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OK OK OK!!!!!!!!! YOU GUYS ARE GOING IN ON THE OTHER BLOG LMAO!!!!!!!! ALOTTA INTERESTING COMMENTS THO. SPOCK SENT ME A MESSAGE SAYING ITS ABOUT TIME I GOT GLOBAL POPPIN LOL!!! WHICH LETS ME KNOW WHERE HIS MIND IS. BUT ANYWAY THE LIFERS HAVE SPOKEN AND ITS A OFFICIAL I WILL HAVE A “TALK TO ME” BLOG EVERYDAY FROM NOW ON. SO TODAY’S QUESTION IS:
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP AND YOU LUV EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER EXCEPT THE SEX ?

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  1. I cant even comment on that yet ive had great sex in all my relationships lol…cant wait for tomorrows talk to me tho! im diggin these threads JD im glad youre doin somethin interactive like this its dope

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  3. well damnn DUHH you find ways to make the sexx better…wats movies…experiemenet ……use props LOL and if shit juss aint workin move the f onn lol

  4. You immediately let them know, “Uh this here relationship is uh based on friendship, uh you know we can be…FRIENDS, ’cause I know I said I wanted somebody but really I need to be by myself.” Naaaawww I’m just joking I would tell them, “I would love to be your friend if you would like, but the sex is just not what I thought it would be. Not that it’s anything wrong with you it’s just not what I want.” And Be Done. Simple!!! Honesty is better than beating around the bush cause you can get lost in the bushes.

  5. Luckily for me I haven’t had that problem. When the sex isn’t all that, the relationship ends before I have to burst their bubble. LOL But if I were to end up in that situation, and trying to “work it out” isn’t working, then we’d have to have a chit chat. I can’t be in a relationship with bad sex. Just not going to happen…I don’t care how foine he is…just won’t work. NOPE!!!

  6. I LUV U LIFER 4 EVER!

  7. I would stay. If i have a great man, who respects me, loves me and takes care of me im gonna do the same and love him no matter if the sex is whack…thats where self pleasure and toys come in to effect

  8. IM SORRY BUT IF IM IN A RELATIONSHIP AND THE SEX IS WACK… I WOULD HAVE TO LET HER KNOW AND IF IT DOESNT IMPROVE THEN I WOULD HAVE TO END IT AND MOVE ON BECAUSE SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING BUT IT SURE DOES PLAY A BIG PART… SIMPLE!

  9. Jus cant deal with dat… Being a man sex is pretty important in a relationship, and if its not good, im not sure how i would be able to deal with that especially if my partner isn’t willing to do certain things to make up for it! 😉

  10. I KNOW ALOT OF YALL GONE SAY WELL DAMN AFTER HEARING THIS BUT IF HE OR SHE DONT CHANGE THEN CHEAT!!!!

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  12. Well you better learn how to tell your pratner what you want. A closed mouth dont get fed!!! It isn’t hard to teach somebody what u like and want done to you.

  13. That’s def a problem.. But the first thing that comes to my mind is maybe yall should shoot for being friends lol idk that’s a tuff 1 tho..

  14. Good f’n ?. I’ve actually experianced sumin lik that,
    But I wasn’t in luv so I jus slowly drifted away.
    If I loved him I Would probly teach him or get him to learn somehow or its over!
    The sex has to be good!

  15. well um…talk bout it try to work it out if that dnt work either leave or just get the fuck over it…lol

  16. I say “Well fuck it then……Give me dat becky!” I’ll get da sex somewhere else.

  17. Ok now I am a woman that will work witha brotha. However, when I was in that situation I cheated bcuz he wasn’t giving me the type of sex I needed. Looking back at it I should have just left instead of the drama of cheating.

  18. Well unfortunately for me that is my story of my life at the moment! I love my boyfriend to death and they sex was great in the beginning…we have a child to prove it.LOL. Lately tho…It hasn’t been the greatest. I had to buy a vibrator to finish the job…I know TMI. But I guess the good out-weighs the bad because we still have a great time together.

  19. YOU LEAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP! IF IT AINT RIGHT IN THE BED….THE RELATIONSHIP WON’T BE RIGHT.

  20. The best thing to do is just be friends with the person. Everybody is not compatible sex mates. unless sex is not a priority..in actuality for some people its not…lol when people say that USUALLY they got something on the side. I mean what u cant & won’t do to satisfy a person remember that there is someone who will and can….

  21. This is where communication is important. You have to make it known that you’re not happy with the sexual aspect of the relationship. The fun should be in discovering what works for you and how both of you can enjoy it. Hopefully your partner is open minded and unselfish and you guys love making each other happy. The worse thing is to go outside of the relationship seeking sex that’s when you’ve fouled out.

    But if everything fails and the sex is still bad, its something mental.

  22. Who ever is lacking needs to work on their game…From a male POV we love great head. If the head is dead nuff said…Foreplay is what most ladies love whether kissing, touching, licking, so why not come with that good head. i will slay you something fierce if the head is poppin too. I say great head is necessary. Learn that shit ladies. Check out Pinky or Carmen Hayes. Pay attention or lose him.

  23. Well my thing is i have the 3x sex rule. If the first 3x times you have sex with someone and the sex is horrible, you must leave that person alone unless that person has other great qualities aboout him like (head) lol j/k. But lucky for me i havent had that problem at least lately lol. I enjoy sex and its been an important part of majority of my relationships with guys.

  24. That’s when we play “Teacher/Student”. Partners can always be taught how to please one another if their goal is to actually make their mate happy.

  25. That depends JD. Cuz what makes it whack? if its the way he or she does it. they can be trained to do it how you like. but if its whack cuz he or she never wants to do anything to spice it up. or if it feels like a banana being thrown through a hallway or what have you. theres not much you can do to fix that. so you would have to decide whats important to you. the love you have for that person or your sex life. i wouldnt say cheat cuz real love wouldnt allow you to do that.

    if worse comes to worse you can do it your self once they sleep haha

  26. hahahah @anita & fillyiam. i’ve not had d chance 2 experience such turmoil and distress but i think if it was dat bad i’d take some initiative and watch some vids with her, not jus porn but dere’s a lot of educational vid’s out dere 2. if dat doh work…well give her “The Ghost” and disappear.

  27. Thats why ppl have sex b4 they get in a relationship..lol but if you so happen to get in a situation like that i suggest getting toys and start doing other things to get it poppin!!..Teach that dude how to make you happy…tell dude to smack that ass while you on his face…watch porns togetha…DO SOMETHING!!..lol i wouldnt ruin a good relationship ova it..good men are hard to find and we get caught up on the sex and end up with a dude with no job but we sexually pleased…mhmm it gets old!!..so i suggest you starting molding your partna’s if thats what you have to do!!

  28. OH SHIT! Then i’d say you gotta see if you can teach them some tricks, techniques or see if you can woop that ass into shape! And see if you can be patient i guess.
    You can lead a horse to the water, but you can’t always teach it to swim….
    That’s too bad when ur on 2 different vibes, but if he can’t cut it, it’s not gonna work 4 me.

  29. @jai I learned on Oprah that for some females its a sign of menopause if the sex isn’t what it used to be.

  30. yea btw these threads are a great idea…cuz i think all the lifers kinna want some more interaction. itchin 4 dat new LTL episode.

  31. 1st things 1st..U gotta b honest with that person becauz the relationship cannot and will not grow if the line of communication or trust gets twisted up with lies. Just sit down and try to reach common ground on how to please each other when it comes to sex. I’m tired of people lyin or ‘Fakin It’ while their having sex with someone…if ur not good at it, work on it just like anything else u wanna become good at.

  32. whats good JD, big ups to the entire movement…but without the sex it can only go so far, as bad as it sounds you have to have connection with someone away from the conversation. but the sex has to be something you look forward to (ie. make up sex, welcome home sex…lol all that) but if you cant even look forward to that then thats going to push you to look for someone else to fulfill that. ya kno

  33. …REAL TALK..MOVE ON BE FRIENDS..FIND SOMEONE ELSE…SOME PEOPLE CANT BE TAUGHT..

  34. If u truly love someone the bond that u have will run deeper then sex will ever be able to go. Plus a relationship that is built on sex will always fail anyways. But if u really love this person n they can’t satisfy u in the way u want then teach them until they get it right.

  35. Been there Done that – I’m sorry to offend anyone but everything has to fall into place… I can have fun with you and all but the Sex better be correct.. Life is too short not to be satisfied.. I was in a short relationship with a “short” packing man. I never seen a penis that small and thin but i decided to overlook it because everything else in the relationship was smooth sailing … after flexing my vagina muscles too many times it became frustrating. I only had sex with him 4 times … Since it was the beginning of the relationship I decided I wanted out – so when a minor squabble came up I used that as an opportunity to get out of the relationship. If my SEX TOY feels better than your PENIS.. its time to make a quick run to the nearest EXIT sign…

  36. INVEST IN STOCK AT THE ADULT TOY STORE, sounds like ur sex life needs a kick in the ass!

  37. The firs step is that you try to teacher how to make proper Love. And then if she still don’t get it you leave her sorry ass cuz you cant stay in a relationship of you aint happy with the sex you cant youse your hand like a stupid ass LOL

  38. I’ve had that happen before in the relationship with my ex. You do whatever is needed to add some spice in the bedroom. For example me and my ex used to role play, Id give him the key to my apt and he pretend to break in at night while I was sleeping and well you know know where this is going. You can also try watchin different movies, adding toys, also addin things like whipped cream , ice and chocolate helps. Or even having sex places you normally wouldn’t and the thril or someone catching you. They also make different gels and creams that help with both male and female arousal and in addition to this some are flavored, I personally like the strawberry flavored stuff 😉 Go out and buy somethin sexy and do a little strip tease for him, hell they even make poles that can be put up and took down. With everything said, there should be at least 1 thing that makes the sex worth while.

