HE SAID YOU BETTER NOT. THAT’S WHAT REALLY PISS ME OFF. THAT’S WHAT MADE ME TELL MY MOM WHAT HAPPEN, AND SHE DIFFENTLY STOP ME FROM SEEING HIM. HE KNEW I TOLD MY MOM BECAUSE SHE CUSSED HIM OUT ABOUT IT. A WEEK LATER AFTER I TOLD MY MOM ABOUT THE FIT, I WAS WALKING TO SCHOOL, UNTIL MY EX GRABBED ME INTO HIS CAR AND TOLD ME TO SHUT THE FUCK UP. I WANTED TO CALL THE POLICE UNTIL HE WENT DOWN HIS KNEES AND TOLD ME, “WILL YOU MARRY ME?” I WAS LIKE, ARE YOU FUCKING OUT OF YOUR MIND? I SAID, “I’M FUCKING 13 YEARS OLD, LIKE HELLO, I’M TOO YOUNG TOO GET MARRIED. “I DON’T EVEN LOVE YOU!!” HE PUNCH ME IN MY NOSE AFTER I SAID THAT. MY NOSE WOULDN’T STOP BLEEDING MAN. I WAS CRYING REFUSELY, I COULDN’T DEFEND MYSELF BECAUSE I WAS VERY SADDEN THAT I HEART HIS FEELINGS. THAN HE DROVE 4 HOURS, ALL I COULD DO WAS CRY, I KNEW I WAS ABOUT TO DIE BECAUSE HE WAS DRIVING FOREVER. GOD SAVE MY LIFE, YOU KNOW WHY? I SAW THE GUN FALL UNDER THE CHAIR, AND WENT STRAIGHT TO MY SHOES. I PICKED UP THE GUN, HE NOTICE THAT HE SAW ME LOOKING AT SOMETHING, AND HE SAW THAT I WAS HOLDING HIS GUN, AND THAN HE TRIED TO SLAP THE SHIT OUT OF ME. ALL OF THE SUDDEN, WE HAD A REALLY BAD CAR ACCIDENT. IT WAS A 3 CAR COLLISION MAN. HE DIED INSTANTLY MAN! I WAS LIKE “THANK YOU LORD!” I DIDN’T CRY AT ALL. ALL I HAD WAS A BLEEDING NOSE AND A FUCKING HUMP ON IT. BECAUSE OF THIS EXPERIENCE WITH HAVING A DUMBASS BOYFRIEND, IT MADE ME THINK TWICE ON TRUSTING MAN. IT MADE WHO I AM TODAY, AND THAT IS A FUCKING STRONG BLACK WOMEN. THIS IS WHY I’M SO I SING! THIS IS WHY I WRITE LYRICS 24/7, BECAUSE IT HELPS ME GET THINGS OFF MY CHEST. ONE DAY I WILL TELL MY STORY THROUGH MY MUSIC.

I LOVE YOU GOD. THANK YOU FOR SAVING MY LIFE.

I have been on both sides of the situations and i can honestly say in both cases it is not easy to walk away because for one is the fear that you may have of the person when it is an abusive relationship you can say all day what you will not put up with but when your feelings are involved it is hard and being gripped with fear makes matters worse becaues you want to leave but the fear keeps you there because it is very real and traumatizing.Now on the other hand when someone you love cheats on you and betray the trust you put in that person and taking their word as a man professing ” I will never hurt you, I will never cheat on you, Im not that type of guy”. You believe that man whom you have given your heart, soul, and mind over completely and other than him cheating he has been the man of your dreams. And when you find out by him allowing someone else to hurt you with something he should have been man enough to tell you himself it hurt that much more and that is why it will never be a second chance because he did not love you enough to be honest with you and he betrayed the bond and looked in your face every day and told you what he thought you wanted to hear not knowing he would have had a better chance at a second chance just keeping it real. By him taking the choice away from you being selfish thinking only about his own lustful desires not thinking about the end results. And at the end of it all the only thing i could say to him was : AS LONG AS SHE IS WORTH IT AND YOU DO NOT LIVE TO REGRET WHAT YOU DID THEN SHE IS WORTH IT. And trust me you will be the one they always miss and want back because now that you know and the thrill of sneaking around is gone he will now forever be looking for someone else that will never make him feel the way you did, and that is when you get your satisfaction because now he has realized to late. True Story.