  39. @Heatha77 HOLLA!!!! That’s what I’m sayin’… You ain’t too old to play with toys! LOL

  40. yoooooooooo lol hahahahahha @BranayOC ur funny…dat is some very funny shit

  41. uh-oh. time for some serious talk and pray that the talk brings about some change in that department. nothing like having PHENOMENAL sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  42. to me sex is sex aslong as im gettn mine its all gud but if you wer serious about the relationship then i dont think its that important just aslong as shes trying to improve herself…. LTL

  43. COMMUNICATION!!!!! If I like this person and we are really vibin with each other, I would just tell him “babe I really like everything I’ve learned about you, but I don’t feel it like I want to feel in bed” Lol. Yeah, It might bruise his ego a lil, but afterwards he might GIVE YOU THE BUSINESS!!!!! lol
    Never been in this situation though 😛

  44. So what I think bout dat is, that u have 2 talk 2 ur partner if the sex isn’t good!
    Just because sex gets u satisfied and if u are NOT satisfied u’ll get depressed and u start 2 question ur relationship!
    Always tell ur partner ur real thoughts!
    Don’t just say what the partner wants 2 here, always tell him/her the truth because it would send u in the wrong direction if u don’t!
    The MAIN THING u have 2 do in a RS is 2 talk with partner about errthing that bothers u and be totally honest, no matter what the situation is!
    And even if it’s hard 2 tell a person u dearly love something that the person most definetely does not want 2 here, u have 2!
    If u don’t the RS will be destroyed time after time!
    The KEY 2 the door of an good working, happy and SATISFIED (in whatever way…) RS is 2 be 100 with ur partner and always mention EVERY point u don’t like about him/her or whatever situation u in!

    So dat’s wussup! JD 4 real, i will give u honest answers that come from MY HEART! No shit, real deal!
    I always question certain things and situations in life and dat’s really a good thing because it’s way better than 2 just don’t handle or discuss those situations in ife!

    IF U WANNA TAKE A STEP FORWARD IN UR LIFE, U FIRST HAVE 2 TAKE 2 STEPS BACK AND RECAPITULATE HAPPENINGS!

    So i would be blessed if all people who read my text would follow me on TWITTER, because I am new in dat thing and want 2 step forward and get some followers 😉

    Follow me @I_Am_Jones

    Thank ya’ll! GOD BLESS U! stay fresh and stay clean!

    ONE

  45. I’ve never had that problem because if I’m not fulfilled sexually my interest fizzles out pretty quickly, and I exit stage left. That may not be the right thing to do, but I chalk it up to having the right/wrong chemistry with a guy.

  46. I would have 2 break up with them. I can’t be in a relationship where the sex is bad, I love sex 2 much 4 that kind of bullshit. I know that sex isn’t everything but it is a big part. For example I had sex with this guy one time and his dick was so small I couldn’t believe it. It was like he matured every where else but in his pants. I didn’t want be mean but I had 2 stop fucking with dude just couldn’t do it. Now I can understand when u 1st starting having sex with someone, you have 2 get know each others bodies. Also need 2 talk about what each other likes and don’t like. But after all that and the sex is still bad then 4 me they got 2 go.

  47. sorry in line 5 it’s “2 hear” and not “2 here” of course! My bad! 🙂

  48. BAD SEX (on a regular basis) = NO RELATIONSHIP

    After a talk or two about it if you haven’t stepped your game up, I will be your digital girl.

    We can eye chat or something, hell even text me but I am on my way to the “fo-sho” house. LOL JD killed me when he said that.

    Signed

    The Perfect mix of a Lady Lifer and an Ocean’s Chick

  49. I say my girl is going to have to let me have another girl. SHIT!!!! I BE DAMN!!!!! My first thought was dump her but if i love her then we can work out some other arrangements.

  50. It depends on who you talkin about. If the girl is slackin, then guys should be willing to teach and have patience. But if it’s a guy there is no excuse. I say that because this society makes it so that it is ok for a man to sleep around and “perfect his skills” by being with several women. So he is expected to know what he is doing. But if a woman does that, she is a hoe. So women cannot be expected to know every damn thing.

  51. IMO…. Sex is not every thing!!!!! Dont get me wrong i love it but its not all to a relationship if the convo and interest is great then the rest will fall in place what attracts a women to a man at first is the personality and the convo the sex comes after……. Again this is IMO!!!!!!!

  52. I would not say cheat if you love the person and dont want to break their heart then you should just break up with them if that is the case your cheating. I never had that problem but if you love the person then you would try to make it fun buy some sex toys, tapes and if that dont work then you just got to kick them to the curb cause they just dont know how to have sex DUH!!!!

  53. WATCH SOME GODDAM PORN !! !! AND LEARN SOME THINGS , U GOTTA SPICE IT UP

  54. You have sex with someone else until u can groom that person to do the things sexually that satisfies

  55. i haven,t had that problem BUT sex means relationship for most men (BLACK) . SO IF YOU GAT THIS GAL THAT DON,T GIVE good sex ,i would suggest to talk to her about it because if you love everything else about her then that means you want the relationship to work and if you do then you have to communicate ,its very important 2 communicate .
    COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY – Talking and allowing both parties to have sex the way they want it, will lead to enjoying a happy and satisfying sex life with the one we truly love
    Find out why the sex is not good,it might be you,may be you deny her the freedom to initiate and have sex the way SHE would love why leads to her losing it so she denies you your sexual enjoyment.
    talk 2 HER ,IF SHE LOVES YOU,SHE WILL DO EVERYTHING SHE CAN to change ,she can read books,magazins,get help .what ever but don,t just make decision

  56. Personally if I love her i’ll keep with the relationship doing a great effort to keep going with it, but if the time pass , and we still together , I’ll probably have sex with other women lol

  57. Now it depends on whats making it wack like is it a scent thing is it technique? Because there is a lot of components that can go into a bad sex night. But if you love her and plan to be with her it’s nothing to get her “right”!

  58. If ur in it for long the run..u keep it real with urumate n be honest n tell them that we need to bring some more excitment to the bedroom!!excitement

  59. depends on why the sex is bad.
    people can always improve.

  60. @Heatha77.,.,thats wtf im talkin’ about.,I will go HARD on my bullet if need be!!!!.,.,I don’t have this problem.,.,but if I did.,.,I wouldnt mind teachin’ you and if that didn’t work well.,.,fuck it.,.,I’d FUCK the shit out of ME!!!!.,.,LMAO:):) Even though I have great sex now.,.,I still fuck with my bullet from time to time while having sex.,.,That shit turns my man on.,.,LMAO:):)

  61. Lmfao at nastysteve if it’s like throwing a banana in the hallway wow slippery stuff there but when u land on a banana u have to be acrobatic

  62. JD, holla at me! Follow me on twitter!

    I am ur man, just let me talk 2 ya!

    It’s 2K9, dem gurls are fine…always MINE! haha

    It’s DemJBoyz in da BUILDING!

    twitter.com/I_Am_Jones

    PLZ just follow me JD, I would like u 2 answer my questions!

  63. PUT GUN IN MOUTH, AND PULL THE TRIGGER. Bad sex effects all aspects of the relationship. It just will not last.

  64. @the_truth LMFAO @ the bullet!!! Got my ass dying over here!!! LOL

  65. JD and all u guys readin this…I am always wondering if a GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND or a BEST FRIEND/GOOD FRIEND is more important?! JUST HIT ME UP AND FOLLOW ME ON TWITTER @I_Am_Jones and tell me what u think!

    I am excited 2 hear ur answers and thoughts!

  66. oh if we have a topic everyday im here EVERYDAY. lol For today’s question i will say this. If he gives me bad sex then i find a way to make the sex good for ME. I will try to keep him as uninvolved as possible so he dont fuck up what IM tryin to do. LOL

  67. Hello JD,

    Wow this is a good questions because I was in a relationship like this for a minute. My first answer would be to find good sex but with thinking back I stayed in the relationship thinking with all that I was doing not just good sex but everything else he would be willing to learn a few things and satisfy me…..Not he was wack as hell not to sound mean but he was stuck back in the early eighties saying they thought I was the shit back then and I kept trying to explain to him things change and that includes making love to a woman not a high school girl. He wasn’t hearing that but he always kept asking for new things from me sexually in the end I just let him go because I got to the point when it was time to see him I knew we would have sex and I would just lay there and then I would go home and break out my toy to get where I needed to be………..

    Thanks for asking
    Patrice

  68. @the truth….. YOU A FREAK! IM SCARED OF YOU!! (not really)lol

  69. JD and all u guys readin this…I am always wondering if a GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND or a BEST FRIEND/GOOD FRIEND is more important?! JUST HIT ME UP AND FOLLOW ME ON TWITTER @I_Am_Jones and tell me what u think!

    I am excited 2 hear ur answers and thoughts!

  70. Getting someone to be better at sex can be a complicated task but it starts with low mileage kitty kat!

  71. don,t get me wrong JD COMMUNICATE – and see if things change .if they don,t get better then NOTHING can be done give your partner THE BOOT ,A RELATIONSHIP can,t work out if the sex IS Gabage.

    if the sex is not good then things won,t work

  72. I’m gonna keep it all the way 100% wit you. If the sex is wack but everything else is on point then that’s when you cheat straight up. STRAIGHT UP!!!!!

  73. LMAO!! @anita and @sean psalms.,.,LOL:):)

    @anita.,its the truth.,that bullet aint no joke.,.,LOL.,If you don’t have one.,go and get one!!!.,.,LOL.,SHIT!

    @sean psalms.,you are crazy!!.,.,its all good.,aint nuthin’ wrong w/ a lil freakiness every now and then!!!

    I promise yall have kept me laughing for the past couple of days.,.,LMAo

  74. twitter.com/I_Am_Jones FOLLOW ME real shit, answer all my questions!

    I wanna know what u think about everyday problems, situations and my thoughts!!!

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    THANK YA’LL

  75. @Tracy…… You didnt read yesterdays post your man might be fucking somebody else according to most of the lady lifers.

  76. LMAO @sean psalms.,.,”low mileage kitty kat”.,.,WTF?!!!!!

  77. I’ve been through this and it lasted 4yrs. I loved everything about him, he turned me on incredibly, but he was a minute man. Each time I kept saying maybe next time it’ll be better. His pride was to strong for me to tell him and I cared too much to hurt his feelings. For me, it’s a difficult topic to bring up.

  78. the_truth man i dont have time to be shopping, hiding the shit from my kids and replacing batteries every night. as long as i got a hand im gonna be straight for the rest of my life. LOL

  79. Sex starts in the mind so if you are in a loving and good relationship mental sex is continual and constant , by that I mean communication about what please you and that person. Real sex is for mature people who can handle a conversation about likes and dislikes and not being afraid that person will think you are a freak. A real women learns her body and is able to express herself verbally and sexually. You have to as a women look at your vagina and learn how it works and what feeling you get from all the areas it has. A man also need to know when a women is giving him Becky that is ok for her to feel around for your sensitive areas to enhance to release. So what i am saying is that SEX IS FOR ADULTS NOT CHILDREN.

  80. It depends on the reason! Smalls dicks and loose Pussy can easily be fixed its alot of meds out there. But lack of skill requires lots of training. I personally recommend pornos and strip clubs. Maybe trying roll play with the lights off if she is shy! I have seen couple split because of this but i have also noticed that KY products can make just about anything feel good!

  81. @so6e4evr Extenze dont work. lmaoooo if a man got a little dick its gone stay a little dick. better invest in some cunnilingus classes.

  82. Hey im not sayin…… But im just sayin!

  83. LMFAO @ Kandi.,.,you so damn crazy!!!! Well work the hell outta that hand then!!!!! That bullet would add a nice kick though.,.,That shit will have your ass speaking in tongue shit.,.,LMAO!!!

  84. i do that NOW. Cant nobody do me better than ME! lol

  85. If you love someone but the sex is that bad then teach them how to be better at it. Tell them what you want done and explain to them how you want it done. Plus try new things together like Role Playing or using sex toys. I don’t care how many people say they can be in a relationship with someone without having sex and love them, thats bullshit!! You can’t be in a relationship without sex….either they don’t like sex or they’re cheating on them.

  86. @Kandi.,.,SAY THAT!!!!!

  87. Well that would just completely turn some people off…….so in that case just wlak away…but if you really love/care for that person and want to stay wit that person teach em other ways to please you…start gettin creative…toys get it in ……other wise its just done….lol…teach your partner how to please you…no one knows your body better than you…and get that mind right too, cuz tha mind is a killer somtimes, if your mind aint in it

  88. OK, eventhough I have not had a problem like this yet I say if u r in an committied relationship then communication is the key. You should be able to tell yo partner what it is. Anotha thing is try to teach him or her what to do within seeming as if u r actually teaching..try something new don’t try to get yours without them getting theirs 🙂

  89. I THINK YOU HAVE TO TELL THE PERSON WHAT YOU LIKE AND CHECK OUT MANANDWIFE.TV LOL CHURCH!!!!!!!

  90. Im ambidextrious!

  91. @Kandi LOL that sucks. you just broke alot of guys hearts with that! My co-worker just told me they actuall have a toy called a “Reacher” that is about the the first 2-3 inches of the head that you put in first. Its a small Vibrator surrounded by on gummy rubber so that the guy cant feel it. The gummy rubber extends to a small thin rope so it can go up as far as you need it to and easily pull it out. It is battery operated. I need to go to more “fun parties”.

  92. mayb she aint givin me the uh in the sex tht i want therefore i wudnt like anything than her sex cuz its through tht im gna explore other stuff abt her and there can b no relationship without sex come on!!!

  93. @sean so you saying you can get us both off at the same time? lmaooo

  94. For men it easy, a pussy is a pussy! it the body thats attached that make it more or less desirable. A mature woman will listen to your needs and comply. Us women on the other hand get stuck with little dicks all the time and usually it too late when you realize you can’t deal with the shit. But anyhow, been there done that! Men who can’t satisfy are either selfish, or immature or both. If you are young, live a little it gets better. Everybody else, f*#K the toys cause ain’t nothing like a man’s touch. If you don’t like the sex and you’ve exhausted all your efforts, leave cause that ain’t ya soul mate.

  95. @so6 ok after reading that I’m gonna have to say HELL NAH. Knowing my flickted ass that shit will get stuck and I am NOT tryin to explain to the ER doctor what I got stuck up there and how…and that shit is a vibrator so you in the waiting room just vibrating and shit waiting for the batteries to die…HELL NAHHHH

  96. Love is so hard to come by these days. Talk it out and let your partner know how you feel and what you like, and see what you can do to make it better.

  97. I have been in a much worse situation. I was with this guy for a while. Things were going well. So one night we attempted (I say attempted because that is what happened) to have sex, because he couldn’t stay up 5 minutes. So I let it go. The next time the same thing happened. So I’m like what the fuck?! I asked him does that usually happens and he said yes! Needless to say BREAK-UP!!! This happened a few years ago. Well, at least I have not ran into that problem again!

  98. U LET THAT SHIT GO…its one thing if u have a relationship and u decide not to have sex at all but if u do have sex and its consistently bad for one person and u both have exhausted every possible thing that could make it better(i.e toys,tricks,etc.) and its still not working…u mind as well just let it go bcuz one of u is going to lose interest

  99. Communicate and practice. What works for one lover may not work for another.

  100. I AGREE WITH lablancaesdina !!

  101. @Kandi….for real, i’m not explainin that i got something stuck! LOL

    Where the hell is SPOCK on this topic! He’s still returining allthose phone calls from last night!

  102. @so6e4ever.,.,WTF!!! Thats to damn much.,.,somebody pass me my bullet!!!.,.,LMAO:):)

    @Kandi.,.,LMFAO.,.,I just pictured that shit!!!

  103. you think thats some shit. My co-worker who told me about it is this Chinese chick. Just before she started working here she got caught at her last job giving the Technician head. And not because someone walked in. But because her crazy ass sucked the condom off and ended up choking on it. They had to go get help! And she is sitting here telling me to type this just so ya’ll dont think im telling her business.

  104. @so6e4evr…where the hell u work…damn! don’t answer that, i’m just sayin…lol

  105. @Heatha77 Between her and her boyfriend (the technician) they have done shit that I didn’t know was possible!!!! So if you need sex advice ask those two crazy muthafuckers. LOL

  106. I dont wanna ask them nasty MF’s nothing. Giving head with a condom is for hookers. LOL

  107. @so6e4evr DAMN YOUR JOB MUST BE THE SHIT…YOUR CO-WORKER IS OFF THE GOT DAMN CHAIN LMFAO

  108. Well sounds like that hooker wasn’t that good, if she’s suckin off condoms and choking to death…that’s just a mess!

  109. Two words: Magic Wand. Never fails!

  110. We need to get this rolling blog style so we can reply to someone else’s comment.

  111. If sex does not play an important role in your relationship. U have no problem, just enjoy your mate.

    However, if you like sex and your mate is not off the wall with the sex. I guess you need 2 start packing ur bags, and go search for that mate who gonna rock ur world. Come on we all are adults, well i hope. Most of us want A Lady or Gentleman in the streets, but got 2 have a freak in the sheets. For me, if the sex is lousy, I want waste my time.

    It is simple as making a cake. Follow the receipe. If egss is one of the ingredients and you do not put the eggs in. well ur cake will not taste right. Follow your receipe for the right mate. if good sex is an ingredient to make the right relationship, shit. u better add it. if u do not ,,,, u will have a wacked relationship.

  112. I’d have to learn some new tricks, teach him. If that don work, we’ll have to go buys some toys. I’ve neva used a toy but the way ya’ll talkin bout it got me kinda curious. I don do the hand that shit like Kandi, dont work for me! Hell if that don work we gotta talk.

    @so6
    I’ve learned quite a few things from just havin random Sex convo’s with co-workers. You learn the most from people you dont know and its FREE!!! Damn a porno, lemme call the Denise or John from down the hall!!!