Wow Nakita!!! I’m glad you survived gurl. That’s some shit to go through as an adult let alone at such a young age as 13. God was definitely looking out for you. Continue to be strong and continue to share your story with others, especially young people. Please don’t keep it to yourself…

Hitting me is like committing suicide. Trust and believe if you hit me you’ll never hit anyone else let alone breathe air again. I condone hitting at all by a man unless he is defending himself from continuous abuse from a woman. Cheating is a no, But at the same time women have to understand that’s in a mans nature, and I’m not saying you can do it continuously. But men slip up and they’ll slip before a woman does, and we have to realize that. I say this though if it’s a constant act then let it go, because he obviously doesn’t respect you enough nor are you satisfying to him. But if it’s something that happened 2 times at the max with no feelings involved then keep your relationship pushing. As long as your honest and was responsible then we can move on. Trust is key, but you also have to trust your man to make mistakes and do silly shit.

YOOO-Anita… LMAO @ I was 5’2 110 at the time. LOL. Also I had something good to say but you fucked it up. Shit. LMAO. I’ll tell you on FB.

Women tend to accept both from men because they have low self esteem.
They feel the need to be shown how they are loved when they allow a man to put his hands on them. When they stay with a man that cheats…..they lie by making themself believe it’s a challange to get them to stay.

It’s called Prayer……….Pray yo behing up out that mess in your own head and you’dmake better decision in real time

Just my opinion…. and by the way I’ve been there and done that on both issues

Shalla Thangs
GeeGee

I’m reading some of the comment and the majority is saying they rather for him to cheat, but to me it’s the same damn thing if he hits you. It’s hurting you; I wish more women would gain self confidence and leave some of these sorry ass men, I know I have.

@AnitaLTL THANKS, I APPRECIATE THAT. BUT YEAH, ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP IS A VERY SERIOUS ISSUE ON OUR SOCIETY; I SEE IT ALL THE TIME AROUND HERE. MAN I WISH THIS SUBJECT SHOULD BE BROUGHT UP ON MOVIES, MUSIC, AND TALK SHOWS, THIS WILL HELP YOUNG GIRLS AND OLDER WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN IN A DOMESTIC ABUSE TO LEARN HOW TO WALK AWAY FROM IT THAN STAYING FROM IT. ALSO THIS SUBJECT WILL HELP THE CONFUSE YOUNG MAN OUT THERE AND OLDER MAN OUT THERE TO LEARN HOW TO CONTROL THERE ANGER. LIKE MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW HOW TO CONTROL THEIR EMOTIONS. WE ALL DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN WE FEELING DEPRESS, ANGRY, HORNEY, STRESS, OR NERVOUS. SO PEOPLE TEND TO USE DRUGS TO RELIEVE THOSE FEELINGS. LIKE I USE TO GET DEPRESS ALL THE TIME, AND ANGRY ALL THE TIME THAT DOCTORS KEEPS PERSCRIBING ME WITH PILLS, AND SHIT. I QUIT SMOKING AT 15 IN THE HALF YEARS OLD, I STARTED WHEN I WAS 9. BUT THIS AIN’T GOT TO DO WITH THIS SUBJECT???? OK, BACK TO THE SUBJECT ABOUT ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. MY MOM WAS A VICTIM OF DEMESTIC VOLENCE WHEN I WAS GROWING UP. IT ALL BEGUN WHEN MY MOM DIDN’T CAME HOME FROM WORK, THIS WAS BACK IN 1992 DURING THE TIME HURRICANE ANDREW HIT. MY MOM SUPPOSE TO COME HOME AT 7:30 IN THE AFTERNOON, INSTEAD, SHE SHOWED UP AT 9 SOMETHING O CLOCK. I CAN ALREADY TELL FROM MY DAD’S FACE THAT HE LOOKS PISS OFF, AND STRESS OUT. WHEN MY MOM OPEN THE DOOR, MY DAD BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF HER SAYING ALL KINDS OF THINGS, LIKE WHERE THE FUCK HAVE YOU BEEN YOU WHORE! ME AND MY SISTER TRIED TO SAVE OUR MOM, BUT WE END UP FALLING ON THE FLOOR CRYING OUR ASS OFF. I THINK OUR NEIGHBOR CALLED 911 CAUSE SHE HEARD WHAT’S GOING ON SINCE THE HOUSE DOOR WAS HALF OPEN. THAN THE POLICE CAME, AND ASKED MY MOM QUESTIONS, AND THEY TOLD MY DAD IF THIS HAPPENS AGAIN, WE WILL HAVE TO ARREST YOU. BUT THIS SHIT HAPPEN AGAIN A WEEK LATER, AND THE POLICE MAN STILL DIDN’T ARREST MY FATHER. MY MOM DESIDED TO PACK HER THINGS AND LEAVE MY DAD. SO WE LIVED WITH HER MOTHER FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS, THAN MY DAD CAME BACK TO MOM FOR FORGIVENSS. SHE FUCKING ACCEPTED THE APOLOGY AND WENT BACK LIVING WITH HIM. THAN MY DAD END UP IN DEPT, AND EVERYTHING LIKE OUR CAR, TV, ALMOST EVERYTHING WAS TAKING AWAY FROM US. THAN WE ALL HAD TO LIVE WITH OUR GRANDMA UNTIL MY MOM AND DAD PAID FOR THEIR DEPT. BUT STILL MY MOM AND DAD WON’T STOP FITING, MY DAD TRIED TO CONTROL HIS ANGER WHILE MY MOM KEEPS YELLING AND YELLING AND YELLING AND SHE WON’T SHUT UP UNTIL MY DAD TOOK WHATEVER HE FOUND AND THREW IT AT MY MOM, SINCE HE CAN’T PHISICALLY HIT HER. THAN MY MOM’S MOTHER KICKED ALL OF US OUT FOR WHAT HAPPEN. WE END UP HOMELESS, MAN I CAN’T SAY NOMORE. ALL I CAN SAY IS NOW MY DAD IS CHANGED, HE’S NOW A BETTER FATHER THAN EVER. MY MOM IS LEARNING HOW TO CONTROL HER ANGER SINCE SHE GOT DIETBITIES. YEAH, EVERYTHING NOW IS WHAT I WANT IT TO BE. BUT NOW MY DAD IS IN DEPT AGAIN MAN!! HE STILL PAYING OFF HIS CREDIT CARDS AND MY IS TAKING CARE OF THE RENT BILL. IF MY MOM DIDN’T WENT BACK TO COLLEGE WHICH IN THE WINTER SHE’S ABOUT TO GRADUATE, THIS DEPT THING WOULD HAVE GOTTEN WORSE. THAT’S WHY IT’S BAD TO BUY THINGS THAT YOU CAN’T AFFORD. PEOPLE NEED TO LEARN HOW TO SAVE MONEY MAN. THAT’S WHAT I DO, I DON’T EVER WANT TO BE IN DEPT. NOW I’M OUT OF THE TOPIC.