  113. shit fuck it sex aint the most important thing in a relationship shit nigga better get up and beat that boy shiiieeettt!!! lol

  114. @MisTif.,.,its ok.,gone and get you a toy.,.LMAO.,thats the safest sex in the world.,.,LMAO

  115. LMAO @trevor williams!!!!

  116. Damn sex aint everything but when you have bad sex it aint gonna work. On the real if the sex is garbage, we can just be friends

  117. @Kandi Do a bear shit in the woods and wipe his ass with a white fluffy bunny rabbit!

  118. @trevor

    True sex aint everything in a relationship, but you cant tell me that shit dont start heading south once its evident that that aspect of the relationship cant be fixed. People get REAL frustruated, attitudes get shitty and the arguments start comin. It sounds petty, but I seent it happen. I SEENT IT!!! LOL

  119. @kandi I had a lil dick once and that shit was the size of my freak’n thumb….popped out like that thing in a turkey to let you know it was done!!! LOL I just laid there hoping his belly button didn’t reach my nose it was that dayum small. That shit was gonna last!!! LOL I’m still tryna figure out how he made a daughter!!!

    I’m not gonna scroll up and see who mentioned teaching someone your spots, I’m 39…my teaching days are over!!! LOL Ended when I was 27. 😀

  120. Most relationships with bad sex don,t WORK OUT ,i mean JD IF THE SEX IS GADABE then things won,t work out BECAUSE
    1 the toughest problem to tackle is dealing with a bloke who keeps doing things that really turn you off, rather than forgetting to do things to turn you on. You really have to talk to YOUR PATNER about it, but pick the right moment. Don’t say it just before or during sex, as this will only put him or on the defensive.

    Say what you didn’t like, and give him or her a chance to talk about things he or she doesn’t like too. Find a compromise wherever possible, and move the conversation on to something positive that you both like and can look forward to FOR EXAMPLE – “You know, I really didn’t like it the other night when you started talking about your throbbing pork sword/called me a whore/wiped your dick on the curtains afterwards – can we do something else instead?”)

    If he or she doesn’t get the message then he or she is a moron, and it’s perfectly OK to dump him, you have

    2 -Suppose there’s something that you know you really like, but it doesn’t happen often enough. Prompt him or her into action with a choice comment like : “Do you remember when we went to that restaurant/did it on the beach/wrestled covered in baby oil? That was such a BIG turn on…” Any fella with a bit of common sense will no you want it again

    There’s also the one-for-you and one-for-me ploy, which is great for when you’d like to try something new. Whisper in their ears that you’d like to know about their fantasies, and make sure you tell them all about yours. The downside of this one is that when they finally get round to buying those satin sheets you love the look of, they’ll be ruined by the chocolate sauce he fancies.

    3- You want to be touched in a particular place or way, but are sick of asking/ explaining? Just gently guide his or her hands to where you want them. You want oral sex but he’s a bit backwards in coming forwards? Get into bed upside down. You get the idea

  121. Ummmmm, how do u get to the point where you’re in love and the sex is weak? Sex is a MAJOR part of a relationship. When things are bad, sex makes it good. Its a beautiful way to destress.

  122. Shit practice makes perfect!!!!!!you just have to be willing to put in the work, if your not break-up!! No cheating!!!!

  123. BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP!!!!!!!

    SORRY BUT NO RELATIONSHIP IS SUSTAINABLE WITHOUT MODERATELY GOOD TO AMAZING SEX… BAD SEX EQUALS CHEATING SO YOU WOULD PROBABLY BREAKUP ANYWAY.. JUST DO IT BEFORE THE CHEATING STARTS. LOL

  124. lol @ kandi i am down with u. WTF if it got stuck in there. Anyways i would come clean with him and see if we can experiment and stuff, cause if a girl aint getting it good, lol lol i have to tell him to get steppin

  125. Had the problem & in the words of Inty…”That aint it!!!” He just didn’t have it & sex is very important to me inna relationship. I tried to accept it because I did really care about him & he had most of the qualities I look for in a man, till we had sex, he damn sure didn’t have size didn’t know how to make up for not having the size….smh ALL bad. I had to let him go. Now if he’s willing to learn then I’m willing to teach. I still wait as long as I possibly can to sleep w/a man I’m feeling but I’m never again gonna wait till after its official to have sex

  126. i think if u really luv the person and the relationship is great although sex is important it’s not everything. Bad sex can be a minor flaw it just depends on how u look at it. For instance you could spice things and try something or somethings new and hey bad sex with your partner my force you to release your inner FREAk!!! LOL which could turn out to be a good thing for both involved!!!

  127. U call that person your damn friend and find someone that can work it in the bed to be in a relationship with. Hell yeah that’s shallow as hell, but there is no way anyone can stay in a relationship with someone that can’t sexually satisfy them.

  128. well maybe u should take some sex classes to enhance their sexual performance…try to be more kinky. lol

  129. MMAAANNN……WOOOWWW!!!! HAHAHA!! IN (INTYNATIONAL’S VOICE)…..DAT AINT IT!!! HAHAHA!!! I SAY LET YOUR PARTNER KNOW FIRST….B-CUZ SOMETIMES PEOPLE WONT AND DONT KNOW UNLESS YOU TELL THEM!!!! THAN AFTER YOU TELL THEM….IF THINGS ARE STILL NOT RITE….THAN YOU HAVE TO THROW THAT….UMMM….WELL BABY…..I DONT THINK THIS IS GOING TO WORK!!!! THERE IS JUST NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY BETWEEN US AND I CANT LIVE WITH DAT!!! HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA!!!!

  130. @sherrell I don’t see how an inner freak is gonna help make a bad sex partner better. If they couldn’t do their job with regular sex, freaky shit is just gonna make things worse…especially if the dude is vertically challenged. LOL

  131. I don’t think that could ever happen to me bc I’m a very sexual person n the attraction I bring to the table would n has been matched wit all my exs as well as my current man for 7yrs! I’m not sayin sex makes the whole relationship but it weighs in pretty heavy!!

  132. My Girl @sham nassim she talking some truth there! Get into bed UPSIDE DOWN….girl silly ass! lol

  133. Leave His ASS

  134. I would ask for a ” fuck pass” every once in a while. Something like an ” open relationship” , but not really.

  135. A relationship without good sex is condamed…

  136. @ree lol If you have to ask for a “fuck pass” then there’s no need to stay in the relationship. LMFAO

  137. AT FIRST I WOULD PICK UP SEX BOOKS AND TRY TO GET HIM INTO DIFFERENT COOL SHIT! THEN IF THAT DIDNT WORK I WOULD WATCH PORNOS WHILE HAVING SEX AND IF THAT JUST GOT TIRED AND HE WAS STILL WEAK IN THA SACK! I WOULD LEAVE!!!!!!!!!! CUZ I CANT DEAL WITH WEAK SEX..ESPECIALLY TILL DEATH DO US PART!! ILL DIE FROM NOT BUSTIN ONE OFF! ID DIE ALL EARLY IN THE MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  138. I can’t say that I’ve had this issue in my life…but if it ever came to it I will get all the sex videos I can to help a brother out. Communication is a big part in sex also you have to tell your partner what you like and don’t like. It’s all about working together.

  139. 9 times out of 10 us girls know that the problem is a niggas dick is like a pencil or is too short. All the talkin, toys, porn and whatever else people are suggesting ain’t gonna make that dick get any bigger than it already is!

  140. Who also wants all that stress if your partner can’t play ur body, when all you want to do is be at ease and enjoy the game. I don’t want to have to play teacher, unless i’m dressin up like one! HOLLA!!!!
    Roll with me or roll off me!

  141. @heatha cum correct or don’t cum at all LOL

  142. @anita…u got it girl! We on the same page~

  143. What do you do when your in a relationship and you luv everything about your partner except for the sex?

    It depends on how much time you have invested in the relationship. If you only have invested 6 months to a year (nothing to serious) I say quit while you are ahead before you really catch feelings.

    If this is someone that you truly truly love and you feel in your heart of hearts he/she is the one (in it for the long haul). You can look pass sex…If you love everything about this person you should be willing to take the good with the bad. If the sex was good in the beginning and then it went south maybe there is something you aint doing right…talk to your partner , tell them what you like , watch a porn together , go see a sex therapist, you be the aggressor you know what u like .lol.

    Women/ Men always talking about wanting a good man/woman then when you find someone that’s treat you like the king or queen that you want to be treated like, you find one flaw and want to call it quit.

    Don’t get me wrong I love a man that can beat it up like he in a 12 round boxing match , but when it come down to LOVE or Sex imma chose Love (and go to my local Sex Shop for sex) lol….Just my 2 cents..

  144. don’t have that problem but if i did…i wuld let my partner know & if he still aint bout shit den he’d have ta take his ass on!

  145. @Bootyinyoface.,.,LMAO.,.,a pencil dick aint worth the damn time.,.,tryin’ scoot and prop and position my hips and shit to feel some shit.,.,HELL NAW.,.,fuck it.,pass me my DAMN BULLET!!!!.,.,LMAO

    @Heatha77.,.,”roll with me or roll off me”.,.,LMAO.,.,I LUV IT!!!

  146. Let me say this…Don’t ever miss the opportunity to get your balls sucked or pussy licked! When your ass turn 80, you will be sitting there by yourself thinking about all that time you wasted with that b*tch and the sex was wack.

    Now, some may get mad but (f*ck you in advance!) If you choose to stay with that person, find a girl/guy that can give it to you right, and I mean suck the skin off a d*ck or lick the lining out that p*ssy, then give that B*tch a good ol check for his/her services(it ain’t trickin’ if you got it, review Livin’ the Life videos if you don’t know!) and then take your wife/girlfriend to the movies. POW!

    Let’s keep it real…Life is about making history, when I turn the changes in my book..I want you all to be ENTERTAINED!!!

    LIFER BITCH!

  147. @Moni whats your Horoscope sign

  148. LMFAO @Anita.,.,cum correct or don’t cum at all.,.,LOL.,.,LUVS IT!!!!!

  149. Yeah…idk….what if it’s not consistent. It’s been times when they can be on and then other times when they’re off. I guess you enjoy the good and pretend to enjoy the bad. LOL

  150. @heatha and @the_truth That’s my motto!!! LOL I’m too grown to put up with it. LOL

    @kikuchusss I cain’t pretend no more. I will literally yawn in a dudes ear if he isn’t taking care of business. It don’t take much for a man to nut but shit I wanna nut too dammit!!! LOL

  151. @anita.,.,I know thats right.,.,and you not being selfish for feeling that way either.,.,dont let nobody tell you different!!! LMFAO!!!!!

  152. @Anita.,.,btw im stealin’ that quote!!! I like it.,.,just lettin’ you know ahead of time!!!.,.,LOL

  153. LOL Its all good!!! Take it and put it to good use!!! 😀

  154. @ Main Chick I totally agree with you!!!

  155. well i know for me i’ve only dated this one guy and he really thought he was the pu$$y champion and him being my first boyfriend and first long relationship i just told him that he sucks in bed. as you might think those aren’t the right choice of words. i find if you tell him i like when you this and when you do it like that its better way to hurt their feeling if the sex does get correct the girl will stick around aslong as she can till she gets bored which i did now i’m single but its better than faking that partner is laying it down when its clearly a hit and miss

  156. Thank You @ Fatihah………Guess we both are suckers for Love..lol

  157. The only thing that comes to mind is the lyrics to Boyfriend #2 by Marcus Cooper. I would have a buddy on the side.

  158. Pretty Much!! Lol

  159. The answer on this depends on how I feel about this person. If she’s Mrs. XL material; WE are going to class. Not a literal classroom, but we are going to figure out where the disconnect is happening. Is it me, am I not doing what I need to do? Is she happy and I’m the one that needs more? Is she willing to give me what I need? I think this is an easy solve if EVERYTHING else is good for me that means we can talk and if we can talk we can fuck. (or at least figure out how to make it better!)
    If she’s not that one, let’s just split and be friends because our bodies are telling us that that may be the best course of action.

  160. sex is a major part of a relationship. Has to be good chemistry or the relationship will end.

  161. Get Creative!!! That’s all I have to say guys!! Create something that you will enjoy and your love will remember!! Duces!

  162. That is where the classic relationship between TEACHER & STUDENT comes into play. Both parties just have to be open to possibly going out of their usual comfort zone in order to please their partner. The art of “making love” is a beautiful thing when done correctly 😉

  163. I would try and train his ass in the sex department!!! if that shit don’t work…….in the words of trey songz: bye bye gotta go!!! LOL

    My homegirl always say if he can eat then i’m good! I look at her like bitch what planet u came from? he better know how to do the trifecta: kiss, eat, and f#*k! let’s keep it REAL!

  164. THE QUESTION WAS WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR PARTNER BESIDES SEX

    Answer: I Don’t have sex anyways waiting for marriage ya for me lol.

    Honestly you and your partner can go to church get more spiritually connection with the man up and above,
    Go hang out with family and friends let him/or she meet your whole family if you guys are really committed to each other. Do some charity work or something give back explore the world or something run a business together. Their lots you can do.

    LIFERS DO I HAVE THE TOPIC WRONG MAYBE I DIDN’T GET IT LOL.

  165. IF YOU HAVE A GREAT MAN AND HE TAKES CARE OF YOU AND TREAT YOU GOOD STAY DOWN FOR HIM JUST MAKE SURE YOU GOT THE BATTERIES ON HAND LOL.

  166. I think unsatisfying sex will eventually lead to straying. Me personally, I can deal with bad intercourse, as long as the oral is on point. As long as I cum some way, I can deal. 😉

  167. wtf just cuz the sex is bad doesn’t mean you should cheat, if that’s the case just break up with him/her or keep it 100 and tellem straight up. i had bad sex but not in no realtionship or noin lol so that’s all i can say

  168. OMG!!! If I could find someone that I loved everything about and the only problem in the relationship is sex then I would be all good. I’m single knocking on 30 yrs old, if I could find someone who was DECENT, FAITHFUL, HONEST, and still VALUES AND BELIEVES IN RELATIONSHIPS. Sex would be the least of my problems. It’s tough out here to find true compaionship, someone you love everything about. And who would feel that same way about you. If sex was the only problem then PRACTICE WOULD MAKE PERFECT! Everybody didn’t start out knowing how to fu@#. You learned how because you did it over and over again (PRACTICE) and you got better at it!!!!!!!! Knowing how to be good at sex is a learned behavior and I could teach a man how to do me right:-)

  169. aww man i am in that right now.. the only reason that i’m still with her is because of my son.. so i can see my son.. but i cheat bad

  170. Oh yeah you could also use whips and chains LOL and whip that ass in to shape LMAO

  171. damn……thats a tough one…….but if that did happen 2 me i would have 2 b str8 up wit her like ‘hey we gotta spice it up a notch because it’s startin 2 get boring now’. and if it doesnt improve after that then i gotta go find sum1 better…..i’m sorry but hey thats what it is.

  172. @mistif

    lol i feel you i know where you comin from but i mean if you really care about that person and love dat person then you shouldnt let it get in the way of your relationship i mean shit work with her ass and try some new shit until you find something that works 4 ya’ll instead of complaining about the sex i mean really when you in a real deal relationship you shouldnt want no body for the sex any way…..shit maybe she give some bomb ass head lol

  173. If you love him enough to make it work you pop a porn in and try to teach him. If the porn is unavailable ladies don’t be lazy take full control then he gone feel less than a man and he gone have no choice but to get things poppin. HARD WORK! BUT IF YOU DONT GIVE TWO CENTS ABOUT HIM THEN LEAVE HIS ASS FOR THE NEXT TEACHER!

  174. That’s the great thing about sex, you can always teach somebody what you like. If you love everything else about them it may be hard to bring up the fact that you aren’t being satisfied sexual but it is a conversation you should have. If she feels the same way, I’m sure she should have a problem trying new things (unless you on some other shit in the bedroom. lol)

  175. u deal with it!! i know sex is a big part of it but u can’t put a price or conditions on a good woman. so either u teach yo girl how it go, or u deal with the bullshit and get u plenty of lotion, ya dig!!!! lol

  176. JD yo! Like Kels say “…sex that I’m havin’ … IS NO 1” If she can’t perform teach her or tell her what gives you kicks. Explore, experiment and talk it through. It’s gotta be quality and quantity too. Feel that! Give her lots of foreplay to entangle her inhibitions and in the process her below gets extra wet prior to mandingo boning. Sex should compliment the relationship. If it all fails something is wrong with your manhood. You are the prob, right thurr!!!

  177. You try and teach. And u learn. Find our why the sex is bad. Is it because they are scared to get loose or are they thinking they’re doing a good job the whole time? You gotta be honest with urself and ur partner. You don’t want to lie but u don’t wanna slaughter an ego either. You gotta explore and try new things. You bring in a third. You start swinging. You don’t just start cheating tho. Cuz that’ll ruin the rest of the relationship. You make it work cuz if everything else is great why leave?

    Now if the case is that they’re just a lazy and selfish lover, everything else in the relationship can’t be great. What happens in the bed room is not that far from what happens on the outside. You should care enough about your partner to stay even if the sex is bad and they should care enough to work on it. Either way a talk, assessment and compromise is in order.

  178. 1st thing u have to remind urself about is they are NOT ur last partner, or any one of the ones you had great sex with, then help them to understand what you like, or what u don’t. I really believe in the 80/20 rule. So when u get the person who you can love on every level, cause believe me that’s A LOT harder than teaching ur partner ways to make the sex life better. Cause if I’m loving them on all other levels, that must mean when I speak about the sex they willing to listen and do what it takes to make it better, but if we not loving on the levels that mean the most, sexually it will probably stay bad, cause they not willing to change anything.

  179. @trevor

    Right!! Sex isn’t everything and sometimes in a relationship, one person did with someone else isn’t working for the next one. So we as ADULTS have to own up and kindly let them know and work together. I feel U Boo!! Ha my baby’s father is furious cause I’m not into giving head–YET and my belly (pregnant) is TOOO big to do anything beside hit from back lol

  180. I know I’m late wit this but sometin\mes you got to TEACH him hunny! Teach him what get you there

  181. If i love everything about them apart from the sex then thats good enough for me id rather that then a guy who i can have great sex with but treats me like crap, sex can always be improved anyways and you can show your partner the ropes its kinda shallow to dump someone becuase of that if there great in every other way.