MY BRO WAS MORE EFFECTED BY IT THAN ME AND MY SISTER WHICH CAUSED HIM TO HAVE ANGER PROBLEMS. MY BRO IS A BIG GUY, HE’S ONLY 17 AND IS ALREADY 6’4.

@Nakita ck out my youtube channel my name…let’s make contact. In reading your story and trying to hurry to the end I had my own summation and as it turned out you experienced exactly what I was thinking. I was thinking from the beginning with him being 22 and you 13 no matter how fit you were, he had issues. I also thought mid way that you may recognize him in one of America’s Most Wanted. However, in the end I wasn’t surprised it turned out the way that it did. Too often in our communities we don’t share stories many times this is why black men/women experience the things that they do.

it’s worst when a person hit me becuause u are beating me. i can get over a person cheating on me, but putting his hands on me. that’s something that u have to worry about if he’s going to do it again and the pain from it. i just think that both of them are really bad and leave them if they did either one because i’m a queen and a queen should not be hit or cheated on. if each woman though like that we would have better shape woman today.

JD! BOTH R EQUAL IN MY BOOK! Why because in 2days world there are many std’s some that will even kill u..sex should b btwn two ppl that have decided that they r gonna first take the test and show they are negative..and b physical with each other only..Even with condoms aint nothing 100 percent..and Cheating is a choice and i dont feel as though my mate should put me at risk without my knowing..Heck if u want to do it that bad then tell the other person and let them decide if they want to roll or stay…ABUSE hellllllllllllll naw..see the thing with abuse is that even one hit can get out of hand..if u put ur hands on someone else u have lost control and I know from first hand experience how that can happen ..my sis in law who was closer than a sister was killed by her boyfriend who beat her up and had no previous history of doing so..Violence can get out of hand and is uncalled for..Men to see women as a gift..if u feel the need to cheat then do u and stay single…cant have ur cake and eat it to..in some way u will end up losing

What couples are you observing? Whitney and Bobby? And even in that situation they both knew hitting each other is not LOVE it’s some other crazy ass shit. As they say it’s a thin line between love and hate. If truly most women YOU know break up with men due to cheating as opposed to physical abuse I truly have to raise an eyebrow on the company YOU keep. An EX boyfriend joked that if he hit me I wouldn’t be able to do anything about it. So I introduced him kindly to some people that would. We never had to discuss it again. Physical abuse, even thought of hitting me, is grounds for getting your ass handed to you in one way or another. *GONE*