  182. what!! well i’d let em know n if she don’t up her sex game up i’ma have to let her go

  183. open up a book lol

  184. just be honest from the start. within 2 weeks of kickin it with someone i have the sex talk with them 2 see if we r even going 2 be sexually compatible. lets face, we know what we already like and u shouldnt be ashamed about it. SPEAK UP!!!!! even after u have had sex a couple of times with the person, talk about it HONESTLY. but honesty seems 2 be the root of all problems in a relationship so most people don’t speak up. so people thinking their sex game is on point go on thinking that when the reality is their sex game is wack. dont be afraid 2 teall a person how u want 2 be touched, sucked or f!@ked. and dont be afraid 2 try new shit. there r some things u probably just wont get in2 but some shit is more mental, meaning u think u won’t like it but truthfully u never tried it 2 know. u would be suprised at what feels good as hell 2 u when someone else is doing it 2 u. but if u try some shit and dont like it, then tell them u did really like it instead of letting a person think they doin some good shit. sex no longer should be basic, u should want 2 try and make ur shit as unique as u possibly can. u want 2 make that shit so good that all a muthaf!@cker can do is daydream about that shit the next day anxious 2 see u again. but no one can read minds, especially women’s mind so TALK HONESTLY ABOUT IT. and women, dont be afraid 2 be the aggressor every now and then. guys want 2 be freaked out just the same as u do. thats all imma say. thanks jd. i appreciate u. this shit is a good ideal, keep it up.

  185. I dated a guy many years ago who was a real cutie. Black man, light brown/blonde hair, blue eyes, tan skin, and a real physique from playing football/running track. He was nice. He was a bit homely, but he was really a good guy and he loved me. However, when it came to the sex–he just was not take-charge enough for me. He was well-endowed, but he did not know what to do with it outside of the missionary position. I was thinking we could teach each other, but it turned out that I was much more skilled and willing to try different things than he was–nothing freaky like crapping/peeing on someone’s face and eating it (saw it in HBO Real Sex once and almost threw up), but just different. I had not been sexually active for very long–I had been a virgin two years prior to meeting him in my second year of college. So, for me, going down on him was new and exciting. I had never even had a guy go down on me at this point while I was with him. I liked him a lot though. I got tired of being asked “What you doing…?” I mean for real?! What am I doing? I am trying to suck your dang a lang fool will you shut the “f” up and enjoy it. I know I am good. I got good hands, I can work my mouth, and my tongue. I knew how to use my vaginal muscles too. It was not like I was biting his tip or something. lol I just got tired of saying to him “uh that ain’t it”, “aim higher” and that is not my p*ssy. I do NOT take it up the azz–so sorry that is the only place a man is not going. I am not going to have my sh*t falling out because the elasticity is gone. lol It was more frustrating after a while. Then I met his mom and she was like — “oh, he has not brought a girl home to meet us so he must really like you” and that statement alone confirmed to me that he had never really been serious with a girl or that intimate either. Anyway, I stayed with him for three years and finally I just had to say goodbye. He still calls my parents to see how I am doing and we were friends afterwards, but my love for him just fizzled out because a combination of things and not just the sex. I guess if I never had sex and had waited until marriage like I had orginally planned (lol) I would have never known the difference, but I did know that I was not pleased at being the “teacher” with the “unwilling student” all of the time. I still think he was a good guy. Other than that, we did what everybody else did go out on dates. That’s all we could do in college.

  186. i say work together to make it better. Read watch videos or something

  187. Not to sound shallow but….if the sex is wack, we my not make it past the “like” stage let alone make it to “love” since the question said love everything about them. There are ways to improve sex especially if its wack just because the person is inexperienced…actually that’s the best cause then u can teach them to do it the way you like.

  188. I have been there, he is now happily with someone who is not into sex [a direct quote] and does not want to change his jack-rabbit missionary fun.

    I would try to work on it, but he would have to be willing to be a student to what turns me on and I would have to be open on what turns him on. This is hard for anyone because your ego plays into your sexual bravado. Porn watching/imitating is the step I use to see if he is interested in truly working on it. You can give a lesson with visual examples of what you like and dislike. While having sex, I would encourage the position and hopefully he will enjoy the “splash/waterfalls” and would like to re-create.

    To be real honest, that sounds all cute and sweet but sex and sexual chemistry is a huge part of who I am and my relationship. I am willing to try to see if its a comfort issue, but if I can’t get that right then you are moved to the friend category. If I dont get wet thinking about you entering me, or I’m not thinking about pulling you in a corner when I am around you, we just cool and can not be in a “relationship”.

  189. I say try different things during sex to make it work? Role play etc…if that still dont work END the relationship..sex is like 95% of the relationship. lmaou

  190. @Kandi. I love everything you had to say. Shit’s mad funny and crazy honest.
    Well back to the question.
    I’d just tell my shorty that I love her and the sex isn’t up to par. Not in those exact words but I’d be real with her. No need to go somewhere else for what I can have at home.
    Just work on it and make her feel comfortable with it all.
    That’s about it.

  191. @misfit

    lol right!!! im with you on that and you just gave another GREAT suggestion if SHE isnt good at sex then just HIT IT FROM THE BACK and she doesnt have to do anything and you are getting pleased as well as her without her messing anything up

  192. Tell his ass like this. “look, nigga u need to get yo shit in line , I’m tired of yo ass getting lost everynight and I gotta help you find yo way. Either you straighten up and fly right or lemp to the left and get lost . again.” haha Yo. J.D these talk to me sessions are fun but you need to put in your input also. You can’t run a question everyday, and you don’t give an answer. Dats not wats up. Btw, can you tell B-cox wats he wit me reppin dat…Hustle-town, Tx BABYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

  193. I would make an attempt to coach my partner during sex. If that doesn’t work i’d talk to my partner about my needs and I would have a diagram (road map) prepared. At the same token i’d make sure my partners needs are being fulfilled, while at the same time express appreciation for what made us partners in the first place. If there’s a health issue impeding fulfillment of those needs, i’d look for mutal stimulus that wouldn’t worsen their condition. If that didn’t work it just might be time to let it go, depending on how deep this relationship is. Nothing but the truth, always FLAWLESS

  194. Well that is a tough one. Having good sex with someone is a part of chemisty that you have with that person. If there is no chemistry AT ALL, the sex will not be good. Now I understand as a man, you can force chemistry with anybody but afterwhile you will not be able to do it for long. The only option is to be friends or possibly teach the your mate what you like. BUt then again you can only teach someone so much.

  195. jus deal with it. without the rest of it, its empty anyway. u can teach them. i rather have a girl that hasnt been around and i have to teach vs being with a obvious freak (she had to learn from somewhere people) that i cant stand!

  196. If your loving everything else about your partner it takes patience and understanding to hold in there. I have been there and it’s the 80, 20 rule… you never gonna find 100% of what your looking for. So there comes a point when feeling safe and loved is enough, when you’ve had good sex in the past, Finding a good companion is enough (sometimes)! and alot of taking care of yourself too..lol. PS. This philosophy doesn’t work for everyone…

  197. Eventually the love is not going to be enuff, and you will dip out! Or the relationship is not going to last…
    Good sex is like communicationn, soo needed. Everything has to be a good fit. Relationship lacking in one area or another spells demise. Those relationships that last, have all components, and still there mmight be complications, If ur already starting out loving everything about them accept sex. RED FLAGS!!!

  198. I say if everything else is great then the two of you are close enough where you can talk about the sex and do things to make it better. Toys, movies, outfits, music…..Whatever the two of you feel it takes to make the sex better

  199. @Tha Chairmen i’m with you on that 1 bro….I think it’s more of a pain for the women in this case but you didn’t hear that from me LOL j/k CHURCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  200. MY QUESTION IS THO why do men hateeeeee admitting when they have a problem in that dept??? I mean communication is the key..i have been in this situation once and everytime i tried to approach the issue he would either A.deny there was a problem B.make a joke about it C. tell me he could do other things to get me where i needed to get..to make a long story short i am a very sexual person so ummm i aint gonna lie i have to have it..so it did create problems..It got better and we’re not together nemore but not due to that..

  201. If you truly have love for the person and everything is working in the relationship then you don’t give up. You tell them in honesty how you feel, let them know you aren’t being pleased and share what does please you. If it is truly that type of love, the other person wont hesitate to try to bring you to full pleasure. You have to be patient and work on it until you both get it right. In honesty, its not going to be easy, egos are going to be hurt and there is going to be a lot of frustration, but hopefully love will outweigh the bad until the good comes. It may or may not, because at the end, we are human. No love is perfect or untested, there is always something that must be worked on, in this case it is the sex factor. You just have to ask yourself if being with the possible love of your life more important than being pleased(for the moment)?

  202. Sex is only one part of what a relationship is based on n like any REAl relationship you work at whatever the problem is so that it gets better…….i’ve fortunately never been in that situation but if i did my man and i would have to have a serious talk n maybe get some books and videos for help. Exhaust all options then if u still have a problem to no avail jus leave them or cheat. j/k bout d last prt 🙂

  203. JUST BE FRIENDS!! If you don’t want to take the time to teach.

    I think that most people don’t know what good sex is. If you don’t know your body, don’t ask how the other feels (and they be honest about that), or don’t stop fakein it, then you will never know good sex! It’s give and receive.

  204. MAN JD THIS ONE IS HARD CAUSE TO ME CAUSE SEX IS JUST SO DAMN IMPORTANT…BUT I THINK GOOD SEX CAN BE TAUGHT, ESPECIALLY SUCK’N DICK AND EAT THAT TWAT…AND GUYS USUALLY TEACH GIRLS HOW TO FUCK BUT I THIN IF THE SEX IS NOT GOOD, SOMEBODY GONNA END UP CHEATING SO I DONT KNOOOOWWWW!!!!!

  205. iv been in this situation b4 even tho it didnt last,i told him i wasnt happy and tried to tell him ways of pleasing me sexually but his pride got in the way and he start dogging me to the left around his friends witch i found funny bcuz he was the one with the little dick so.one day his crackin on me hard wit his boys so i put him out there like nigga i know u aint talking with ya lil dick ass oh he was heated lol he wanted to fight and everything.lol so every since then if a man cant satisfy me n bed we dont have a relationship unless im useing him for money or somthing not to sound like a gold digger but if i have to sacrifice my sexual needs then he’s gonna sacrifice sum cash lol.

  206. I had that problem, a girl said that I wasn’t hittin it right and as much as I loved her I went out and practiced and I came back and came with it!

  207. if the sex is f***ed up i would teach him/her how to f*** great nd if they r special ed in sex 101 i have to let them go im sorry

    Words of wisdom
    practice make perfect

  208. YOU JUST GOTTA KEEP BEATIN IT UP IN NEW POSITION AND GET USED TO IT UNTIL SHITS STARTS GETTIN GOOD…….IN MY EYS ITS THE SAME AS BEING A VIRGIN……VIRGIN SEX IS WACK BUT ONCE YOU KEEP TAPPIN DAT ASS IT STARTS GETTING INTERESTING!

  209. DAMN!!! JD done started something on global!!! I’ve been in the studio trying to get my stuff together and just took a break and read all of this!!! Yall are going in!!!

    I think sex is going to be more important to the man then to the woman. Women are somehow made to be able to put up with a man’s short comings then we as men are. Well maybe the old school women. How many women do yall know that have put up with a tired ass man that has done her wrong time and time again? I think if the man is a provider and treats the woman well the woman will stay with him even if the sex is bad, BUT if the woman is just perfect but the sex is BAD, THE MAN IS CHEATING!!! It’s a double standard but it is what it is. It’s like two brothers sleeping in the same room, one is going to have to sleep on the floor, while two sisters can sleep in the same bed.

    Personally I have never had that problem because if the sex was bad I lose interest fast. These freaky ass women in Atlanta got me crazy. My expectations are high!!

    Yo JD now that you got this poppin where the “I’m a Lifer T Shirts?”

  210. Sex is just one part of the relationship. And if he is worth more to you than just sex then you can stand to teach him a few things and still be in a great relationship.

  211. If the relationship is good.. and ur in love with that person. You have too take the time to teach the person you LOVE some new stuff… There is more to sex than just plain ol missionary. You gotta get NASSSSSTY with it…. In due time… the sex will be betta… and u’ll live happily eva after!

  212. I was wondering where you were @Spock!!!!!.,.,Good 2 see you fam!!!:):)

  213. @ the_truth
    Man I was in the lab all day. This damn Reason 4 along with Sonar 8 along with Vista 64 and Protools is killing me!! Bill Gates need to do something. But I got a banger with the hook… At the end of the day, you still got to cut on the old MPC!!

  214. @Spock

    LMAO!!!.,Thats wassup.,.,keep grindin!!!!.,Cant w8 to hear your work.,my girls and I are N Vegas for the weekend.,JD party was crackn last night.,I was still drunk when I woke up at NOON!!!.,.,LOL.,.,Gotta Luv Vegas.,Im bout to hit the casino now!!! Keep workin’ hard!! Much Luv and Success 2 U:)

  215. JD LET ME START BY SAYING A GREAT QUESTION. I LOVE THIS QUESTION BECAUSE IT COMES UP SO MUCH. IF YOU HAVE A GREAT BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND THAT WILLING TO GO TO THE ENDS OF THE WORLD FOR YOU, BUT THEY SEX IS NOT THE BEST, STAY WITH THEM. THE REASON I’M SAYING THIS IS BECAUSE THE OTHER PERSON MIGHT HAVE BEEN AROUND A LOT OF TIMES WHILE THEY GET WITH A WOMAN THAT HAVE NOT SLEPT WITHB THAT MANY PEOPLE AND DON’T KNOW EVERY TRICK IN THE BOOK TO DO. AND IF YOU LOVE THAT PERSON ENOUGH THEN YOU WILL TAKE THE TIME TO TEACH THAT PERSON HOW TO MAKE THE SEX BETTER LIKE SOMEONE SHOWED YOU. IF IT’S REALLY LOVE YOU SHOULD NOT LEAVE THAT PERSON FOR THAT BECAUSE TRUE LOVE IS HARD TO FIND AND ONCE THAT PERSON OUT YUR LIFE AND YOU TRY TO GET THEM BACK IT’S TOO LATE. MAN AND WOMAN THINK WITH YOUR HEART AND JUST YOUR PUSSY AND DICK ALL THE TIME. THAT’S THE MAIN REASON A LOT PEOPLE DON’T STAY TOGETHER BECAUSE THEY ARE THINKING WITH THE WRONG THING. THEN U GO TO SOMEBODY ELSE AND THE ONLY THING THAT THEY DOING FOR YOU IS GIVING YOU GOOD SEX. WATCH THE MOVIE “WHY DID I GET MARRIED”. THAT HAPPEN IN THAT MOVIE AND YOU SAW THAT HE TRIEDTO GET HIS WOMAN BACK AT THE END, BUT IT WAS TO LATE. OR BETTER LATE ASK A PERSON THAT BEEN WITH THEIR LOVER FOR OVER 20 YEARS AND THEY WILL TELL U THAT IT WAS NOT ALWAYS GREAT, BUT IT GOT THERE. I’M SORRY FOR THIS BEING SO LONG, BUT SOMEBODY NEEDED TO HER THIS.

    AGAIN THANK U JD FOR THE QUESTION. KEEP THEM COMING GIVING A CHANGE TO THINK ABOUT THINGS LIKE THAT. LOVE U

  216. HA This was definitely a great one, I must say. Yes, @trevor!! Hittin from the back solves ANY problem. lmao. Hell you can start from there really.

    Tell her move ya hips like this, let her kno you LOVE it and get her to do it when ya’ll in a diff position and BAM!! lol I swear erybody saying the same shit, but its all love tho. It gets interesting with each Comment.

    I’m LOVING this JD!!

  217. OK ..lets clarify something..usually from a female’s point of view the sex isnt good for a few reasons…either he isnt built that well(too small),either he cant get it up,comes way too fast,or cant keep it up, he may have no stamina, may not be freaky enough..or its just boring he doesnt know what he’s doing! I would rather deal with the LATTER because at least that can b fixed. Some ppl say u can deal with a guy with a little dick too cuz “iTS WHAT HE DOES WITH IT” “IT AINT THE SIZE OF THE SHIP ITS THE MOTION OF THE OCEAN” etc etc..now for me size=pleasure..i dont want the biggest dyck in the world but a nice size one is a plus…Most men that dont have size try to overcompensate with oral copulation which i love but then that can even be Overkill..Sometimes u may want that, sometimes the bullet can work and sometimes u just want some REAL nice dick and if u arent getting it in a relationship thats frustrating..For me AND DONT BE MAD if i found out that the dick is little from the start we may not go any further cuz its only disaster down the road…Lack of freakiness and boring sex can be fixed! Ucan tell him what u like, show him if u have to and suggest things that yall can do. Now my mind is open and i can only deal with an openminded guy but even then there are a couple things i just will not do! But i think also if ppl would concentrate on giving pleasure to the other person and not concentrate so much on their pleasure and if both participants have the same idea the sex would be mindblowing !Now when a guy doesnt have stamina or comes too fast that too can b fixed..They just have to learn how to pace themselves…NOW NOT GETTING OR KEEPING IT UP thats a real issue! Usually its either something psychological or physical that causes it..but MOST men with this problem have a problem admitting it..I dont what u can do about that but go to the Doctor and get it checked out…AND SPOCK U TRIPPING AINT THAT MANY WOMEN THAT ARE JUST GONNA DEAL WITH IT..BOTH WOMEN AND MEN NEED SEX AND SOME WOMEN MORE THAN A MAN..thats my two cents lol!

  218. The real question is what would those Ocean Fellas do? Especially Mr. J Austin. But on the real if you love this person and yall are both mature about it, you should explain what it is that is lacking and work on it. Who knows maybe the feeling is mutual from your partner.Communication is the key, without communication all parts of the relationship are doomed. I’d rather be in a relationship with a guy who is a “C” far as sex and treating me like a queen, then to be in a relationship with a guy who is a “A plus” and treats me like crap and beating me up.

  219. damn jd keep this shit up and put this on the new living the life please lmao

  220. i think there are ways around it…
    but u have to have a deep relationship && understanding with your partner..
    you can always make it work but its all about the delivery and how to tell the other person that the sex isnt necessarily up to par……
    once you do that then the fun part can begin…
    TRY NEW THINGS!! experiment!!!!!!! lol… movies.. books.. toys.. new environments..
    whatever gets the blood pumping!!!

  221. @charloetta Dats whats up!!! LOL

  222. its a lot of shallow ass people on here that’s going to be looking for love the rest of their life. what the hell happened to commitment and comprise. Nobody is perfect…so if your man or woman wasn’t good in bed you would leave them???? that’s wack as all hell….put it like this..if you diggin somebody and they have everything you want/need out of that person..lets just for this example say..the sex is good..they care for you..take care of you..compassionate..love you more than anything in the world..but the only thing wrong is you don’t like the way they dress..they not popping tags like you are..don’t have the lastest shoes..shirts..jeans..whatever…would you leave they ass.or would you take them to the store and buy them some new shit and help them get their “swagga” right…………??? “it aint trickin’ if you got it”…right so boss up and head to the store..same damn thing with sex…….

  223. @ladyquest31

    finally someone who agrees with me thats how i feel its more to a relationship than just sex

  224. Thats when you say: “Can we just be friends?!”

  225. @Charloetta

    I hear ya girl!!

  226. JUST TELL THEM…Thats the problem with alot of relationships now…NO COMMUNICATION…tell ur partner what satisfies u and what youlike and dont like…if she aint arching her backright show her or he dont got the right stroke tell him…PBS…tell them what u want

  227. well I would have to say if you’ve been dating them for a minute and you finally decide to get into it. or you’ve been getting into it and they just aint getting it poppin’ in the bedroom, then I think some kinda DVDs needs to be watched or new things need to be tried. cos fair enough you have love, laughter and all that good stuff but you need goood sex tooo. I wouldnt say I would leave em’, but i would definatelly need for them to try harder to please me. Luckily i havent experienced such sadness yet.

  228. You be very very very patient with your partner and during those good times you talk about it and when you get in the bedroom you take your time and “teach” him/her how to make you feel good (i.e. lick here, stroke there, smack here, suck there…) it will take time to perfect but with patience you can definitely teach your partner how to make you feel good and make sure your doing the same for your mate.

  229. Run Forest Run!!!!!!! just kiddin. If he cant learn though, I gotta go cause I will not play with his emotions and cheat. I just know I NEED to cut folks that play with my emotions!!!!!!!

  230. I’M CELIBAC NOW SINCE I WAS 18, I JUST TURN 21 AT AUGUST 19, AND I HAVEN’T HAD A BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG ASS TIME. I REALLY NEVER HAD A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP OR A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. EVERY FUCKING TIME I MEET A NIGGER, THEY ALWAYS ASK ME TO SUCK THEIR DICK, AND I JUST MET THE NIGGA. WTF! EVERY GUY SAID THEY WANT ME TO SUCK THEIR DICK, ISN’T THAT SHIT FUNNY??? LOL! YEAH FOR SOME REASON ALL GUYS ACT THE SAME, TALK THE SAME, AND THINK THE SAME. WHEN IT COMES TO ENTERCOURSE, THAT’S LIKE SECOND IN THEIR MIND, THEIR DICK IS WHAT’S KILLING THEM THE MOST BECAUSE THEY WANT THAT SUCTION RIGHT NOW, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO COMMITING, HE WON’T FUCKING COMMIT AND SHIT, WHAT THE FUCK MAN. LOL! IT REALLY PISSES ME OFF!!! BUT YEAH, I HATE TO SAY IT, BUT I’M STILL A VIRGIN, THE ONLY THING I DONE WAS SUCK ONE NIGGA’S DICK AND I REGRET IT SO MUCH, I WAS EVEN STUPID ENOUGH TO SOLLOW THE SPERM, IT TASTED LIKE SALTY MEYO. TO ALL THE GIRLS ON HERE, PLEASE WAIT UNTIL YA MARRIED TO HAVE SEX, LIKE FIND THAT SPECIAL GUY FIRST THAT WOULD RESPECT YOU AND YOUR CHOOSES. TO BE HONEST, NONE OF YA GIRLS ON HERE WON’T LAST LONG WITH A MAN OR EVEN HAVE A LONG TERM MARRIAGE IN THE FUTURE BECAUSE OF TODAY’S CHOOSES AND THE CHOOSES YA MAKE FOR YA SELFS TO GET A MAN TO ATTRACT ATTENTION. MY ADVICE IS TO TAKE IT SLOW, BECOME FRIENDS FIRST SO THAT THE FRIENDSHIP CAN GROW, AND THAN LATER IN YEARS IT CAN BECOME SERIOUS. ONCE IT BECOMES SERIOUS, THAT’S IT! THAT’S HOW MY MOM AND DAD IS STILL WITH EACHOTHER. THEY BEEN BEST FRIENDS FOR 6 YEARS BEFORE THEY GOT SERIOUS. MY PARENTS ARE A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. MY DAD AND MOM PLAYS BASKETBALL WITH EACHOTHER, THEY HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON.. SHIT. LOL

  231. I’M CELIBAC NOW SINCE I WAS 18, I JUST TURN 21 ON AUGUST 19, AND I HAVEN’T HAD A BOYFRIEND FOR A LONG ASS TIME. I REALLY NEVER HAD A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP OR A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. EVERY FUCKING TIME I MEET A NIGGA, THEY ALWAYS ASK ME TO SUCK THEIR DICK, AND I JUST MET THE NIGGA. WTF! EVERY GUY SAID THEY WANT ME TO SUCK THEIR DICK, ISN’T THAT SHIT FUNNY??? LOL! YEAH FOR SOME REASON ALL GUYS ACT THE SAME, TALK THE SAME, AND THINK THE SAME. WHEN IT COMES TO ENTERCOURSE, THAT’S LIKE SECOND IN THEIR MIND, THEIR DICK IS WHAT’S KILLING THEM THE MOST BECAUSE THEY WANT THAT SUCTION RIGHT NOW, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO COMMITING, HE WON’T FUCKING COMMIT AND SHIT, WHAT THE FUCK MAN. LOL! IT REALLY PISSES ME OFF!!! BUT YEAH, I HATE TO SAY IT, BUT I’M STILL A VIRGIN, THE ONLY THING I DONE WAS SUCK ONE NIGGA’S DICK AND I REGRET IT SO MUCH, I WAS EVEN STUPID ENOUGH TO SOLLOW THE SPERM, IT TASTED LIKE SALTY MEYO. TO ALL THE GIRLS ON HERE, PLEASE WAIT UNTIL YA MARRIED TO HAVE SEX, LIKE FIND THAT SPECIAL GUY FIRST THAT WOULD RESPECT YOU AND YOUR CHOOSES. TO BE HONEST, NONE OF YA GIRLS ON HERE WON’T LAST LONG WITH A MAN OR EVEN HAVE A LONG TERM MARRIAGE IN THE FUTURE BECAUSE OF TODAY’S CHOOSES AND THE CHOOSES YA MAKE FOR YA SELFS TO GET A MAN TO ATTRACT ATTENTION. MY ADVICE IS TO TAKE IT SLOW, BECOME FRIENDS FIRST SO THAT THE FRIENDSHIP CAN GROW, AND THAN LATER IN YEARS IT CAN BECOME SERIOUS. ONCE IT BECOMES SERIOUS, THAT’S IT! THAT’S HOW MY MOM AND DAD IS STILL WITH EACHOTHER. THEY BEEN BEST FRIENDS FOR 6 YEARS BEFORE THEY GOT SERIOUS. MY PARENTS ARE A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. MY DAD AND MOM PLAYS BASKETBALL WITH EACHOTHER, THEY HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON.. SHIT. LOL

  232. I WOULDN’T SAY MY PARENTS HAD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP DURING THE TIME MY MOM AND DAD WAS FINICALLY UNSTABLE, THAT EVERYTHING WAS TAKING AWAY FROM US, THAT WE END UP POOR FOR QUITE SOME TIME. EVEN THOUGH MY MOM WAS A VICTIM OF DEMESTIC ABUSE, MY DAD REALISE THAT HIS ANGER WON’T GET YOU ANYWHERE. MY PARENTS WORK SHTI OUT. SOMETIMES GUYS CAN BE HARD HEADED, BUT ONCE THEY GONE TOO FAR, THEY DESIDE TO CHANGE THEIR WAYS. EVERY GUY AND GIRL HAVE TO LEARN FROM THEIR MISTAKES, AND TO TAKE MORE RESPONISIBLITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS. THAT’S HOW PEOPLE GROW TO BEING MATURE, NOT IMMATURE. BUT YEAH, NOW MY PARENTS ARE STRONGER THAN EVER. THEY LOVE EACHOTHER UNCONDITIONALLY EVEN THOUGH THEY MIGHT ANGRY FOR STUPID SHIT SOMETIMES.

  233. Sex begins in the mind .. if your partner is new and was in previous relationship then believe his/her midn isn’t on you and they are comparing …if the sex isn’t good it’s about you .. what you bringing to the table and what you feeling. Sex is a particpation sport a relationship has to be a connection and chemistry .. this is the bonus phase of the relationship. If it isn’t popping or working it’s because you aren’t feeling them and they aren’t feeling you. and you have attempted to force a round whole into a square peg.

    Let it go .. be friends .. if that is what you where. If not, then it’s about sexual attraction and the mental connection. it always comes back to chemistry. Loving everything about a person except sex is not shallow it just means you aren’t feeling them in that direction. You weren’t meant to have that type of relationship and forcing it or trying new things won’t make it happen. You have to realise that sex is more mental than physical for a woman. She has to be IN love with you and feeling you. If not then she is just going through the motions. The sex can’t be forced. It must be natural or it shouldn’t happen cause you ruing a good friendship.

  234. I use to date a guy who was out-of this-world. He had swagger for years. We use to walk down the street and other women would whistle. Our chemistry was off the scale. The sex was not good, but it didn’t matter..everything was! Our connection was so strong that it did’nt even matter…I still consider him my One in a life time thing!

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